General Chat

The mail belongs to whoevers name is on the envelope we often get mail for the people round the corner in some new houses,we alway put it throu their letterbox unopened,as i would wish them to do for us if it happened

Theoretically i would take it round and give it to the neighbour, as i would hope my neighbours would do if they received some of my post, BUT to be honest,I dont even look at the name on the front of my mail before i rip it open.If it comes through my door,i would expect it to belong to me or my other half. If i had opened something and found it did not belong to me,i would take it round and apologise for opening it. Anna

morfydd-that doesnt mean its legal just becauase the postie stood there and watched-believe me IT IS NOT LEGAL.

tis ok Paul - no sign of this baby yet???? maybe we should get the postie to deliver it lol Another thing that really cheesed me off about the whole situation is that step d felt that her mothers side of the family had been snubbing her - so I really felt it for her. just let this couple try and borrow as much as a grain of sugar in future! just glad that Paul is back at work after his hols - or there could have been bloodshed!

You are indeed correct Alter - however, can I add in a senario to that... I was living in a student house a few years ago. There were 3 of us there, and all received our mail. However, we also received tons of junk mail for people who had previously lived at the house. Most of it we just chucked out. At some point during the year, we started getting bills for the gas and electric addressed to someone else. When a red letter bill came, I decided to open it to find out why it was coming to my house. I'm glad I did because a bloke from the company decided to forge some sales targets and sign us up without consent. Without opening the letter, I wouldn't have known any of this, and might've had my supplies cut off. Thankfully, they credited me with 3 months free lol

the thing is at christmas they were BOTH working and earning good money . eeeeh - theres nowt as queer as folk. We just dont like seeing people struggle and will do anything to help them. Usually not cash (as we are on a tight budget) but with bags of food as I bulk buy and always have the large freezer full.

I think I agree with Eleanor. If this is not the first time something like this has happened, and if it could happen again, it would be best to 'nip it in the bud' so to speak. If they hadn't 'decided' to bring it round, you might never have known.

If I was the only one living in a house and the post came I would just open the lot. I don't really look at the name before I open it as some one has already said, if it's coming through my door then I assume its for me. Theres no point getting snotty about an opened in error letter as long as they are honest about it, it's easily done. Some people these days get far too caught up in silly arguments with neighbours because of things like this. Sx

I am not arguing with my neighbour - and YES letters can and do get opened in error BUT most people are honest. What I detest is people stealing from me and mine I am NOT being snotty - would YOU be pleased if your things were being stolen?

Sheila, Are you saying that an item of jewellery and a voucher were delivered to your neighbour by mistake, and they have kept it? That is theft surely? Do you have any proof? Liz

yup - thats about the size of it Liz.

In that case it is a matter for the police. Liz

I know - but they are just a young couple with a little one of their own and have their lives ahead of them I like to think of myself as a good neighbour but in future there is no way I will lift a finger to help them I dont think thatI am being harsh or snotty - some people just dont deserve help

You could go round and talk to them face to face and make it quite clear that you know what they have taken, and ask them what they think you should do. You never know, they may offer to repay your step-daughter. Btw, loved seeing you on telly lol Liz

I would definitely take wrongly delivered mail to whoever it was meant for. I've even been two streets away to do it but I have very genuinely opened mail in error. If you've got a bundle of letters, which you presume to have been correctly delivered to you, you don't always check the name of the addressee before opening, so I have to say CB, I would have been as upset as your neighbour was if my note of apology met with the same reaction. I've been glad that someone took the trouble to see that I got wrongly delivered mail in the past and yes the odd 'oops sorry' note too. That said, if a package, bulky or birthday card type envelope arrived that was unexpected, I probably would check. Hope you get it sorted Sheila. Mags xx

When I said - where is the envelope and thank goodness for mail tracking (there wasnt on this item) she went red and scuttled off. I try to see the good in people and even forgive them for crossing me a couple of times - but then I have to draw the line. And using their little one to try and get round me (cos I dont see my little Rachel often and Isobel never) isnt going to work anymore. It all just makes me feel very sad.

The postman used to post next doors mail through my letter box all of the time. I just used to shove it through their letter box when I picked it up. I once opened one by mistake (didn't read past the Dear Mr whatever he was called) so I took it round and knocked on the door and apologised. Jack x

Well Sheila. If I noticed and the postie was still in the street, I would give him a shout and call him back. If I missed him, and I noticed. I would pop it in the letter box. If I did not notice, and had opened it (which I did once) I would knock on the door and apologies. BUT on the ocassion that tha happened to me, the neighbour was screaming at me for an hour!!! Deanna X

I did not realise that you were losing mail Sheila. If that was happening to me I'd speak to the postie. First. Then see what happens after that. Deanna X

Deanna - its in the hands of Royal Mail investigators now. They said even if it was wrong house number it was addressed to US