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When my daghter was a baby the csa tracked him down but he wasnt working so didnt have to pay anything which i felt was wrong!
Even £2 a week would remind him of his responsability..

I agree , Dawn , daughter`s ex has another child which my daughter was informed about by Csa -think in error, Ros xx

I have spoken to my daughter about the DNA test and been completely honest about everything and I have to say she took it very well indeed! She doesnt seem to be upset or dissapointed at all.
Maybe she just needed to satisfy her curiosity!
With any luck I wont hear from him again

I don't understand why he wouldn't just talk to her on the phone himself, even if he didn't want her coming round until he's settled. It's blatantly a lie or he wouldn't have got his girlfriend pregnant, would he?! I can't understand the girlfriend wanting him, to be honest, since she's obviously seen how he treats the daughter he already has. Give him his DNA test and then get what you can out of the coward. He obviously is a coward or he'd be talking to your daughter himself. Next time hand the phone to her and tell him to explain for himself why he isn't going to see her yet. You'll likely have a lot of tears to cry but it might save years of him taking her for a mug.

This all makes me so annoyed because my brother would dearly love to see more of his kids and has been blocked so much over the years.

youve been honest with her this far find a way of explaining the conversation how it is,
im sure she will see him for what he is, she sounds a very clever girl, and trust me on one thing these 15 year olds are very mature in their heads, they know wots wot and who to stand by given the info
shes got you and knows that, dont let her think in her own head hes something he clearly aint,
he sounds nasty piece of work

well I have been in contact with his sister and she says she agrees with her brother and reckons hes a proud man and doesnt want to meet his daughter with no money in his pocket! She says he has never forgotten his daughter and that I shouldnt form oppinions of him as I dont know him, and that it has to be on his terms and not me calling all the shots so I dont really know what to think of that.
What do you think? Honest oppinions please I can accept being wrong!

he sounds a waste of space to me

Tell him to "Put up or Shut up" and take a long walk off a short Plank.This is no doubt upsetting both of you and you seem to have managed without him quite well and do not need this hassle in your lives.As for his Sister,what help has she been to you?.just tell her to keep out of it as its nothing to do with her. Best Wishes.**M**.

I gave the other members of the family the opportunity to have contact but that was the reply (last post from me) so it seems they are all in agreence with him...

its a shame but does your daughter realy want to be associated with them

well she hasnt mentioned it for a few days now (busy with friends and things 15 year olds do) whatever that may be....so im hopefully she wont bother any more, for a while anyway, and we can carry on as we were just me and her, cos we were doing fine by ourselves

i'm sure you are lets hope she forgets about it at least for now

Glad your daughter doesn't seem too stressed about it all. As others have said, maybe now time to just let things lie and see what happens later, if anything.
I am sure things will get back to the way they were before but now your girl knows you aren't keeping anything from her and have done what you can.
Good luck to you both,
Lizx