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my mother-in law has been taken out for the past three years on mothers day by us with us paying.said to my hubby might be nice for just us and my daughter to go out and for me to be spoilt for a change.my hubby told my mother-in law this morning only for her to say well don't you want to take me and your father out!what a selfish women.not only do we take her out but we pay for it aswellxxxxxxx(:

mother in laws dont start me on that one lisa shame she cant think of you as a mum too isnt it hope you have a nice day anyway and it turns out how you want

Lisa... to put another side to it.... she won't be around forever so maybe the Mother's days that you give up now for her will be worth it in the memories!! Pink xx

he is an only child so he is expected to do it.it's not the first time this has happened and quite frankly i am getting sick of ity.she is centre of attention when mothers day comes around and i think my hubby forgets that i am the mother of his child and i deserve to be spoilt sometimesxxxx(:

I too think you should put your foot down,your mum in law sounds the type i have heard of ,and would hate having ,it's time for you ,you ,you ,and not me ,me ,me.Fred.ptfg.&a&g&s.

diane i think she expects it now and that is wrong .my mother doesn't and never has.we have to bend over backwards for her.she is around here most christmas's .she could outlive me and i could be saying the same things.she just likes causing rucktions between me and my husband.it goes back along way not just on mothers daysxxxx(:

deanna i can understand that.but i am the mother of his child and i feel that i need top feel special on mothers day.we have taken her out three years running and i feel it would be nice for me my daughter and my husband to go out.that is what my daughter wants to doxxxxxxxxxxx(:

i know what she is like .she will not do that.i have a mother aswell and i have not taken my mother out for years as we have always taken her out.but my mother does not stand there whinging about itxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(:

lisa have you considered putting her nose out of joint by asking your mum along get them both a bunch of flowers and say these are for both of you , its a pleasure to have both mums join us, she would feel gobsmaked im sure, and your mum would feel top dollar, i think its your hubbys lack of tacked thats at the bottom of it really isnt it, he doesnt think, your daughter needs to sit him down and have a word in his ear, though ive said my mother in laws evil and i wouldnt want to sit at a table with her, if she appologised to my husband for the way shes treated him over the last 41 years and the way shes spoken to my daughter, id consider inviting her here for a cuppa, but thats it, on the other hand if only i could have my mum back , i know we would all go out for sunday lunch

same here julie anne.my hubby has actually had to have counselling for her stupid mind games and possesivness which has dogged him all through his life.i have told him i will not put up with it and either should hexxxxx(:

deanna i would so love to do that but he cannot go round his mums or out with his mum without me.can get very suffocating.he is frigtened to offend her.we should be seen as a family.i am getting drawn into something that i do not want to be drawn into.it's his mother.so he should be taking her outxxxxx(:

I wish my mother-in-law was still here to be able to rake out.. I am sorry that yours acts in such a selfish way Lisa, she needs to think herself lucky she still has the options that she has!! Maz x

My children do take me out for Mothers Day...but because they now have children of their own... we make it another day and pretend... they are the ones that get the real day, and I think it's a lovely gesture... I still get spoilt no matter what the day is!!! Anne.

How about you and your daughter and hubby going for lunch on your own and inviting the 2 Mums round for a special tea? As an only child his mum would expect to see him on Mother's Day. Can't you compromise somehow?

I have deleted my answers Lisa, as I dont know what else to say. I have been a very misunderstood mil, but NEVER demanding. I am a completely spoilt mother, I have to say but,I have NEVER expected anything. I have just been blessed with a wonderful son. Please dont run away with the idea that hes a mummies boy because he is not. We can argue very loudly and very long...he is not afraid to tell me I'm wrong and, i'm never afraid to tell him. Deanna BUT IT IS YOUR BUSINESS AND NOT MINE. You'll do what is right for you.x

Hi lisa. as someone said earlier, your time will come when your children are old enough to treat you, you are not your husbands mother, he is an only child, so put yourself out for her, she may not show her appreciation outwardly but that doesn't mean she's not grateful!, like me, one day, you are likely to have no mother or mother-in-law, so please make the effort to make this lady happy.

gwynne we are going round there with her present and seeing her on mothers day it's just the way she said aren't you taking your father and me out for a meal.with us paying.they shouldn't expect that.she will see us though and will be going round with a present and a cardxxxx(:

patricia i could not live without my mother but mother-in laws i can live without.LOLxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(:

Hi Lisa, I hope you work things out. We always managed to see both our Mothers on Mothering Sunday. We went for lunch with one and go for tea with the other. I would have hated a mothers' day to pass without seeing my Mum. We used to do something special for me the day before. I'd give the world to have both our mothers with us next Sunday. What does he want to do? Gwynne

thanks deannaxxxxxx(: