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I am tracing my mothers side of the family, she passed away christmas day 1996. Her picture is next to the computer, when we get info it falls on the floor. We dont know what she is trying to tell us... Any body out there now of these things???

Could it be that when you do get info you get excited and jump about and that causes the photograph to fall over? I have had similar experiences, but usually with a glass of red! Jacqui

Just remember - there are only two types of people that ghosts bother - those that believe in them and those that don't Badger

And I'm one of them Badger Bill (but as I work in the funeral trade I dont really know which one!) Jacqui

Hi Gillian! You're Mom's more than likely just letting you know she's around! If you really wan to know if she, or someone is there, there are ways to tell. If you seriously wan to know to know let me know and I'll send you details on how. Judy

Hi Judy I would really love to know if mom is watching and helping. I did go to see a medium some years back, and she told me things about mom that nobody could ever have know, even down to the music played at the funeral.

Hi Badger Bill, I am a believer, dont tell me you have never had some sort of experience in your life........ I lived in my moms house just after she died, me and my boyfriend were em shall I say petting.. Her picture flew off the wall. scared us both to death, and he wasnt a believer, now he is.

hi gillian i really believe it is your mum ,just letting you know thats shes still looking after you. hubby and me also went to a medium and the first thing she told my hubby was that "dad says sorry,he wished hed told you he loved you" my hubbys dad never showed any affection to hubby or his brother.it was so accurate!!! susie

Susie, Thanks susie, very grateful

I used not to believe in such things and tended to investigate with demolition in mind. My favourite word once being "rubbish". However, still a pragmatist, I have to accept that such things do exist, having had incontrovertible evidence. It is one of those things - you have to have your own experience and follow it it up. Other people's tales are just that. And the sceptics never will believe until they too have a personal experience. The odd thing is that many of the sceptics claim to have a religion - and they are denying the fundamentals of their own belief system, some are funeral directors too.

The idea of a loved one to still be "around" is great..however, it is in our nature to look for something that in reality is not actually there..Susie who replies with the medium's message...I really think that is such a general message..do we really tell everyone we love, how much we love them all the time, if at all! days gone by it was normal..not to be "soppy" with the family....but you take the message because it is real to you..I am sure these mediums are under some illusion that they are providing some sort of comfort..As for the picture "flying off the wall" did it fly or did it fall? what do you want to believe ..that is the question.

Again this goes to a saying I saw on this site "We are not Humans having a spiritual experience, we are spirits having a human experience" Why would so many explained things occur and it might also explain why we are obsessed with finding life on other planets...... what makes being a human so special? I'd rather revert to spirit than nothing on the day of reckoning!! Dee

So would many people Dee..Hence why Mediums do so well..difficult to imagine that we die and that is it!! NO evidence to prove anything else happens..only a few peoples "stories" no matter how convincing to them...no REAL evidence exits..oh unless you watch "Most Haunted" of course :o)

As Leonard so rightly said - it is very hard to believe other people's stories - it is only when you have had a personal experience that you start thinking about these things ........ I still try to keep an open mind, but I have had so many personal experiences that if someone says they've experienced something, then I tend to believe them!

Ah..personal experience..a bit like personal faith..not very quantifiable is it? - perceptions...of what we think we see and hear....as for reality well....nothing like a good mystery. Eh, an EXCELLENT book on this subject..if you can get it now is Michael Bentine's (yes he of The Goons and Potty Time) "The Door Marked Summer" ..v.good read..even sceptics like me..have to think more than twice having read this book!!

Ha Ha Ha He He He Oh Jacqueline love your sense of humour, can't stop laughing. Linda

As Leonard has decided that I am "a sceptic and denying the fundamentals of my own belief (system?)", I feel I really ought to join in this debate further. My initial remark was prompted not to scorn, merely to ask why Gillian would assume that the photograph would only fall over when "information was received". I'm a down to earth sort of person, and do not look for evidence of the paranormal when a perfectly logical explanation could be forthcoming. Whereas Gillian obviously thinks her mother's spirit is guiding or influencing her in some way. I do however also take the view that if anyone thinks they have had such an "experience" then that is good enough for me; personally I never have had such an "experience", nor have any of my colleagues in the funeral trade I have consulted. Grief and bereavement bring raw emotions to the surface, and often these emotions can be perhaps misinterpreted - however, if comfort is drawn from experiences such as those stated then who am I to deny them? I do however take strong exception to Leonard's comment about denying my own beliefs - as he has no knowledge of my beliefs (religious of otherwise) he has no right to comment on them. Jacqui

I will not keep adding to this thread..(thankfully) but having just read jacqui's message...I understood what Leonard was on about..not "believing" till you experienced it yourself..and life after death for religious people etc...but..what was the Funeral Director comment about? Is he suggesting funeral directors should believe in life after death..if so why? I think Jacqui's comments are excellent......

Andrew - Leonard was having a dig at me as I am a funeral director! Jacqui

Jacqui - TOTALLY bewildered as to why! :o)