General Chat

With you Carole.

Wishing you all peace and strength.

Carole I haven't seen this for the couple of days, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It doesn't sound good for him but probably for the best, I hope he isn't in too much pain and praying for a peaceful ending for him. Love and hugs to you and your family.

Caz xx

Couldn't sleep. Then shortly after I'd dropped off the dog woke us barking. It was next doors grandaughter and two babies. We were meant to be going to our neighbours 60th birthday party last night and something had kicked off between her 21yr old son and her older daughters boyfriend. Grandaughter rightly got a taxi and took the babies away from the trouble. But hadn't got a key to her grans or her car where the babies milk was. G woke us up, and came in crying her heart out. By one thirty we were back in bed. I'm hungry and woke early so I'm up fed and going to get ready for the day what ever it brings. Thank you for your support x

Shortly after this post I got that call. Dad passed away 8:10 just after we all got there. It was peacefull.

Carole realy sorry to here about your Dad hope he is,nt in to much pain ,and hope its peaceful passing thing of you and your family and your Mum here if you need me
Love Dutchxx

Hi Carole, I have just read your thread for the first time.
I am so sorry to hear about your dad
I am thinking of you and your family, and hope your dad is peaceful.xx

Hi Carole.
I am thinking of you and your family.
Brings back memories of my own Dad and waiting for that phone call.

Keep strong.
Alyson

Mum called me this afternoon the hospital had asked mum to go to the hospital. So I picked her up and all the family have been at the hospital since about 1pm. The dr came to see us and said his right lung was full of fluid and he had had a bad night. They could try to put in a drain but there was no guarantee it would work. We asked them to leave him he has had enough being prodded and pulled about. So dr said that he posibly had a couple of hours . We have all decided to do shifts now and of course we are going to be anxiiously waiting that call .

Carole sorry to hear your Dads still in hospital i thought he was going into nursing home ,my thoughts are with you and your Dad and your Mum would have added early if i had known sorry also thinking of the family .what worry for you all take care my friend
Dutchxx

Just to let you all know Dad is still in hospital. Not eating or drinking much. Sleeping a lot. But they are getting him into his wheelchair for meals, so after what he has been through even thats going to tire him. I have had flu so not been able to visit for a couple of week nearly.

At last my computer is fixed!

Dad is still in hospital, he seems very depressed to me. He is hardly eating and not drinking much either. I spoke to two Drs yesterday, they said they are having trouble getting any blood as his lack of fluid intake means his veins are colapsing. They are going to try putting a needle under his skin to give him some fluids. He is having high calorie drinks.
They are still aiming to discharge to a nursing home.

I'm still thinking of you Carole and hoping you are able to get some decent sleep and rest. Also sending positive thoughts for your dad.

Love Caz xx

Good morning Carol....
Sending: (((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))).....and Blessings to you at this trying time in your life..
xxx

Hi Carole,
So sorry that you have had so much to cope with. having to see your poor Dad go through all that after the years he has suffered already must be very upsetting and hard for your Mum too, despite the fact you don't get on she must be concerned and seems to have done the best she could for him.
I do hope you can find somewhere nice for him to spend what may well be his last months, it may be that once he is settled there your Mum will not want him to come home again if she isn't as tied to caring for him as before.

On the other hand, there may be some good response after he has had a little more time to recover from this latest blow and then you can all have a rethink on his future care.

Do try and take some time for yourself, you have had so much to cope with of late.

Will be thinking about you all.

love
Lizxx

Sending love and hugs dear Tink, hoping and praying for peace and comfort for your dear Dad - and for you.
Love
mary

Just to let you know you are being thought of.Hope you find a suitable nursing home for your dad soon.
Don't forget to take care of yourself too.

Eileen xx

Carole xxxx
Tis at times like this that you will find that little extra bit of strength to carry on, especially when it means moving your dad into an establishment which can give care 24/7 thus bringing a little relief to your mom and the rest of the family, especially you lass xxxx
My prayers for your dad are winging their way to him, plus hugs for all of you....
Love Joyce P xxxxx

Carole & Caz Thank you for info . just please Take care & I hope your Dear Dad is made comfortable & finds some contentment love Barbara xx

Carole, you have all my sympathy. I could not have spent more than an hour with my mum! This is a sad state of affairs with your dad, He seems to have indicated that he had had enough, so in a way it is a shame they did anything, but where there is life there is hope. Take care.

Thank you very much for all your good wishes. I have been unable to add as my computer is playing up! Have my daughters lap top here so taking the opportunity to let you all know what has gone on.

Mum called me Dad was ill and she had called an ambulance, I met them at the hospital where we were told after tests and an x ray it was probably pneumonia. After hours of waiting Dad got put on EAU and we were able to leave him. (He had a stroke seven years ago which left him paralised down his right hand side and took his speech).We had to stay to answer all questions about him. Six hours after getting to the hospital I got to bed at 2am.

Dad was moved to a ward next day. He was yellow and looked very ill. He deteriorated and by Sunday before bank holiday Monday the Dr sent for us and said his kidneys had stopped working and his other organs were giving up.His right lung was half full of fluid.The likely hood of him leaving hospital were very small. But they would continue to treat him. IF he survived till Thursday (because that is the only day they have the Dr's there to do the op) they could do a big op but he wasn't likely to survive it and if he did it would mean weeks in intensive care. Dad motioned not to have the op. But there was still a chance IF he survived to Thursday they could try doing endoscopy and if needed put in a stent to open blockage . This he had done and since that he has improved in colour but remains very sleepy. He just wakes and stares. He's hardly eating, just custard, ice cream rice pudding. Hardly been out of bed. Then we were told Tuesday this week they were looking to discharge him!! There is no way Mum can care for him like this any more. She has had seven years of doing everything for him. Care workers coming in for about a year, mornings to get him washed dressed and on loo.Then at night they get him into bed. So I am now looking for a nursing home even if its for respite care untill / if he improves. He is 81 Mum is 78.
I don't get on well with Mum so it's made even harder having to spend so much time with her!
Thanks again for all your caring thoughts xx

That is good news Caz thank you.
Hope they can find a good home for Carole's Dad to stay in.