General Chat

54 and I still expect people to be up front and honest.....is this blind naivity, utter stupidity or just immense optimism?

and whichever it is, do you you think I will / should 'grow out of it' lol.

I expect the same always have and always will

Sylvia

me to ROSE,and im only 48 lol :-D

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It depends on where you are expecting upfront and honesty to come from,

;-),

a habitual thief isnt going to be honest and upfront now are they. :-D :-D :-D.

Rose - I can give you a few years and yes I expect the best of everyone - until I find out differently.

i think we all learn over time where to place our trust and know who will be honest, forgive a few times but after that no, enough is enough and walk away.

It's just the waste of time that gets me lol... if people are dishonest they spend so much time hiding this or that and creating elaborate stories to cover themselves..life's really too short for that lol :-D

To be honest Rose, if anyone is going to lie their way through life, they have to be good at it, personally i couldnt be bothered x

Takes a good liar to have a good memory. However, we have all, I am sure, experienced meeting someone and feel we have known each other for ever, then there are those we learn to know and there are those - not sure, stay wary and usually find out that there was good reason why.

But in the beginning I treat all the same and expect the same in return.

NB I have a lousy memory :-D

I am older than Rose *coughs* just ;-) I like people to be honest but if they aren't then they can shove off :-D

Once bitten and I bite back ;-)

Sue x

I like people to be open and honest with me and show respect unfortunately I have nothing but lies and exageration from my son`s partner/ future family in law.
I spoke up for the first time last year when there was one lie after another said about my family and of myself
I told my son I was not sitting around his partner or the family listening to the lies/ garbage they come out with.
unfortunately I have now lost my son and also two daughters due to my sons partner n family with there lies..
It hurts me badly as there are four grandchildren involved and one on its way..
I don`t know if its the way I was brought up being polite and respect or are they being loud and brash (which my son is going that way) acceptable!
One confused person :-(

Evening RR i absolutely agree with you and i am 50. i cant stand people who are not straight forward and honest. the older i get, the more i expect along with good manners.
i will do anything for anyone as long as they ask nicely and say please and thankyou, just the way i was brought up.
florence
in the hebrides.

It's not being naive its just the way you where brought up,

I was brought up the same way and often give people the benefit of any doubts to my cost at a later date,

My best mate keeps telling me to wise up but i cannot change what i have always believed in and always will.

Roy

i do give people the benefit of the doubt and i try to see the best in people and understand why at times they have their moments, but theres only so much some can take

Hello Roy we meet again, not be wiser, just wisen up :-)

Hi, Mads ,wiser or wisen up depends where you come from? just how we say it like that

wise 1 (wz)
adj. wis·er, wis·est
1. Having the ability to discern or judge what is true, right, or lasting; sagacious: a wise leader.
2.
a. Exhibiting common sense; prudent: a wise decision.
b. Shrewd; crafty.
3. Having great learning; erudite.
4. Provided with information; informed. Used with to: was wise to the politics of the department.
5. Slang Rude and disrespectful; impudent.
Phrasal Verb:
wise up Slang
To make or become aware, informed, or sophisticated

wise up
vb (adverb)
1. Slang (often foll by to) to become or cause to become aware or informed (of)
2. (tr) to make more intellectually demanding or sophisticated

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/wise+up

Roy :-)

I call a spade a spade and expect the same in return, I judge people as I find them and not as others say they are I will find out in time for myself whether they are good or not.

:-)

i am a recycled teenager always will be lol xx :-D

I have always seen (or thought I have seen) the best in people and I suppose I always will. I was taught not to tell lies and could never lie to my parents without giving myself away. I try always to be honest, although not to the point of hurting somebody. i.e. I am not always a 'tell what it is' person. If somebody asks if something suits them and they look awful I would temper my reply in order to spare their feelings (I wouldn't say they looked awful).

But I couldn't take something that didn't belong to me and am still shocked at people who do.

I have come to believe that there are people who are blatant liars and there are people with a good imagination who don't realise they are lying.

I will continue to see the best in people because that is who I am, and I guess you will do the same Rose, it is your nature.

Rose i have always taken people at face value.
even when i was younger .you live & learn but dont worry to much about it lifes` to short. enjoy whatever age you are :-D

I just wish I was 54 again :-(