General Chat

thanks all

I don't hate any relatives, but there are two uncles I dislike and don't trust, one is dead now (not mourned by me). My father and I rubbed along (I disliked his drinking and arguing with mum). My mum I mourned for at least a year, and still feel her absence. I feel sad about the stories on here of families hating each other, but you can not choose your relations only your friends. and you don,t keep friends who let you down. Joy

I dont hate any of mine. Some I have more time for than others though. I do feel for those of you who have good reason to 'hate' Marion

there are 3 that I dislike passionately but hate is a very strong word! I don't think there is a person that I have met that I actually HATE!! I think I would have had to have loved someone very much and been seriously wronged to feel like that!! They do say there is a very fine line between love and hate xx

Love em all just don't like some of them....lol I'm of the opinion *Hate* gives the other person some control over you (emotionally), and i refuse to give them that, they're not worth my time or energy! Susie x

Yes Hoff my ex husband and his wife, he is weak, she is evil. But I agree it eats away at you and affects you badly, My eldest three kids were made to feel by their step Mum that they were worthless, dirty and that i wasnt bringing them up properly. i wish now id been stronger but she is the type who would smugly smile and deny it all while my ex hid behind her. The kids were ignored, they pleaded to be allowed to see their dad and were occassionally slotted in. I will never forget Josh, then aged 9 ringing on Fathers day to see if he could see his dad , to be told he was having a 'family meal with his wife and her child' i will NEVER forgive them for the damage they did to my kids self esteem, I just hope one day they spit in his face, sorry but it gets to me big time, hugs to all who hurt, caz xxx

just to lighten this...........Lindy, your lucky lucky she wasnt buried at sea, at least you can dance.......................

thank you to Kitty and Lisa, have pm'd you both

I hated my ' Mil from hell' for many years but showed her the respect that was due to her because that's the way I was brought up.... After she died I thought that the feelings would go away but it did not, they gnawed at my insides. Finally I learned to let go and saw her for what she was. A pathetic, unhappy dried up woman with a stone instead of a heart. Lindy,... who treats her future 'Dil' as a gift from heaven who will one day give me beautiful grandchildred. ;)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

so sorry to hear of your sad loss of your daughter Taff. lisa

Hate,,, Its peoples actions that make us hate them,for what they have done,,,,,,,,,

I'm so sorry that so many people are suffering. Susan

Not hate but deep dislike and as i have grown older learnt that no matter what this person has done to make me have these feelings he cant get to me anymore and i have put the past behind me and look to a future without him in it.

oh, yes the father of one of my grand kids, he got my daughter on heroin, now shes DEAD!!! that done me good, to get it off my chest

I HATE MY MOTHER, I HAD AN AWFUL LIFE WITH HER. AND SHE KEPT ME AWAY FROM MY DAD FOR 32 YEARS. LISA

the fact that someone can generate such a strong emotion in you is distressing but in a way is letting them have the upper hand.To treat them with indifference or make a desicion to put them and their behaviour firmly in the past and move on without them having an influence is probably the best and only option in the end.I speak from personal experience.

Not hate.....but keep a million miles away from one of OH's Aunts.......very peculiar spoilt old lady.....never understand her...

I'm sorry you are feeling the way you are, Hoff. It can eat away at your soul and I hope you feel better soon. I have nothing but contempt for one of my brothers. When Dad was ill he asked to see him and we tracked him down. He came, gave us his mobile number (which he promptly had changed) and we haven't seen him since. When Dad died last Oct. the only way we could let him know was to have his ex-wife ring his work place and leave a message. He didn't come to the funeral, nor ring Mum and he told his sons that he didn't get the message and knew nothing about it. I will never forgive him and I just know that when Mum goes he will come out from under his rock wanting to know what she has left him. I don't hate him, too strong an emotion to waste on him. He's 50 next month, sad, lonely, disliked by his sons and his ex-wife who did herself a favour when she kicked him out. Sorry, but he has hurt us all so much. Susan

I wouldn't say I hated my father more a case of feeling nothing for him one way or the other. He was a sperm donor....... Had nothing to do with my life but everything to do with his son from his second marriage !!!! Lin x

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