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My darling mum is in the advanced stages of dementia and it finally happened today ( I visit her every day in her care home) - she hadn't a clue who I was. This has been coming for a long time but it still hits hard. Mums are so precious and I am so glad that my mum knew what she meant ( and still means) to me before this dreadful disease took hold.

Hi Ginny Sorry to hear about your mum. ((((((HUGS)))))) Juliexx

ginny so sorry to hear about your mum, my heart go's out to you maryclare

hi ginny, i am dreading the day when hubby visits his dad in the care home, and harry does not recognise him. i have discussed it with al, but nothing can prepare him for it. at the moment we are having to cope with him telling everyone that we have emigrated [?] but , i am sure the day he does not recognise alan is not far off.it is like losing them slowly... as you said, a very cruel disease. sue. xxx

(((HUGS))) for you and your poor Mam xxxx

it is cruel for those who have to watch its heart breaking and ginny all i can say is my thoughts are with you and i send you a hug,

Hi Ginny, I know exactly how you feel,I am in the same situation,with my darling mum in a nursing home. We the family have waited for that day when she didnt remember,it comes as a shock,no matter how prepared you are. My mum introduced me to a nurse ,saying,'Have you met my neice'? I reminded her of course,that I was her daughter, silly me she said how could I forget. I said if you forget I will remind you. Dementia is such a cruel disease,and nothing can help it,just take each day. In the summer,I took mum into the grounds of the nursing home,the sun was shining,the birds were singing,I made a daisy chain for her,and picked some buttercups,she loved every minute of the warm sunshine and fresh air,she was happy,but for me I sat there fighting back the tears,for awhile,I was the little girl,in the park,making daisy chains with my mum. My heart feels for you. love trish xxxxx

The dreadful thing is that I am going on Friday to the funeral of the mother of a good friend. The lady died quite suddenly so it was a shock and I just think how lucky my friend is to have been spared the heartache that my sister and are suffering

tears were rolling down my cheeks today and mum held my hand and asked if she could help me - not even aware of who I was.

Ginny, i dont really know what to say to you apart from it sounds like you and your mum share loads of love and she wont ever forget that completely. Love and hugs Sheila x

A big hug for you Ginny....(((((((hug)))))) BC

Think I know what you mean... fortunately my Mum still remembers me - not sure for how long this will be. Took her for 'walk' along the sea front this morning and she was singing her heart out. Same song over and over again but it still cheered me up because if she sings then it means she is happy. Just try and see some good in what is quite a horrible situation. Lyndax

Ginny there are not many words that i can say you and all the other people on here that have to cope with this my heart goes out to you with a big (((HUG))) Howardxx

ginny, im so sorry about your mum, it is a terrible illness. Roxanne xx

Hi Ginny, I worked in a EMI (elderly mentaly infirm) nursing home for nine years and witnessed the rapid decline of residents and the heartbreak of their relatives ( some of them) I used to pray that this cruel disease would never hit my parents, it didn't, like your friend, my mum and dad died very suddenly after a short illness, so, yes, i got away with 'living' with it, however, my sister was diagonised with a serious mental illness, and i now spend a lot of time caring for her and her 13 year old son.

I have been a nurse myself for 21 years and even that has not prepared me for this. I know that I will be there for her every day until the release comes - I just need to but shares in Kleenex!

Thankyou all so much for your kind words and thoughts

Ginny, Did you know that Alzheimers is going to be highlighted in an on-going story-line in Coronation Street?. The charachter Mike Baldwin has just started 'being forgetful' They were discussing this on GMTV a few days ago.

hiya ginny love. so very sorry for you and your mam. my thoughts and prayers are for you both, god bless you both x

Ginny I am so sorry but do hope your mum is happy. Mary and I looked after a relative who eventually had to go into a secure home and we know how heartbreaking it can be. However, our Lilian seemed quite happy in herself even though she had no idea who we were and remembered nothing of her life before the present. Len