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Hello Caz, Just read your thread after you replied to mine,. I see you have a apptment for your daughter with the doctor. Someone else has mentioned it on here but my friends daughter was just like yours, some of the things she used to say to her were unbelievable. She realised eventually that her daughter was worse mainly around her monthly cycle and the doctor gave her some tablets (sorry can't remember what they were) but things improved considerably.
On the breathing thing, I used to go to Yoga. They suggest, lying down and tensing each part of the body in turn whilst breathing in through the nose, then relaxing each part of the body in turn whilst breathing out through your nose. Work it all the way through the body. It gives temporary relief at least.
Best wishes

Gwen, thanks so much love,

Its been a bad couple of weeks, my daughter has been better this week than the weekend, Will pm you later,

Thanks again,

Caz xxx

morning caz luv,
popped in to see how you are.
take care
gwen xx

Many thanks to all you caring people,


Things with lass are a touch better, Ive got her an appointment at docs, I feel its ADHD but it is sooo hard getting a diagnosis as plenty of you will know,


You are lovely stars,


Caz xxxxxxxxxx

hope your ok caz

its hard when they are so strong willied teenagers,
me and mine had some flare ups,
its been horrible, and like you i end up getting upset,

it helps to get space between you, ive gone out walking, its hard to calm down after it,

i had to text mine saturday and tel her im so proud of her andh er brother, cos i stood doing some ironin and thougth , i dont think ive said that much, always say waht a little demon she has been
hope it gets better for you soon caz

go for wander round some shops on your own
or to a cafe for a cuppa and chill time
xx

Thanks Phyl,

I can truly say its breaking my heart...the atmoshpere is crap.. I saw stars before when I felt my temper rising and took deep breaths to try and stay calm, put my fingers in my ears.

Lass and OH dont get on, its like a battleground,

Caz xxx

Caz,
Hi wee pal daughters are the bain of our lives, but they do grow out of it, my daughter was into everything and new everything. And she said the most hurtfull things, but now she is a pleasure to know it only took 3 years for her to see that we cared and where not controling her.

Sending you Hugs and support.
Phyl.

Lol Eeyore I wont!

She is driving the whole house mad right now, its awful,

Caz xxx

Hey Caz,forgot to say-don't do it when your on the 'phone,may 'cause problems!!!!!!!! lol :))

Thankyou all for your replies, and pms , will get back to you and read properly but things are bad again today and there is so much tension in the house, want to reply when things are calmer,

Love to you all,

Caz xxx

She might yell and scream at you, but at least she isn't doing the sulking bit..............when you ask what's wrong all you get is "Nothing" or " you wouldn't understand"

Now that is one problem I never managed to overcome:(

morning caz,
remember today is a new day,lots of advice was given last night.the best i remember was "dont argue back with her( i made this mistake).
"caz have u looked outside yet,"we have sunshine".
have alovely day luv.
all best gwen xx

Hello Caz, my boys were like angels compared to my daughter........I made the mistake of arguing with her, it was just what she wanted......we were both as venomous as each other with words.......I found out later that if I removed myself from her presence and asked her quietly later, what was the matter with her, and listened.......she would be more reasonable.........but it is so hard when they are so loud and nasty sometimes....

......I remember the times I locked myself in the loo to get away from the urge to wring her neck......only to have the little witch demanding that I talk to her.....

A older friend with grown daughters told me that once my daughter left home, she would realise how good she had life at home.......it is true and since that time has been such great company......please believe Caz that this time will pass, and it will all come right in the end......I cried an ocean with mine, and I am sure others have had the same experiences.....all to do with hormones and growing up....

All these Mums who have baby girls later in life are going to find that their daughters' PMT is going to clash with their menopause......

Thanks Gwen, i really mean that,


Caz xxxxxx

you will never be a failure caz.your'e tired right now.i wish you strength and will power to pull through this sad time.

take care of your-self.
gwen xx

I feel so much a failure, but you have all helped me, to see more clearly, thankyou, i cant say how much it means, being a parent is the hardest job ever,


Caz xxxxx

sending you ...

((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))))))
cos i know you could do with them.
all best caz luv.

gwen xx

Hi Caz love,

probably can't offer any advice from my own experience as my eldest 2 are only 13 so in all honesty I haven't been there yet.

But I just wanted to say I'm sorry you've had a bad day and I'm sending my love & best wishes. I know it sounds like a cliche but I'm absolutely sure you're a fantastic mum & she knows that & appreciates you and loves you even if she's not making you feel like she does at the moment.

I would also agree with what Patricia said about education and qualifications - if she doesn't do it now it doesn't mean that she's wasted or ruined or lost her chance.

I'll be thinking of you Caz - and wishing you a more restful and peaceful Sunday.

Loads of love,

Maria xx

AT TIMES IT CAN BE EASY TO FOGET WHO IS THE ADULT AND WHO THE CHILD.the fighting and arguing can really drag you down and at times yes you could run a million miles away,but somthing in there holds you and makes you just that little bit stronger.
luv to every-one on this thread.
gwen xx

She will realise one day that her mother is her best friend.

I only hope it's not too late by then.

Take care peeps.

xx