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Thanks Bev I have reached a point where I started doubting myself. I can look back now and I know I wasn't perfect but I did very few things wrong and when I did do wrong I was always very sorry. I know deep down, that my mother's anger and hurt is NOTHING to do with my behaviour. She's angry at my dad and because she can't hurt him she's hurting me instead. When I told her about the new business all she did was bring up the negative points and point out that it probably wouldn't do very well. With so much going on in my life I don't need my mother to be pessimistic. Sorry for ranting, it's just I'm here alone and if i don't get it off my chest I will just get more and more upset. Becx

I don t know you Bec but sounds to me by reading your message that your mum seeing that programme brought back alot of memories, no bodies perfect, and like a few have sad maybe she was having a bad day or maybe she s depressed. Seems to me you have eknowledged you had faults and made mistakes but have you told your mum this? Maybe send her a bunch of flowers saying something small like 'I was once a thorn and am now a rose' type of thing, let her know you have come out the other side because she was always there to pick the pieces up, sounds like your mum is now wanting some worth,maybe she feels it is her fault you were unruly as a child, depression makes you think alsorts, hope this is of some help and that I haven t affended you. Penny

Thanks Peta! It does help to get other perspectives and advice. A big MWAH to you all! love becx

Oh Honey, I have only just seen this as I haven't been on the boards for a couple of days. I am so sorry that you are going through a tough time with your mum. Especially after you gave all those lovely hugs to my mum on Saturday. Hope things are getting sorted. Life's too short. Big hugs Jack xx

Thanks Jack!!! My arms are still hurting but it's a great reminder of how lovely it was hugging your mum! becx

Hi Bec, Just saw your thread. Have you sorted things out with your Mum yet? I'm very close to my Dad, but he does this to me too. I was not great as a teen, but nowhere near as bad as the brat camp kids. But my Dad still loves to bring it up saying really hurtful things, then saying he was 'only joking'. He really upset me by bringing round my old (terrible) school reports to show me--I can't imagine why on earth he would think I would want to see them, as they were full of horrible comments about what a waster I was and how I'd never amount to anything. I left that school, went on to qualify as a nursery nurse and, in my job as nanny, raised 4 beautiful smart courteous children, I spent 2 years helping Dad care for Mam til she died, and helped him through his grief, yet he chooses to remember a couple of years when I was a bit rebellious! The last time he brought it up, I told him 'What a shame that, of all the things I have done and all the things I have overcome, you still can't get past something which happened 20 years ago!' When he said 'I'm only joking! I said 'Well you seem to be the only one who finds it funny, so get over it!' Might be worth trying this tack with your Mum as my Dad hasn't raised it since! Sal.x