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Purple
Thank you for keep nudging this thread, even if someone feels they cannot contribute it may give solace to some.
Re my previous entry.
My first child died on Christmas Eve 1970 in hospital. Being both a qualified nurse and midwife I knew that my pregnancy was not going as it should but I was simply" worrying for nothing" is what I was told.
The loss of that child remains with me every day, I remember all to clearly being placed in a six bed unit , one bed empty, one bed with a 90+ lady, 2 beds with girls aged about 17 who had abortions, one person who simply slept all the time and me.
The two girls went to the windows and had loud conversations with their boy friends which was coarse to say the least, the old lady in pain but little the staff could do. I was in a lot of pain and very distressed. I was given pain relief even though I told them that I was allergic to the medication and had my alert bracelet on! As a result I had a cardiac arrest and do not recall very much for another 2 days when I was told by the Sister on the ward I could go home and not to try for another child or at least a year.
The priest (Catholic) who had officiated at my wedding was wonderful and told me that contraception was becoming acceptable and if that is what I needed then the church would not condenm me.
Many years latter and after three successful births, with a lot of help with the pregnancies,( one set of identical twins and two single children) I was told that medically I needed an hysterectomy. I consulted again with the church and was told by the Monsieur the following which has been in my memory ever since. "If you needed an arm removed because it was diseased or you had to have a kidney or any other part of your body removed the church would not condemn me neither does it when a deceased womb has to be removed or removed because it places the woman in a very dangerous situation"
I had had the operation and am still a Catholic although not always a church goer.
Never was told what had happened to the child who was 5months conceived
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I keep nudging so people who missed this the first time and would be interested, can record or watch it this time round.
I can fully understand how your loss remains with you constantly, being the same myself over my daughter. There was little support given to mothers in those days, and you certainly went through the mill. It must have been awful to have to listen to those girls after their abortions when your baby was wanted and lost. I had to endure similar when I went into hospital for some surgery later on after my daughter's birth and death and there was a young girl of 16 or so swanning around after her abortion. I felt so angry with her and with life as at that time I hadn't managed to conceive again with my daughter's father and to see her so chipper cos she had got rid of her problem made me feel sick with anger.
It's good to hear you had support from your church on both occasions. Not always the case I think.
Lizx
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