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I am due to meet my new boyfriend tommorow and do the deed. Although i am quite nervous you see i am not that happy with how i look. I have put on a lot of weight in the last few years and have not had a prpoer boyfriend. i have had the odd onenite stand but have had a few drinks before( the power of beer). I am looking forward to it but i keep thinking that he will not want to be with me after he see's me in the nip. So is on my mind you see. Please please help any advice is more than welcome.. Bubbles

Well said two very nice gents not eough about now adays gave the same advice to my daughter the other day Valxxx

Hi Bubbles Hope you don't mind a mans point of view. Well here goes... Be yourself and you should be fine. If he don't like you when your, yourself then he is the wrong man and it's his loss, but if he is happy with you being you then it's you who is the winner. Self respect and self control with a laugh thrown in and your be fine. Hope all goes well for you. night night

I DONT THINK HE WOULD BE WITH YOU IF HE WAS WORRIED ABOUT YOUR WEIGHT . HE LIKES YOU AS YOU ARE GOOD LUCK

Well said HOFF

Thank you, I used to be a very confident person i think i just kinda lost my way.

Bubbles just be you and have a nice night out. All will come good and what will be will be. Good luck.

Added by Bubbles D on 27/05/2007 02:10:25 I am just stressing i think i know he is with me for me. Well don't stress too much, he will want you for you, He won't want you to be all stressed. Make yourself look as nice as poss and get in a relaxed mood, then just enjoy your time together. Remember you only live once so enjoy it. ok i'm off to bed now night night

I am just stressing i think i know he is with me for me.

LOOK AT THIS SONG Just The Way You Are Lyrics » Billy Joel Don't go changing, to try and please me, You never let me down before, Don't imagine, you're too familiar, And I don't see you anymore. I would not leave you, in times of trouble, We never could have come this far, I took the good times, I'll take the bad times, I'll take you just the way you are. Don't go trying, some new fashion, Don't change the colour of your hair, You always have my, unspoken passion, Although I might not seem to care. I don't want clever, conversation, I never want to work that hard, I just want someone, that I can talk to, I want you just the way you are. I need to know that you will always be The same old someone that I knew, What will it take till you believe in me, The way that I believe in you? I said I love you, and that's forever, And this I promise from the heart, I couldn't love you, any better, I love you just the way you are. I don't want clever, conversation, I never want to work that hard, I just want someone, that I can talk to, I want you just the way you are

Bubbles I hate to admit this but Ron and Keith are right He is your boyfriend and if he didnt like you he wouldnt be with you, whatever your weight is it can't be a problem for him. Please dont let something like that put knock your confidence as it is who you are as a person that matters not what you look like. But most of all dont do anything until you are comfortable doing it or your confidence will be knocked even further back. Have fun and be careful lol Jax xx

How nice to see men replying in such a positive way, altho I am surprised to see you all up at this time, I am usually on my own here these days lol And you too, Jax, and Val! Just want to say to Bubbles, been there, got the tshirt, just don't let yourself rely too much on the alcohol for relaxation, and excuse me saying, see my post on Lynn, nanna to be thread, don't forget to take precautions. Liz

Bubbles this is like a PS remember your in control and your confident and if it don't feel right you should say so. ie don't do anything your not comfy doing. All the best and good luck Right i'm am off to bed now so night night

Bubbles confidence is a womens biggest assett no matter what you look like, so go out with a positive confident attitude, if you think he's not for you, bow out gracefully, I dont think it would have gone this far if he didn't like you...Have a good time...Yes the guys have got the right idea, I'm glad they posted...

Oh and I forgot to say, enjoy!!!

Thank you all so much. ifeel so much better now. I know that he is a nice bloke compared to some of the others that i have meet. I am not into one nite stands and he knows this. He makes me feel relaxed and happy to talk to him. It was very good to get some in put from you all and has been a great help. Bubbles

I don't mean we want the ins and outs (oops, no pun intended there lol) but do keep us posted and give us plenty of time to get new hats. Hope all goes well for you, starting a relationship is scary sometimes as well as exciting so lots of luck and fun, love and laughter. Liz

CAN I BE BEST MAN LOL

Thanks purple, I will do , but lets get ahead of ourselfs with the hat thing, lol I will keep you updated. I will just put that i am smileing lol.. Now i feel so much better and am quite looking forward to this.. lol I feel like a giggling kid.

That's exactly the way you should feel, and always remember to have a laugh! Nite Bubbles, if you feel nervous tomorrow think of us all waiting to hear how things went and you will giggle again and the nerves will go! Liz