General Chat

My youngest son /wife produced their first child this week - a girl.
Everyone is delighted, but for me, and I sense my son, we are just a trifle disappointed that it wasn,t a boy (family name; games of football etc - and I have heard of arsenal ladies).
Just wonder, mainly from a ladies point of view, what grand=child or daughter you would prefer if it was the first or only one.
Everyone says they don,t mind so long as the child is healthy, but I have a sneaking feeling that everyone has a preference)
Happy days

Sorry to say Harry I disagree. As long as the child is healthy who cares what it is. A girl can play football too. Just enjoy being with the baby, and later see what develops.

Congratulations by the way.

Granny

was lucky had 1 girl 3 boys, but didnt matter to me anyway, girls can do all the things do and ditto for the boys, congratulations enjoy xx

Sorry Harry but I never bothered.

There is a woman on this board... (sorry but I have forgotten her name) who has a daughter who is a brilliant football player, an dis to have a trial for some big team soon.

Pride is something we have naturally in our of spring..... mostly for no reason at all.
Just because they are ours!
You should be thrilled to bits.

Deanna X

Well although I'm not a grandparent - but my parents are and so far they have two granddaughters - my sister's children who probably wont be having anymore. They love them to pieces and really didn't mind what the first grandchild was going to be - they were just overjoyed to have one. The second time - I admit I wanted her to have a boy to even things out a bit in their home - but now it is three women to one man in their house and if the girls turn out like my sister - I feel for my brother in law!

But for me - when I eventually have children I know I definitely want at least one boy - in order to carry on my partner's family name and their tradition of middle names etc.

I think too many men sometimes think that having a daughter/granddaughter isn't going to be as fun as a son/grandson - but when I watch how much fun my Dad has with his little girls I know that he really doesn't mind at all!

As a female who was bought up by a mother who constantly voiced her disappointment that I wasn't male I find your comment quite sad!!

Personally I think you should be greatful that your child was able to produce a child!!

Not everyone is!

;o(

Just wait till she looks you in the eye and gives you that first smile, your heart will melt.

Hi Harry:-))
I have to admit I do prefer Boys, From a womans point of view their far more loving than girls,girls are very Independant right from the start, Boys always seem to need you:-)) even when there Grandfathers themselveslol
Only from my experience of course.

I'm sorry you feel that way Harry - like others on here i didn't care what my daughter was as long as she was healthy - and to be honest she could kick a boys butt now anyway ;-))))))))))))
My husband wanted a girl (as he already had 3 boys) - so i can understand that side of the coin....

I have to LOL at your description though - ''she 'produced' ''- you've made it sound quite farm animal like ( no offence intended...xx)

LOU XXXXXXXXxxxxxxxx

Harry - as you said in your post they produced your "first" grandchild - so there is the chance there may be others and you may just get the grandson you so long for. But even if that doesn't happen, I'm sure that you will grow to love and appreciate that little girl with all your heart and she will dote on her grandaddy.

When my daughter was expecting, she and her fiance were convinced it was going to be a boy (don't know why!!). They even picked a boy's name. So it was a shock to them both when at the scan they asked the sex and were told it was a girl. My son-in-law spent a couple of weeks moping about, looking depressed saying there's no way he was going to allow pink anything. I was secretly jumping for joy because I was hoping for a girl (although I would have loved either) - I just love dressing little girls up and doing their hair etc.

Anyway, my grandaughter is now 9 months old and totally loved by all of us - and her daddy says that he can't imagine being without her and as for the "no pink" ban - that went out the window the moment he saw her and now he's as much into buying her the girly dresses and pink stuff as we are!!

Just enjoy the new and very precious addition to your family - no point getting down over it. She is part of you.

Congratulations and all the best - Athena

When I was expecting my children, I have to admit to not wanting two boys. One of each or two girls would sit me fine. I ended up with two girls. Eldest has just had her second child - a boy, but her first child was a ,now aged 5 - and a more lovely child would be difficult to find (all right - I'm biased!!)
I just hope the boy grows up to be as kind and thoughtful as his sister. I will be the first to declare him 'spawn of the devil' if he's a thoughless brute.
Doesn't matter what they are as long as they're healthy and nice people

As for carrying on the name, my daughter wasn't married to her daughters father and grand daughter's surname is father's name -mother's name, so daughter's name goes on!!

maggie

Oh And Congratulations,Harry:-))
I have 2 Grandaughters and believe me when you see them growing up its just lovely:-))
x

Well I am a very lucky grandparents to a girl and a boy and am delighted with both, BUT if I am entirely honest when my first grandchild was on the way I was hoping deep down that it was a girl - which it was. Reason for this I think was that I only had one child myself, my son, and the thought of the 'girly' side was quite appealing. Having said all this, my main concern at the time was that everything went well and baby was fine - the fact that it was indeed a girl first time round was a bonus. Equally, I must say I was just as excited when grandson was on the way. As I said at the start I am very lucky and both my grandchildren are the apples of my eye.

Just a brief comment, ask a parent who has lost a child, they miss that special connection one has with ones own blood - their arms are empty - their child is gone, their future. If another child is born after a child death, at delivery the only thing that is important is that the child is alive, and is yours, health can be treated, in the end the sex doesn't matter. This precious little girl will tug at your heart- strings, and before you know it she'll be wrapping you round her little finger.
BTW I have 3 granddaughters and one grandson.
No offence intended,
Mary

Harry I admire you for your honesty :o))

I diddnt want to know what I was carrying both times, and when Kyle was born I was overjoyed, but still had a few moments of reflection thinking "No pink things". which lasted all of two seconds :o))

Also when he was born, hubby shouted YES !!!! (he had a daughter from his first marriage & diddnt mind what we had but I could sense that Kyle was his icing on the cake.)

Pregnancy two, I convinced myself I was carrying a boy and was happy about it, now i know its because I yearned for a girl I was so convinced she was going to be a he.

When she was born i couldn't believe it & kept on calling her "He" I was secretly even more overjoyed I was lucky to have one of each.

I would have been also overjoyed had I had two of the same sex as well. I was lucky to have had them, they are a privilege :o))

Ive a mate who has two boys, and sometimes with other mums, this sort of conversation comes round, and my mate says every time, "I'm glad ive only got boys, I dont really like girls" when I know its because she secretly wanted a girl and although loves her boys with a passion, feels guilty she still would have loved a girl...feels as if shes betraying her boys thinking that..

I also agree we like to see a bit of ourselves in our children, so have the perception a girl is like mum and a boy is like dad...think its natural, its what we en visualise :o))

Two things arising from the comments. My eldest son has one of each, which is possibly the ideal.
My youngest son/wife lost their first child in the womb, so this outcome is particularly good - but I still think it is natural to have a slight preference.

Happy days (and may all your troubles be little ones0

Congratulation on the birth of you granddaughter and lots of happy days Valxxx

I would dearly love a grandchild - boy or girl, wouldn't care, but I ain't going to be getting one - sobs uncontrollably!!!!!

Harry, i quite understand where you are coming from - I would love grandchildren and for me a little girl would be the choice, but I would love any little one as you do too I am sure.
I know the momentary feeling of disappointment, as I was convinced I was having a girl when I was pregnant in the 80's. Having lost my daughter who was born ten weeks prem and lived for just three days, I was sure I was carrying this baby the same way and got girly things ready, only to deliver a boy. Due to my age and circumstances, I was fairly sure this would be my one and only child, I was right, and for 'it' to be a boy instead of the girl I was hoping for, was a bitter disappointment. However once I got over the surprise, I loved my son to bits and still do, he is 25 and we are very close, and he is a great lad.
Yes, I still yearn for my daughter, a daughter, to do the girly things with but it wasn't to be, and I am lucky to have a son who is my pride and joy.
He actually likes shopping and we have fun doing the charity shops together some times and I hope when he decides to settle down, in the not too distant future as I am getting older by the year, he helps produce a brood of grandchildren girls and boys to let me spoil.
Hope your new little granddaughter has a long, happy and healthy life full of love, friendship and football too if it turns out to be her thing loll
Lizx