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My dad said goodbye to us today for the last time... He has been given just days to live. Now he has finally seen my brother, and my sister and I again, he thinks tonight would be a good night to die...(can't fight any more - he said) He has spent the past couple of months preparing us for his end, and now it has come, I feel devestated. We are losing the most inspirational, loving, kind, funny and wonderful person you could wish to meet. How will I get through this??? He is being robbed of life, and all the plans he had for his retirement... Just knowing someone out there is listening, and understanding will help me get through tonight. xxx Love you Dad, K xxx

Oh Kila I'm so very sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family. Jan xxx

All I can say is that I will think of you and your family in my prayers tonight. Kaye x

Oh Thanks Jan, Thanks Chris. I know your right, I have so many wonderful memories, my heart couldn't possibly stop beating if love was blood. Kila xxx

I am thinking of you and your family at this very sad time, sending lots of love and hugs your way. Marie x

Kila My heart goes out to you. I have been in the same position and it is very difficult! Anne xx

Kila I really don't know what to say! your dad sounds such a lovely person - will be thinking of you! Kaz

Kila, how sad I am for you and your family, and especially for your dad, who has had to face this difficult situation. I am glad he had you all to support him and you all had time to say what you wanted to say, and to declare and show your love for one another. It is so cruel when life takes our dreams and plans and cuts them short, and even more cruel when our loved ones have to suffer so much. Take comfort in the fact that you were able to spend time with your dad, talk with him, laught with him, cry with him, and remember the happy times. He will always be in your hearts and you will see little things in one another that remind you of your dad, for you are all a part of him and he of you. I hope your dad has a peaceful passing and there are loved ones waiting for him on the other side. You will all be together again in time, and your dad will always be your guardian angel. Thinking of you all, Liz

Thanks All, My dad is amazing... He has kept cheerful throughout his illness and if i could have half his strength of character i would be a much better person. Kila

Bless him - he sounds a lovely man and I am sure you all have a part of that strength and kindness in you too. Liz

Oh Kila My heart goes out to you. Your Father will always be with you as he is a part of you. Cherish the memories you have of him. Will be thinking of you and your family tonight.

Wow Liz, You know so much, thank you for what you said. Your right, plans have been cut short, and its so wrong. My dad is amazing, he is funny, and has strength that has surprised everyone. He is a great believer in the next life, and promised me today that he would be around me...pop in now and again as it were. I don't feel i have had enough time with in this life, and no matter how many memories i have can change that. I am Lucky to have family who share these same memories. Kila xxx

Bless you Kila, and your lovely Dad and all your family. I believe I can understand from my own experiences something of what you are feeling. It's so hard. You will all be in my prayers. Joy xx

Bless you Kila, Its hard, be brave and take comfort that your dad lives on in your heart, in your memories and in your genes. God bless you and your beloved Dad. Rosi

Kila, I had to watch my dad struggle with lung cancer in 1989/90 - he was 79 then. He wasn't the kind of man who would talk about things tho, I suppose he talked to my mum when they were on their own, but he didn't really talk to us. When he died in the hospice, I had not long left from visiting him, my mum was still with him. He was heavily sedated as he had been in such pain for several days and the nurse came and gave him morphine at home, but he became very confused and disorientated, and they decided he would be better in the hospice. He did tell my mum that he loved us all, but he didn't say it to us individually, he wasn't that kind of man. I think I miss him more now than when he first died. As I am finding the relatives on his side of the family I think more of his childhood and life in the village a long way from where we lived. Thinking of you Kila, it will be a long night for you, love, Take care, Liz x

Thinking of you Went through a similar thing with my dad He was only 47. I was watching a programme about a poorly baby and the nurse told the parents that she was waiting for them to let her know that its alright for her to go now. Wondered if its the same with adults.

You will have his love for ever. My thoughts are with you & your family. Hugs for you. Hilary.X

Hi Kila Thinking of you & your family at this sad time for you. Your Dad is going on to a wonderful life on the other side & as he told you he will be around. It is very hard for those left behind & you look at his plans & feel sad that he wasn't able to fulfill them all. With dificulty, having lost my wonderful husband when we had so much we wanted to do together, I have come to believe that we pass when our time on this plain is over & we have completed everything we came here for. Be sad for those of you left behind, you will miss his physical presence, but do not be sad for your Dad. He will be well & meeting all those he loved who have gone on before & then getting on with his new life & learning. Healing & Strength for you & your family Vivienne xx

Dear Kila, be brave sweetie, i went thru much the same thing 2 years ago, it may not be much comfort to you at the moment but in time you will be so gratefull that your dad had the chance to say his goodbyes to you, like your dad mine had had enough, couldnt fight any longer, was worn out, he had battled emphasema for 20 years, the last 5 on oxygen confined to a chair, but he had the strength of character and love that he spent time alone with each of us his children and said his goodbyes while he could, i will always treasure that time just me and my dad, he died peacefully at home with us all holding him 2 days later. i am always here on the boards no matter what you want to say, i will be thinking of you, take care Kila (((((((((((((((((((((((hugs )))))))))))))))))))))) xx Lynnxx

thinking of you all.xxxx