General Chat

Still thinking about you all. Take care!

Sallie x

I am very pleased to tell you there has been a change, Carole asked a second doctor was her dads condition terminal, the answer was no. His kidneys are poorly but he will recover and get better, but her mum is looking for a nursing home for him as he is very sleepy and daydreaming Carole said. It is too much for her to look after him at home. It is a big relief all round, Carole has been run ragged, not had any sleep, every time the phone went she thought the worst, at least she can relax a bit now.
Thinking of you Carole and sending a great big hug.

Love Caz xx

Good news Carole, but now you must take care of yourself, get a lot of much-needed rest.

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Carole, so pleased to hear this news, Caz told me when I rang her. You must feel so relieved even tho you have all the hassle of finding a good home for your Dad. You have certainly had a bad year but hope things get better for you now you know you have more time with your Dad.
I wonder if the way your Dad is, dreamy and sleepy, is because of his kidneys as people get very forgetful and disorientated when they are dehydrated so could be a connection.

I hope your family are helping you at home so you can catch up with some much needed rest.

take care and hope your Dad improves even more

Lizxx

nudge for Tinkerbelle

A hard time for you Carole, but I hope it helps a little knowing that we are thinking of you.
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Yes Barbra it is good news. I haven't heard any more, Carole texts Joyce and Joyce tells me what to put on, she hasn't said anything lately. Hoping your dad continues to recover well Carole and is able to leave hospital soon.

Caz xx

positive thoughts and prayers for all your faimily love Valxxx

Hope you are bearing up Carole, and your dad is on the mend.

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That is good news Caz thank you.
Hope they can find a good home for Carole's Dad to stay in.

Thank you very much for all your good wishes. I have been unable to add as my computer is playing up! Have my daughters lap top here so taking the opportunity to let you all know what has gone on.

Mum called me Dad was ill and she had called an ambulance, I met them at the hospital where we were told after tests and an x ray it was probably pneumonia. After hours of waiting Dad got put on EAU and we were able to leave him. (He had a stroke seven years ago which left him paralised down his right hand side and took his speech).We had to stay to answer all questions about him. Six hours after getting to the hospital I got to bed at 2am.

Dad was moved to a ward next day. He was yellow and looked very ill. He deteriorated and by Sunday before bank holiday Monday the Dr sent for us and said his kidneys had stopped working and his other organs were giving up.His right lung was half full of fluid.The likely hood of him leaving hospital were very small. But they would continue to treat him. IF he survived till Thursday (because that is the only day they have the Dr's there to do the op) they could do a big op but he wasn't likely to survive it and if he did it would mean weeks in intensive care. Dad motioned not to have the op. But there was still a chance IF he survived to Thursday they could try doing endoscopy and if needed put in a stent to open blockage . This he had done and since that he has improved in colour but remains very sleepy. He just wakes and stares. He's hardly eating, just custard, ice cream rice pudding. Hardly been out of bed. Then we were told Tuesday this week they were looking to discharge him!! There is no way Mum can care for him like this any more. She has had seven years of doing everything for him. Care workers coming in for about a year, mornings to get him washed dressed and on loo.Then at night they get him into bed. So I am now looking for a nursing home even if its for respite care untill / if he improves. He is 81 Mum is 78.
I don't get on well with Mum so it's made even harder having to spend so much time with her!
Thanks again for all your caring thoughts xx

Carole, you have all my sympathy. I could not have spent more than an hour with my mum! This is a sad state of affairs with your dad, He seems to have indicated that he had had enough, so in a way it is a shame they did anything, but where there is life there is hope. Take care.

Carole & Caz Thank you for info . just please Take care & I hope your Dear Dad is made comfortable & finds some contentment love Barbara xx

Carole xxxx
Tis at times like this that you will find that little extra bit of strength to carry on, especially when it means moving your dad into an establishment which can give care 24/7 thus bringing a little relief to your mom and the rest of the family, especially you lass xxxx
My prayers for your dad are winging their way to him, plus hugs for all of you....
Love Joyce P xxxxx

Just to let you know you are being thought of.Hope you find a suitable nursing home for your dad soon.
Don't forget to take care of yourself too.

Eileen xx

Sending love and hugs dear Tink, hoping and praying for peace and comfort for your dear Dad - and for you.
Love
mary

Hi Carole,
So sorry that you have had so much to cope with. having to see your poor Dad go through all that after the years he has suffered already must be very upsetting and hard for your Mum too, despite the fact you don't get on she must be concerned and seems to have done the best she could for him.
I do hope you can find somewhere nice for him to spend what may well be his last months, it may be that once he is settled there your Mum will not want him to come home again if she isn't as tied to caring for him as before.

On the other hand, there may be some good response after he has had a little more time to recover from this latest blow and then you can all have a rethink on his future care.

Do try and take some time for yourself, you have had so much to cope with of late.

Will be thinking about you all.

love
Lizxx

Good morning Carol....
Sending: (((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))).....and Blessings to you at this trying time in your life..
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