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To help stress...

I had another huge row with my daughter again this morning. Have felt ill all day since, light headed and sick.My blood pressure was only just ok last time it was taken.

So does deep breathing and removing yourself from things, if possible, really help?

Thanks,

Caz xx

Yes it does, also get yourself some rescue remedy
purple diamond suggested it to me and it works got some the other day

sending you a (((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))

us mums go through it dont we

take care

julia xx

Yes-if you do it slowly,in through the nose-out through the mouth........but it can make you dizzy,I tend to go for a walk,clears my head.

caz this has been a week of arguments for me and my 15yr old sounds daft but i was doing tai chi at school so did some at home and it really did calm me down (til the next time lol)

hope you work things out and feel better soon

chris x

I will Julia...Ive had it once before, is it pricey? Ta for hugs, Ive felt upset all day since,


Thanks Eeyore, was still in dressing gown, I will if I can in future..

Caz xx

its on offer in boots the small on its £5.99 but as it works i thnk it was worth it

take care

julia xx

Hi Chris, Ive been told tai chi is good, is it based on slow movements and deep breathing?

Maz, thanks so much, she said such awful things, shes 15 in a few weeks, she knew just how to hurt me,you give me hope! My lads, one 19, he was no priob, one of 17 was very hard work but not in same way,

Lol Sue, Id love to go for a walk with you and others off here!

Julia, will get some,

Caz xx

hi caz its all about the balance between your ying and yang (this bit has ice baby laughing) but basically ying is soft gentle movements and yang the stronger movements but it also entails the breathing to i'm not an expert i was only doing at primary kids level but it was certainly relaxing

chris x

Awwww caz...............they know how to hurt at that age:((

I bet she feels bad about the row as well, please try and have a chat with her later to clear the air.

She's at the age where the world revolved around her and only she has feelings and Mum is horrible to her and knows absolutely nothing about anything!!

It's perfectly normal and soon passes................as Mum of 3 grown up daughters, trust me I've been there and done that:))

caz my girl of 15 can be really nasty at times then act as if nothing has happened
other 2 older kids no problems so this behaviour was a shock to me she says all teenagers get stropy

chris x

Chris, it sounds very relaxing.. I went to my Mums today whilst Dad and hubbie looked at our car, Mum bless her was worried about me and tried to look after me, she said I looked ill,My lass is in her room with a mate, acting like she couldnt care less...

Thanks kitty, i will try, its also cos shes ruined her education and Ive been to countless meetings, her real Dad has totally rejected her, yet she screamed i was a useless Mum, she hated me and told me all her friends think Im awful,
Hi Maz, I just dont want to be anywhere near her, I did look at pms but think shes mid cycle now....its so upsetting.. as you will know,

Caz xxx

Thanks Carol, love, I will pm you about my dream, it was you and Dizzy,

Caz xx

May be a min or two as barbies are calling lol!

I went through all that with my daughter from the time she was seventeen when she totally changed personality. It was like she was a different person. we would go for days avoiding each so as not to speak. She decided to go travelling for a year, it was the best thing ever, i worried constantly but she used to ring me and i would ring her at least two or three times a week when she came home it was brilliant. She is now thirty still living at home but we are now so close. Its lovely - she will come back to you. I couldnt even say here what my daughter used to say to me. I found the only way to get through it was to walk away and ignore her. i really feel for you i know what you are feeling. Take heart you will get through it. Just tell her you love her no matter what. all the best for now.

if this is the thread 4 getting it all off your chest well then here i go poss a bit like you cass,
i suppose my daughter and i never actually bonded from her being born,although i tried to love her with all of my heart (tears coming) she wasnt a difficult birth (first child) she just constantly cried and couldnt keep her feeds down (just a very windy baby said the mid-wife) after 4 days in hospital i finally came home suffering from post -natal depression and a baby throwing up all her feeds,(no way could i cope) even tough i had a loving partner who helped enormousely and tried to reasure me,my daughter was a handful even at this early stage.she was five months old when i became pregnant with my son.panic set in, i could not go through that all over again.and to my astonishment to this day ime sure he was a gift from god. i did go on to have five more children after my daughter and not one of them are like her. from going to school to the present day she has been a pain in the butt and i have felt scared of her at times. i have had a knife branded at me when she was 15,she had teachers in tears at primary school.she has practically made it clear to every-one in the area that i used to beat her,and then she tells her nan that she was jealouse of all her siblings.our relationship finally came to a close abt 3 month ago when she hit me in my house, i cannot believe that i fought with my daughter,i still have not recovered from this i have flash-backs and panic attacks and cry on any occassion,(i feel she has broken me) i have seen her at a distance in shops with her friends she acts as if it never happened.i cannot laugh any-more.she does.
gwen.

CAZ, WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS A TEENAGER, EVERYDAY THE HOUSE WAS LIKE A WARZONE BETWEEN HER AND I.

TRY GOING FOR A WALK ROUND THE BLOCK TO CALM YOURSELF IF YOU CAN.

BUT YES, I MOSTLY FIND DEEP BREATHING WORKS.

HOPE YOU MANAGE TO WORK IT OUT WITH YOUR DAUGHTER.
MINE FOUND OUT WHAT I DID WAS FOR HER OWN GOOD, BUT THEY HAVE TO LEARN THAT THEMSELVES.

FUNNY, SHE'S GOING THROUGH IT WITH HER SON, AND HE'S ONLY 9YRS OLD.

GOOD LUCK

XX

Caz, it is hard, I had it all with my son and being on my own had no support at all. Now we are fine but I wish I had handled things differently.
Maybe time to stop her friends coming round when she kicks off, she is trying to show off to her mate that she doesn't care when she probably hurts inside.
Get the Rescue Remedy and if you can afford it get some of the Passiflora with ativa drops and take regularly, it will stop you feeling so emotional about everything, I think I have told you about it before. It is about £9 and while that sounds a lot, it lasts about two or three months and really really helps stop the tears and sadness.
Thinking of you,
Lizx
Thanks for your thoughts for t'other Liz, her other nickname lol

Gwen, I really feel for you and hope you can get through this sad time with your daughter behaving that way, maybe you will never have a good relationship with her but I hope her dad and siblings will try to keep a bond there somehow.
Lizx

think i will try that prescription liz.

gwen x

Thanks ladies, She is wanting money and i wont give it, its such a battle of wills, after how ill i felt today I am trying not to respond, but its making me feel sick again,

Im sticking to my guns, she also has an internet ban, just want to walk out and keep going,


Your replies mean a lot,


Caz xxx

thank-you liz,
i was sat on a bench (taking some chill out time)in our local park when i over-heard two elderly ladies talking, one of them went on to say,"if your daughter isnt your best friend by the time she is thirty you might as well give up".well she is 25 now with a five year old daughter who i only see by chance.if there is any hope 4 the two of us well a miracle will have to happen.
gwen x

She will realise one day that her mother is her best friend.

I only hope it's not too late by then.

Take care peeps.

xx