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forgive my morbidness at the moment guys but i have a huge black cloud over me and i can't shift it!! This is not the whole reason but my divorce gets heard today and I can't bear it.... i never ever expected to be a divorcee and me no like it!! I know thats daft especially as i know my husband isn't the man for me right now, but its how i feel and I can't shift it!! Doc has declared me clinically depressed - my seratonin (sp??) levels are low apparently and my boss won't let me go to work!! feel useless and a failure.... and please don't think want your praise as that's the last thing I can accept right now.... all I want is for you all to just understand if i am not myself at the moment!!

Yeah Pink!! I agree!! If you think about it.. we took our vows meaning every word of them at the time, now some guy in a suit tells us that we are no longer part of a couple!! we are on our own in the legal sense of the word! Having the divorce finalised is as emotional as having the marriage recognised!! It bl**dy hurts but its a different sort of pain!! Karen

Diana, Can't say anything -- just here if you need me x Even if I'm useless :))

Babe....I am going thru the same right now....still fighting over the access issues etc....thought I would be pleased to see it all in writing and black and white but that just aint the case at all...its horrible - even when you know its for the best.......if you ever need a moan then please feel free to contact me.....I congratulate you for being strong enough to do the right thing by yourself ( and any kids you have). I am also going to see the doctor regarding depression as some days I feel I just cant cope and with the support of friends in real life and on here I know I will get thru it.....when I get my final divorce papers we should have a drink together in celebration and commiseration of what has happened and what should have been.... Huge big hugs to you right now as I can totally identify with you going thru this really tough time! Jill x x x x

Pinky Girl - been there done it got the T-shirt - however there will be better things ahead. May not seem like it now but there will be - trust me. Divorce over and you can move ahead. Take care Ann

Was going to text you honey (had put a reminder in my phone about today). I'm sorry you're feeling like you are, am new to the whole depression thing myself but if you want to talk about it I'm always here for you. I am so very sorry that you're going through this, you above most people I know and love deserve such happiness, and you know what...? One day you will find it, because truly decent people like you get their just desserts eventually. Sending you loads of love and positive thoughts becx XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXx

You are not useless and a failure. A divorce is extremely stressful. You'd be very unusual if you sailed through it without a second thought. Don't beat yourself up.

Have messaged you Diana ... am here to listen any time... even if you want to just sound off!! Bless you chuck.. Anne :))) xxx

thanks guys.... don't wanna chat, just want people to know why me so distant at the moment and why me not a bundle of laughs!! Going over to bestest friend (my rock of gibralter as she's known..... strong, solid and always there) tomorrow for a night of girlie chat and reminiscing about the laughs we've had over the 27 years we have known each other and no doubt shed a few tears for things gone by!! i will get thru this but its gonna take time and effort on my part and me not rushing it for no-one.... cos for once in my life me looking out for ME!! diana xx

GOOD LUCK! Lily

Thinking of you Diana. Take some time out for YOU. Gwyn

Diana, Its understandable that you think as you do, after all none of us go into a marriage intending to get divorced, We are all here if you need us but we wont intrude. June xx

Dear Diana...have no words of wisdom except to say that I think you are a very special, strong woman. Don't be too tough on yourself. XX BC

Am thinking of you today, Diana, take care there :)

Diana, I'll be thinking of you at this difficult time. Helenxx

Hi Pink having just started on the same road, some days I feel it's hardly worth showing my face. I know it's a struggle but you have to keep your chin up. Big (((HUGS))) coming your way. Your GR family are all behind you. Ken x

Hi Diana, Just to let you know I am thinking of you. Of course you will get through this because when it comes to the crunch you will find you are strong enough. But I can imagine how painful it all is. 2005 has not been a good year for you with gaynor's death and now this. Look after yourself we all love you. Tak care Ann Glos

Diana, Hope the day passes quickly for you. I can empathise in a way, it's never easy saying goodbye to the past. As others have said - things do get easier. Take Care Paul xx

Diana, Know exactly how you feel. Been there, done that. It doesn't make it any easier if people commiserate, it's something you just have to work through for yourself - and you WILL - just give yourself a little time to adjust. It's hard to reconcile the things you've lost and to feel as if you personally have failed, but you will come to terms with it. You're such a positive person by nature, and once the official side is past and you get your 'Absolute', you can allow yourself to enjoy the freedom fully and carve a new path. Head up, and think of YOUR future. CB >|< XX

Hi Pink, have been through what you're going through and although it was definitely a struggle it made me stronger. My ex was my life at the time as all my immediate family had died. I had 3 small children to feed and clothe as well (existed on social security money as ex wouldn't pay towards the childrens upkeep) - it was pure hell at times but I got back out in the world and joined clubs etc . I admit I had to push myself to do it (I'd rather have stayed at home in front of the box) but it was worth it. Met a super man 2 years later and we have now been very happily married for 19 years. So don't be beaten, it will all come out good in the end, I promise.