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Thanks Glenys and Jan I know we're all human and all make mistakes but I wish she'd stop punishing for my dad's actions... Maybe one day? becx

Tell her you are who you are because of your parents see how she likes that, tell you what, i'll be your second mum(only hear to cheer you up) hows that. Jan

Bec Mega ((((hugs)))) Yvette

I was lucky and had a mum in a million ,but if she had ever said anything like that to me i would have been devestated too. Reading between the lines i think your mum is feeling really down and is hitting out ,and you are first in line,She will more than likely calm down by tomorrow and say she is sorry..cheer up ,im sure she did'nt really mean it. As you can see ,you have people who think a lot of you and you are not alone at all.Fred.ptfg.&a&g&s.

Thanks fred! And Yvette <<<<<<HUGS>>>>>> thats for you! As for you Jan - I'd LOVE you to be a surrogate mother but you'll have to share me with Daisy? love becx

Thats fine babe, Shout when you need me As long as it's not mummy eh Jan 3rd mum

I'm a very lucky young lady! Things might not be great with my real mother but I have met so many lovely people on here who look after me! Thanks guys! love becx P.S. My baby (almost 16yrs old) brother is here now and he's making me laugh :-)

Thats more like it, Can see your smile coming through, Jan

Hi Bec, Sorry that you have been upset. I hope that things get sorted. (((hugs))) luv Jill xx

Becs You are lovely. (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))) Perhaps your Mum was having 'a feeling sorry for herself day'. I have them sometimes and say things I shouldn't. Always regret it later but the damage is done. Sure she will be in touch soon full of remorse. Jean x.

oh bec! i cant imagine any mother saying that sort of thing to their daughter. i certainly wouldnt say it to mine. perhaps shes had a bad day hun.lets hope so eh? you could always be my daughter lol limmie would love a sister and you are both the same age...ooh twins!! lol love and a big hug susie xx

Becs.... Auntie Pink will go and bash her for you!! :O) Seriously babe, Mum's have bad days too.... you should see what text messages my Ma sends me and I still get upset and I'm 40 in August!!! :O)

What an awful thing to happen. I am so sorry. Send you lots of positive thoughts, take care Joy

Hugs to you Beck Pam

Becs, I am so sorry you do not get on with your Mum. My own Mum has given me my fair share of grief too, so I know how you feel. (((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Liz x

Dear Becs, I can't imagine ever saying anything like that to my daughter but I don't know what your mum has gone through in life or what her problems are to make her hit out like that. Having met you I think you are lovely and you can be my daughter anytime. I hope you get it sorted with your mum and you can be friends. Take care, Jacky xxx

Jacky, Lizloojay, Pamela, Joy, Pink Diana, Susie, Jill, Jean - thank you for your kind words. She's text me again and now she seems sad rather than spiteful but I get upset too. I may be an adult (just) but I can't keep turning the other cheek, it's slowly breaking me down. Thank you again, love becx

did i tell you what my mum said to me the morning of the meet? She said it to get a reaction out of me, OMG did she get a reaction all right...the one and only time i have screamed at her...they say awful and dreadfulk things babe, but she will always love and care for you. The best form of self defence is attack...it sounds like she feels low and maybe not needed by you anymore...being not needed is probably making her wonder why so she has attacked. My mum said to me on saturday morning that all she wants to do is make me hurt the way she is hurting (after she came out with something awful) It was a horrible thing to say...but i know she didnt mean it. I think im rambling here and prob not helping at all...but i love ya hun and im always here for you! xxxx

Thanks Steedie Am just wondering what's going to go wrong next :-(

Bec I know what you mean about turning the other cheek, I have done that with my mother more than once, now because of some thing that happened, I might add that she didn't even tell me about it, she just decided not to speak to me ever again, when several months had passed and I called her, not knowing that she wasn't speaking to me she told me what I was supposed to have done, shocked that she didn't ask me if it was true or not, I tried several times to put things right, but now have given up, even when her husband called from the pub one night to tell me my mother was not getting any younger and that I should call her, that made me see red, I have called several times but she won't call me, and it is your falt that she is no longer speaking to me, so tell her the truth and shame the devil, well he hasn't and she still doesn't call, so as you can see we chose our friends but are stuck with our relations...but to what I have seen on here I would class you as a friend any day so chin up Bec, you might have been a little terror, but you have turned out pretty well from where I am sitting, if your mother can't see that then I feel sorry for her she is missing out on one hell of a daughter. :))) Bev