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i think Breast is best
the problem is some peeps dont like to see it in public

I was in agony and it didnt do anything for bonding, as my son screamed with hunger. Shoving that plastic bottle in his mouth was the best thing I ever did. LOL.

I don't agree with breastfed babies bonding better; nobody is closer than my son and I but he didn't even have a sniff of breast milk.

He and I were very ill, he was born early and moved to another hospital before I was even round from the anaesthetic, and I didn't see him until he was 10 days old. He was fed at the other hospital through a nasal tube with formula milk.

They asked me if I wanted to express milk to keep my milk going for him later, but when they said that my milk would be expressed and then thrown away for several days due to the drugs I was on, I said no!

I had planned to breastfeed him, but it just wasn't to be.

Something that's always got to me (I don't think it really applies in the example I'm going to give) is, how adoptive parents must feel, hearing the "breast is best" thing all the time.

Being fostered and then adopted myself, I very much doubt I was breast fed at all, because - obviously - my foster mother and adoptive mother couldn't.

If I have kids, I would like to breast-feed but if it just doesn't work (which it doesn't for some people) I don't think they should be made to feel bad because their baby won't take to it, but the "breast is best" is being pushed so much I wonder if some mums do end up feeling like that.

I see all of your views and I being a bottle fed baby myself have a very close bond with my mum even now...its just from what friends have told us breast is best and it worked for us and no Kate no Mum should be pushed into breast feeding

I was mothers help/Nanny to a couple who adopted a very young baby...she was offered the medication to bring on breast milk.

Whichever a Mum is more comfortable doing is best for both the baby & Mum.
With the numerous food intolerances that some modern children have, it may be said that the milk supplied by Mother nature is the best, as what the mother eats is passed on to the baby, so reducing the chance of food intolerance at the weaning stage.
The modern trend of mothers dieting to quickly get back to their previous weight/dress size also means that the quality of their breast milk could be affected.

I breast fed both of my children for the first 3months, then my body did not produce enough to keep them satisfied, so just fed in the mornings when they first woke.

An interesting point, Kate. I too was adopted and my birth mother took great delight in telling me that she didn't breastfeed me in the 6 weeks that she had me (amongst lots of other not nice things!).

My Mum (adoptive) and I had a very close bond that was formed without the aid of breastfeeding.

Mandy :)

Interestingly, Mandy, I was nearly five months by the time I was placed with my adoptive parents. I'd been ill for the first couple of months of my life, then was fostered so I had a routine by the time my adopted parents got me. (Apparently, the first night, I slept past ten o'clock when I was supposed to have a feed and they had a discussion about whether to wake me up or not.) I've always got on very well with my mum and dad.

But my sister came to us at four days and my parents had many sleepless nights which was very stressful (my mum slept downstairs with her because my dad had to get some sleep because he had to work) and I think my sister was quite demanding. She's grown up to have quite a volatile relationship with my parents and we are like chalk and cheese.

of course its personal choice, i said, " in my eyes " i think its best

but of course there are lots of reasons why a baby cant be breast fed, on many grounds,

and your comments about the bonding, are probably right, if a mother is loving and caring of course the bond between mother and child is there no matter how when or where fed

and i hadnt looked at it from the adoption point of view,
food for thought, so to speak

xxLynnxx

lol I breast fed a long time!..no problem, and whether it was due to that or not, son had few colds etc. and it's cheap and convenient lol

Rose x

Both my girls were bottle fed and both are very healthy . I bonded with them immediately,so I never had any problem there.

I agree it's personal choice. I didn't like the thought of either having to disappear to the loos or go home if a feed was due and I'm not the kind of person who would blatantly breast feed in front of people. Not that there is a thing wrong with it - I would have just been personally uncomfortable with it. xx

I think breast feeding should be personal choice, but no-one should be made to feel guilty for not doing it.

I breast fed both mine for 6 months and quite enjoyed it. I also found it convenient not having to carry bottles everywhere because it was always "on tap" If I had to breast feed while we were out somewhere I used to try to do it in the car where it didn't bother anyone,

I was unable to breast feed my first child although I did try .One night a young girl in the bed opposite was sobbing her heart out , she had books on her cabinet "breast is best" etc etc .She had been trying for over a week and was devistated , baby was crying all the time .
Told her .. forget it , give him a bottle , she did ...result happy Mum and happy baby.
Didn,t even think about it with second , straight on the bottle ..dad gave him his first feed while I had a shower .
Both of them are now 6ft tall eat like horses but are not a pound overweight and are very rarely ill
As for bonding ? can,t get rid of em .. LOL
Kim xxx

It's interesting about the health aspect too. Apart from the first term at nursery/school/Uni when he picked up everything going, he's very healthy. Even his epilepsy is controlled.

Mine is like yours Kim! :-)

Breast is supposedly the best but what if the mother isn't comfortable with doing it? The upset it causes the mum, which is then passed on to the child, the mother rejecting the child, when simply bottle feeding would be the answer, not necessarily because it is more convieniant. The pressure and guilt a new mother can feel when they want to bottle feed instead of breast feeding, can be so detrimental to her. Yes, I have been there, I would never push a mum into breast feeding just give her the options, my boys never suffered from bottle feeding
Janet

Breast is best because its ideally tailored to what a human baby needs. There can be no argument in that respect.

No formula milk can match it. Formula milk is made from cow's milk. Cow's milk is ideally suited to calves, not humans.

Dee
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I breastfed my eldest for 7 months and my youngest for 4months.
Daughter breastfed my grandaughter for 9 months
I think nature knows best but it is up to the individual

Bunny x

Dee , both mine were fed on Millupa ..soya milk (for very hungry babies ) not a cow in sight ... I agree nature does know best but is not always obliging ... LOL :^)))
Kim xxx

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Breast is best because its ideally tailored to what a human baby needs. There can be no argument in that respect.

My nan once told me that she nearly killed my auntie through trying to breast feed her. There were NO nutrients in her milk. I also read about a case where a woman wanted to breast feed but there turned out to be a medical reason why she couldn't.

I have to agree with Jax (and anyone else who mentioned it) the best way is the one that makes mum and baby happy.

I also have to agree with Puss, there is too much pressure put on mums to breastfeed nowadays. If the mum wants to breastfeed and everything works out then she should be encouraged but if it doesn't work out then she should not be made to feel a failure as some are. Breastfeeding is a skill that does have to be learnt, to some it does come naturally but to others it takes time, there can be problems, they should be helped to make the best decision for them and baby be it breast or bottle.

Although I breast fed all mine, it was very, very hard work with first after emergency c section , asleep and hungry 9 and a half pound baby!!

It is down to choice and a Mum should always be supported, whatever choice she makes. I was a breast feeding counsellor but I knew it wasnt always what worked or was wanted. If it is, then yes, it is a wonderful experience,


Caz xxx