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In my experience those that lie also deny. If challenged they somehow have a mental block as to what they have said or even worse say that you must have imagined what was said !


'Always tell the truth, then you don't have to remember anything '

Jo

I consider myself to be open and honest and Ican quite quickly spot lies in others. What annoys me most about dishonest people is that they take me for some fool as they thinkl I believe them and it can sometimes be difficult to challenge them if your not 100 per cent sure they are lying. Fortunately for me I have not had to deal with such people on a regular basis. My family and friends are all very honest and I trust them.

Linda it is sad that lies have damaged your family and I hope you can be reconciled in the future. However, that should not mean you having to accept the lie telling.

Vera

Only nutcases (and they lurk in the shadows, as we all know.)

Yes Wend - I have also met people who post here and they were exactly as I imagined. I do agree with Sharron though - a person could build a whole false persona if they wanted to.

I disagree - I think a lot can be sussed about people who contribute on here. I met Sharron recently and she was exactly as I had imagined her to be. When I met Uzzi in Spain, she wasn't as I had imagined her to be physically, but spiritually she was most definitely what I expected.

Both good impressions, I hasten to add :-D :-D

How true Sharron.

The very anonymity of the internet means that those who wish to lie or exaggerate about themselves or their lives can do so with impunity.

Same here Rose, there are very few people I have met in life and just took a dislike too, far to often I take people at face value and have been very hurt in the past, although I am a very forgiving persons, I would rather be like this then to be on the total other end and be totally negitive of everyone I met. :-D

Nothing wrong in that Rambling Rose
and as for growing out of it nooo i dont think you will now lolol , i prefer people to be upfront and honest at least you know where
you stand with them :-D :-D :-
Hazelx

If I'm asked to be honest I'll be brutally honest lol.

If I'm not asked but feel compelled to give it, I will often say my piece in a gentler way but make sure i put my meaning across all the same.

I expect the same to come back to me the other way too ...and anyone who knows me isn't afraid to tell me the truth x

id rather someone hurt me and be honest, than hurt me more by lying,

my friends come to me if they wana know hinestly if something looks ok, or how i feel about a situation, as they now i will give them the honest answer, albeit without hurting them,

i have a friend who lies all the tme, sometime big things, but mostly, slly things, like the size of her sons feet, she says hes 2 sizes smaller than he is, but she knows i no his true size, :-S so blatant lies jst to get attention, i have distanced myself from her now, as it does my head in, and its poitless to lie about things so silly,
but if shes lying about that what else s she telling porkies about??

No Sharron, She is A stunning beauty with all the slender curves in the rite places :-D

Roy

And she is taller than me

Your wife a midget then Roy?

I always tell the truth when the little lady asks dose my bum look good in this ;-) but she don't tend to believe me any way :-0

but it's better than the alternative response,

As you say SueMaid We men have got no chance on that particular point and we no we will never win so i don't even try :-D

Roy

You don't like the little white lies we sometimes tell to make someone feel better? A man can't win when we ask "do I look fat in this" ;-)

I don't have time to suffer fools gladly. They can go off and caper about somewhere else.

My OH was brought up to live the pose of respectability and tell people what they want to hear. This is probably why I quickly decided I didn't really want anything to do with his family, especially the instruction into how to live my life.

I truly hate it when he tells me something I want to hear. If I look like a sack of mangolds in this, please tell me before we go out.

"Fool me once - shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on me"

I tend to expect the worst and am pleased if I'm proved wrong.

Learnt a few years back now...be careful who you trust.

I'm way more cynical than I used to be and I can smell a person lying a mile off...and unlike Ann, I am not always kind enough to stay stum.

I guess that's where I'd like to change...I rather like my cynicism but not my inability to suffer fools gladly x

to be honest i agree with Ann

but i cant stand liars exaggerators and thieves

I think I am an honest person but it can be burden. I so wish I didn't blurt things out. Having a way with words, particularly honest, kind and passive ones I look on as a gift.

Perhaps people who lie have the same inability to tell the truth, for whatever reason. I worked with a colleague and everyone knew he was a permanent liar, to the point we refered to him as 'Billy Liar'. It was difficult trying to sort out the lies from the truth.

I think it is optimistic to hope everyone is honest, just consider the MPs, some Police, or criminals in general, but it is not wrong to hope for the best in everyone. Just disappointing when they let you down. -jl