General Chat

Oh Caz, I'm so sorry for you all.
There but for the grace of God go I - Neither of my children ever got into trouble, thank heavens.

However, I know of others that haven't been so lucky.
We have a lad of 18 working for us. He has been written off by everyone - even his father seems to have little time for him. Since the age of 13 he has been in and out of trouble - mostly car theft and "joy-riding" (hate the term - it's anything but joyful if there's an accident and someone is hurt). You will probably know the punishments he has received.
We took a chance on him because his father asked us to but I must say I had little hope.
Since last August he has not been late for work even once. He has had a week off because of illness but phoned and kept us informed - more than some of the others have done! The police are regular customers - and one asked us if we "had a problem with that one". We told him the truth - the boy has been an excellent employee.
He's not been in trouble in the last year and the police no longer lift him every time a car goes missing. That said - their job is a lot easier now as there's no doubt he had been a problem!!

Didn't mean to go on and on and on!! Your son will come good and hopefully the police will lay off him.

If it was my son I would definitely complain but I fully understand your trepidation.

Caz, only just read this.

As the mother of an 18-year-old boy, I would be absolutely fuming if he was treated in that way by the police, regardless of any past history.

I can also understand how this could knock your boy's confidence, they should be supporting him in his endeavours to get his life on track, not slapping him down.

You complain Caz, you have 100% grounds for doing so, and I hope somebody throws the book at those who left him cold, hungry and thirsty.

Love and hugs
Mandy xx

I am so sorry to hear what happened to your poor son, But i agree with everyone one put in an official complaint.
((((((hugs))))))
Lisa xx

Hi Caz - Just read this. So sorry to hear the shock and stress you and your family have experienced.

Wondered if it was worth contacting your MP to take up your complaint. Or the Borough Councillor who sits on police committee etc? When I worked for Local Gov. any kind of complaint coming from MP or Councillor had to be given priority and careful response.

All the best. Liz

Caz I read a bit of your thread earlier - I admit to not reading it all - but wish you a hug x

Just seen this Caz...what an awful thing to happen to your son, especially when he had got his act together......it makes you think....why bother.....please show him we all support him and are pleased that he has done so well.....

sorry to hear of your troubles Caz but as I also have a 17 year old son I have ound it quite interesting to read all of the replies. So far my son has not been in any trouble that I know of but my 2 older girls have both caused the police to visit our house while they were growing up. So thank you for putting this thread up. Good luck with y our complaints and I do hope he follows through with his army ambitions.
Woody, I think the term joyriding has now become TWOCing or TWOCers.
Taking without consent.
Seems more appropriate than joyriding.
Good luck Caz.
GLoria

hi Caz
i know how you feel something happen the same with one of my sons the police came took him away said he had robbed supermarket.but he was watching the fireman putting out afire in one of the niebours houses and all the people in the street told the police this and they let him go but its upsetting for the family and the young man in question,hope your son and you will be ok but do conplain
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))to you all
joycexx

Hi Caz.

Just read your msg.

I to have a son who will be 20 on Thursday.
He was not the easiest child growing up as he had a few problems A D H D, Behavourial disorder , Hyperactivity, and Torrettes Syndrome, i went through hell with him growing up but like Josh Chris has turned his life around and got a job and a flat of his own a nice girlfriend and is happy now but i have been through what you have just gone through my house turned upside down and left for me to clear up another case of mistaken identity, but it was a family member who when got caught said his name was chris in fact it was his cousin and they look very much alike as there is strong family genes. Hence to say i complained and both me and my son got an apology from the police. So Caz chin up and all will be ok and tell Josh to keep his spirits up and i hope you are both okay. My thoughts are with you Pauline in Ipswich xxxxx.

Thank you all,

Josh got up this morning and went to work, on his way out I said ' how do you feel?'

He replied ' I've just got to get over it havent I, Mum,'

Caz xxx

Hi Caz,

Sorry I couldn't offer support on the thread last night, headache was thumping so in bed, feeling like h*ll. hence the pm.

I hope you feel less 'hot under the collar' today.

Just let me know if you want help with this.

Love

Sue xx