General Chat

Daff, I am usually so delighted that someone has seen fit to pm me that I answeras soon as I see it, but never worry if I get no replies. Have offered family photos to two people recently, and they havent opened their mail, though I have had hot matches for them. Their loss, not mine.

NUDGE because I am getting REALLY cross!

Daffy,

Deep breaths sweetheart,

:}}}}}}}

All the complaining board hack me off tbh if its not about how this site should be run or think it should be to none responding messages of contact,...you never get this complaining on other sites of family history of which there are many and am a member of a few..

well said daff, hope to catch up absolutley when ever lovely xxxxxx

Hello Daff......l agree with you too, you should'nt have to exlain yourself. (or explain!!!)
Take care

jude xx

And sadly some people who have gone ahead cannot reply. I just read the surname Buckle on a thread and that reminded me of Clive; also, more recently, Jean, and Steve and, longer ago, June; and this must apply to more, too.

Oh Joy, I know.... I didn't know June, or Gaynor... but Clive pm'd me just hours before he died.... and the only direct contact we'd had before was on the GR Kitten birth thread by Puss..... and of course Jean was so supportive when I was ill.... and Steve... well, he was just a one off diamond.

Thank you all for answering this thread.... I think each of us has, for whatever reason, been in a position where we have not been able to respond to the demands of sometimes impatient people, and that is their problem, not ours.... and I think I am correct in saying that this is the very first response on a direct thread, to the multiple threads and complaints we have seen in the past.

My intention is to nudge this up, every time there is a thread complaining about non responders........ I do feel quite strongly about it.

Love

Daff xxxxx

I'll give it a nudge for you now and then :-)
x x

PS I am a tad put out at people that opened my messages but didn't want to know about their ancestor's will, but that is their loss more than mine :-)

A gentle nudge for a gentle lady :-)

Thank you Joy... I have to admit to not feeling very gentle at this precise moment, but ((((hugs)))) to you... and xxxx

Love

Daff xxxx

A little nudge for David (Ann)

Hope this explains a little bit.

Love

Daff xxx

Nudge

Hi Daff, I think your very clear explanation of your own circumstances highlights the lack of patience of many of the newbies and maybe a few of the oldies.

I am sorry you have been unwell and I hope all is good with you right now.

The point is, we all offer our services freely whne we have the time, and other than that we are not available. Just like everyone else. Where's the problem?

I have been hassled by someone who insists we share an ancestor but, after some checks, actually this isn't the case. I was fed up with trying to explain why we weren't related.....

What annoys me about all the complaing ie about the non replies and about the site is that people have NO consideration or patience.

Goodness knows what they would have done years ago when we had to trail round the Records Offices,maybe to the other side of the country.
And do manual searches for our ancestors.

I used to make my trips to the Records Offices part of my holiday.

With you Daff 100% on what you have said.

This morning I had a very nice response from someone to whom I sent a message yesterday. He hadn't realised that he would receive a response so quickly and was going to check back in a few months bless him.

Cx.

opps another nudge, x

Hi Daff,
I've been here before but a while ago. just not posted for ages. I occassionally pop on here just to take a peek. I'm familiar with some members.

Janet xxxx

Sue, I still trail around local record offices.... :)

That reminds me, I need to book a holiday ;)

I agree to an extent, Piglets Pal... but it is not always the case.... however, it actually doesn't matter if it is a Newbie, or an Oldbie... the same principles should apply... they are not children, they are adults, and I was a Newbie a couple of years ago... so why is it that I didn't expect an immediate response?

No, it is the culture of instant gratification... maybe as a result of the internet and google... but I was used to having to search for info, to having to trawl through records and suchlike....... to have a site like this where people would answer reasonably quickly was such a thrill... and only a couple of years ago... now people seem to have this belief that their every request demands an instant response, and life just isn't like that.... people are not machines, they are not google or whatever.... and an adult Newbie is no different from an adult Oldbie... and some Oldbies have manners that leave a lot to be desired, too.

It is about manners, and patience, tolerence and understanding.

My tolerence is wearing thin with those people who show none of the above for others.... it is all about My request is ignored, I am a member so I deserve, Others should be responding to my demands.... etc etc ad nauseum.

This is one thread.... just one thread.... in response to the two or three EVERY week that we seem to be getting.... and not all membership numbers of complainers are new... some are much older than mine!

Hello again Janet.... it must have been either before my time, or when I was passing through my health blip...... so hello again!

Mmmm.... Red, you definitely need a holiday... but don't book a flight, lolol!!

Cynthia, that is brilliant... it is well worth it.... most Newbies would really appreciate your pm, I am sure.... even if they don't respond, but to get a positive response is lovely.

Mummo xxxxx

Sue in Leeds, thank you.... I know... my aunt did all the early trawling as I lived overseas...... she died before the internet took hold, but I do have some of her info... one branch was incorrect though... but she would hav needed to cross reference that in a dozen different places... the internet has made it so much easier!!

Thank you, Helen.... and yes, I am doing really well, feeling really good most of the time. It is patience and respect for others which seems to be missing..... and this insistance on instant gratification... I want, I get right NOW.

I get so hissy over that... lol

Love

Daff xxx

I have just checked my sent box and have 42 unopened messages concerning possible connections going back to last September. I gave up checking at that point.

I might send a polite follow up to some that I am particularly interested in hearing from but other than that I take it that they have other more important things to get on with.

I had one reply just before Christmas to say that his mum wouldn't be getting back to me as she had died the day before.

At which point.....