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if you love someone no matter wot......and you're not sure how they feel about you...when do you give up hoping????

Do they know how you feel?

Now this is something I will be interested to read ........ for me it feels like never!!!

yes maz they know how i feel!! lol

So what is the actual situation here? Need more info to be able to give real opinion!

you happen to be going thru the same then Anne??

someone who means the world to me Maz and i know he has feeling but there is a 2 hour distance between us......long and drawn out but basics of it are this..he never been married no kids and i think scared of commitment.....i come as package with 3 kids and two hours drive lol.....but i know there is something there!! lol

So this person knows how you feel... you know he cares.. but not sure how much.. yes?

You need to ask this person where you stand babe... you know.. ASK!! where do i stand? am i wasting my time? do we have a future?

he knows exactly how i feel.....wont commit...keeps saying the distance is too much of a big thing but still comes down to visit.....

Good advice ladies ............. Maz - trouble is most people wont ask for fear of the answer :O(

ok so the truth is this you dont ask outright, and you never know??? you just carry on as you are and get maybe strung along or you ask outright, know exactly where you stand and if the reply is not what you are seeking then at least you will know you have to move on babe Maz x

But what if they are so confused they don't know ???

at the moment I feel that i would rather have him in my life in wotever way than not at all.....so i dont ask him!!! lol

Then give them space until they and you have sorted yourselves out... !

Thanks for that Maz - you give good advice - I for one will try and heed it :O)

maz.....i am being the most patient that i have ever been in my life for him!! lol cos i feel so much for him....believe you me thats not my style lol....i go go go for it....but he is really special and i do feel that he needs time to adjust to everything that is involved.....i just dont know how much time is reasonable to expect.....and how much I am hoping for the possibly impossible lol!

Anne i have to admit that i am a great believer in wots for you wont go by you......but.....lol if you have already been together in every sense of it then I would also say wait and see wot happens.....

Thanks Jill :O) I wish you luck - I hope things turn out the way you want xx

I sincerely hope you dont think that was too hard a reply, because reading back on it, I may have sounded rather harsh then... what I meant by it was... I am married to Dave.. I worship the ground he walks on and I mean that with all my heart.. he is one of the main reasons, I struggle to draw breathe every morning!.. but... If he turned to me and said 'I need time apart, I am leaving you to sort myself out' I would say ok.. I would be devastasted!! but I would say ok!.. Then I would give him time to get himself sorted.. during this time however, I would not expect him to come back when ever his 'needs' saw fit!.. I would expect him to take that time to sort himself out, and come back to me with a solution as to what he wants. If he turned round and said it was over, then I would die inside for a while, but I would not fight for something that is not there, If he didn't want to be with me then so be it, I cant make him and wouldn't want to.. I would only want him there if that is what he wanted!... I hope I haven't upset anyone.. and if I have I am truly sorry.. Very difficult to put emotions into words! Maz x