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i cant write 4 crying.. i have just found out my man of 8 years has been cheating.. used his phone 10 mins ago and found texts... i'm in bits,pls helpxx

Oh Darling, are you alone? What can we do? Do you want to phone? Have you got family anbd friends to be with tomorrow? Suzanne Im here honey if you need someone. Suzanne

hes in bed. im on my ownx

What can i do Hays, Im too far away to come to you (London). Do you want to talk on the phone? Have you got anyone you can go to to be with? You need to let it sink in before you 'discuss' it with him. Its good hes in bed it gives you a little time. Ive been there myself.. no consolation, its a lonely thing to have to go through but know that there is help and support and you make use of it. Suzanne

I'm so sorry. Suzanne is right - before you say anything to him you need to sort out in your head what you want to say. Is there no one near you that you can talk to? Do you have a friend who lives nearby that you can talk to today? Please think hard before you say or do anything you can't take back. Gwynne

>>>>>>>>>HUGS<<<<<<<<<<

so sorry to hear this we are all here for you been there myself so i know what you are going through dont know what else to say. try and be strong and have it out with him thoughts and prayers with you tina x

hope you will be ok, thinking of you x

I'm so sorry to hear this. Please take time to get over the shock so you can think more clearly. We're all here for you. Love and hugs Anne ((((((( ))))))

If there is anything I can do to help you let me know,in the meantime I'm sending hugs ((((((HUGS)))))) and love and support.xxx P.S. I live in Somerset is it anywhere near you ?

Thank you all so so much for your pm's and messages. I am now at mums,it got very out of hand last night. He says its my fault,as i dont show him enough attention. I still can't stop crying,fell so sick to the pit of my tummy,had no sleep at all. We have a 3yr old boy and my life has been ripped apart,what do i do now,where do i go from here..i keep reading the texts over and over in my head.

hi babe ,oh love,thats awfull.pm me if you need to ,hugs joyxxxxxx

hays ,just reading your replies ,omg what lovely people,you have friends babe.we,ll walk this one with ya.god im in tears .xxxxxxxxhugs joy

Oh Hays dont let him do that.... he cant handle his own guilt so he is trying to put it onto you. Its his inability to handle the guilt that makes him say that. In no way are you responsible for his behavour!!!!!! When my ex did it to me I just ran away! Back to my MUMS and eventually got my own place BUT....... there isnt a day goes by that I regret my actions. We all need someone, and you have a son who needs his father. I cant tell you what to do only what I wish I had done. Talk to him if he will talk to you (Which mine never would - one of the problems that made him do it in the first place). Only you can decide what to do but advice from me would be to see if there is anything worth saving and maybe you can both get a better understanding of each other. (Be angry first though hun.... you deserve that for what he has done!) All my heartfelt Love and best wishes. Suzanne XX

omg, do you need me to call you? Sweetheart im so sorry, are you on your own?xxx Sorry just read the rest of the thread, i am so so sorry, i cant imagine for a second how your feeling. Are you staying with your mum?? sending you lots of hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

the first thing they do is blame some one else it is not your fault. take care, and love to you xx

Thinking of you xx

Sorry hays to be reading this, but look at suzanne's advice, things do go wrong but perhaps they can be sorted. Love to you. Carolx

He doesn't think he loves me anymore. Also he said if he was that worried that i would find out,he would have deleted the messages... I don't know what to do,i feel so sick..

I do sympathise with you greatly.. been in the same situation... but DON'T let him blame you!! I got the 'blame' from my ex but I was too strong for him to take control over me... he has cheated and it is HIS fault!! It is not your fault if he can't keep it in his pants!! Seek out your friends who will support you at this time.... You have 'friends' on here and most of us will chat to you anytime you feel like it.... Much love and take care...Anne xxx