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Hiya Lisa yes thats what I`m hoping my doctor is brilliant and has been asking hubby to change for years so will be pleased if he does

deperate i would say that is his best option.changing doctors.they are all different and can give him good advice and help him with his problemxxxxxx(:

Friendly nudgy so all who heped can read.

Right good morning to you all, the weekend did`nt go of to bad, just a couple of dodgy moments but on the whole ok. I was ill yesterday morning and that frightens him because he knows that I only ever go to bed if really bad so he kept quite a good lid on things yesterday. The good news is he was saying has`nt got much faith in this doctor he is under now and I said about changing to mine and he said needed to discuss this later so fingers crossed. Going now as he is comming in cya

How did the wedding go yesterday? I do hope you managed to enjoy your self ((((X))))

Bryan, I would love to read the article if it is not to much bother for you to put it on, thanks again Christine thanks for the suggestion, but hubby had load of blood test in April and all clear, also heart and colestrol tests.

There is a good article in the Telegraph on St John,s wort for depression. The doctor says is has a rating of 3 which is better than a lot of other things. Three apparently means it is effective on one in three people. The doctor himself cannot manage without it. best of luck Happy days

Nudging till feel well enough to reply, Been Ill all morning dodgy parmo I think or bug

To all that have replied I will get back to you on Sunday. NTL have been off since 5 and just gone back on, I will get through wedding tommorrow and answer on sunday Thyanks again your help has been great

dear desperate, i help out on a site called'nomorepanic' and one of the ladies on there has written an excellent article about this subject. she has overcome anxiety/depression/IBS/panic...so much so,that she has carried on her career as a show-jumper. its a long article,but if you like i will copy and paste it on here. let me know! bryan.

hi there, i have e mailed my friend -- will get back to you when she replies, sue. xxx

im so sorry,i used to work for a lady of the gentry,and for 2 weeks a year we used to have this lady with severe depression.now im a happy person generally but by the time she left we all felt low.anything that was suggested got the answer done it tried it ,it does,nt work.its mentally exhausting for people in your position and my heart goes out to you.but the bad news is i dont think theres anything that can be done other than tablets.

Thanks, Lily. Joy

Joy - I've e-mailed you. Lily

Desperate, I bought the written one, it is a lot of money, which is the only downside to it as it means many people couldn't afford it, but for the support that they offer, and the advice that they give, it really isn't too bad. The upside is that if it doesn't work, they will give you a refund. I hope this helps you a bit, best wishes, Sunny

Lily - do you mind me messaging you? Joy

Hi Lily, Nelly Sue and Lisa, thanks and yes I`m walking on eggshell all the time with him, just popped out to get hair cut for this wedding tomorrow come in and all he can say is there is mouse in the garden, not oh that looks nice am I still here as aperson or have I gone down the drain. I know I have to look out for myself, but what do you do!! as you say you love them but boy can this be hard.

Sadly, they hit out at those nearest to them. I have no advice to offer but wish, with hindsight, that I had got out years ago - as I have been no help to my depressed husband whatsoever, according to him! But, I struggled on (we have a son who needed a dad), and we now live as two total strangers, sadly. To anyone with this problem (and the patient won't accept that there is one), make your own life before it's too late. Lily

Desperate, glad you found some help in what I said and it reminded you of the card. Please feel free to e a personal reply if you need any help, I know that the hard part of this is you still love the person who is tearing their own and everyone elses life to shreds. Sometimes the love makes you want to protect them, but you need to help yourself aswell or everything falls to bits, be determined and get help, if he was a child you would not think twice, and at the moment he is not functioning properly. Be strong, be kind to yourself too, you do matter. Good luck, will be thinking of you. x

as afellow sufferer of depression i feel for you and your husband.you because i know the destructive way depression can almost destroy a relationship through no fault of the sufferers and thepartnerof the sufferer as when it takes hold you really cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel.people become dependant on their partners for support and comfort when they can see nothing else in their lives.it can be the slightest thing that triggers it off.the only advice i can really give is the first thing is your husband should seek help.it will not go away on it's own.like me he may need medication to get his mind back on track.councilling is also a good thing to find out what is upsetting him and making him depressed.there is usually an underlying problem.could be a bad experience from his childhood or something that has happened lately.just remeber he does love you and the way he is acting is the illness not the man you married.hope that helps.love and hugsxxx(: