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I think I can understand why someone would opt for an abortion then. It's good that she and her son are doing so well as you said it was a traumatic time. :-)

Lucia, When I was in my teens and my early twenties I had a very black and white way of looking at things like I think you do now. As the years have passed (not that many) the world tends to turn grey instead. At the end of the day whatever I think doesn't work for everybody and their individual circumstances. I try to live my life as responsibly as possible while recognising that I don't always get it right. and learn by my mistakes. I think that is as much as you can ask anybody to do.

Hi Pippa, yes that is a fair point. Lots of people have said that. I'm sure that I'll change my views when I've had more life experience. But these are my views just now and not anyone elses. I'm quite proud to say I have my own views and don't like to be influenced too much by other people lol :-)

still no comment!

oh Jill....puleaassee :-)

Very wise Jill, my only comment is, don't judge anyone else , anyone untill you have turned all your own corners. No one knows what is ahead of them or their own family. XX

so true Lemon but I wasn't trying to judge anyone. I hope it didn't look like that. :-( and by no means am I trying to inflict my own views on others - that's why I'm interested in everyone else's opinion.

absolutely Lemon!!! so I remain with no comment but do have my own views ....

I better delete this thread then I guess

Hi Lucia, I hope there's room for another opinion here. What a wonderful debate you started. Lots of people have raised some very interesting points. My own view is that this is another issue that is never black or white except maybe for the individual talking at the time. One can only really know what is best for oneself and that can change over time. Different people have different beliefs regarding when life truly begins also, and each is entitled to live their lives with regard to those beliefs (within reason - and there's another debate for you!). So - to get to what I'm really trying to say - I think that everyone should have the choice. The health of the mother isn't the only factor to be considered. Her ability to be a parent is also a factor and adoption isn't always a viable proposition. As for parents of young girls always being informed - what if her father or another close family member is the father of her baby? I've known a few girls who would be in grave physical danger if their parents knew they were pregnant, for that and other reasons. If a young girl is pregnant, I think an adult whom she trusts should be involved in the decision to have an abortion, but I think an adult of her choice, not necessarily a parent. It's a VERY complicated issue as the varied responses have suggested. I'm sure you'll find, as I have, that life moulds and shapes your views and responses to things. It's one of the things that makes this existence so interesting! Felicity

Thanks Felicity, yes I'll agree with you about parent's right to know about abortion (oh dear changing my views - not supposed to do that lol) :-)

Lucia, l've been off the site for a few months and l can't believe how confident you have become, l mean that in a postive way. I would like to know at any age if my daughter or son's partner where to have an abortion, l hope it never happens to me tho'. I don't agree with it personally but l respect the rights of the individual. Anne