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Having dreadful trouble with my mum, as yet undiagnosed but seemingly suffering from Altzheimers. will cont in 1st reply...

Getting V concerned about her well being, i rang the surgery (theirs not mine) and the Dr did listen to me, although told me nothing. Just said that she ''would see what she could do'' Had a message on my answerphone on friday from the community nurse who had , unbeknown to me,been sent out to asses her.Apparently there are 'big concerns'' to be addressed and would I get back to her - of course I will. Just hope that mother doesnt suss its me thats instigated it all or she'll go up the wall - more so that she does already about the trivialist of things (one of my concerns is irrationality). Was glad I told Dad though. Could be for the high jump me thinks... Oh well....it IS for the best in the long run.hopefully sort out some of the issues jess x

But you know that you have done the right thing Jess. You will have to have broad shoulders, and if the assessment is Altzeimers I guess it wont be the last time. Sorry to hear that you are having to deal with this, it is so sad. Ann glos

Oh dear Jess, i am sorry to hear this. But at least things are moving for you regards the doctor, and you know you have done the right thing. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you for a smootth outcome to all this.xx

Jess (((HUGS))) for you - it's so hard to do the right thing but not feel guilty xxxxxxx

Sorry your Mum is not well Jess we have had that disease in my family and I know how distressing it can be Davex

I think I am so pleased that someone has rung me back - Dr didnt say they would and having spouted off to her, am actually quite surprised that they have been out and assesed her so quickly. I didnt actually think Talking to the DR would get me far and am pleasantly surprised. What i am now worrying about is what the community nurse wants to tell me of her concerns! Waht i am wondering is when and how this nurse assesed her - would she have just turned up on the doorstep?on what pretext i wonder?No doubt she will tell me tommorow There is a bit of me that is ashamed to hear anyone has been in the house without my tidying and cleaning it first, but i suppose she saw things 'warts and all'

Try not to worry Jess, it is obvious your mum has a very efficient and understanding medical practice behind her... things will be ok.xx

Sorry to hear about your mum Jess, but you have done the right thing. A few years ago i knew there was something wrong with my mum. I begged her to see the doctors for a month, she kept saying there was nothing wrong and quite aggresive with it to. In the end i phoned the practise up myself and told them of my concerns. They were very good, rang her and said she had missed her 75yr check up, she happilly went then, but unfortuneatly it was to late she had two massive tumers. That was the begining of May 2,000 she died on July the 9th. I wish i had done somthing before. Gill

I know how you feel Jess (been through all this). They sound like they are pretty good. Dad's CPN would just sit there staring at him (he'd get really cross) even when he was sitting under bare wires after he'd taken the light fittings down, & she would tell me he wasn't bad enough to go & be assessed anywhere!!!! Pm me if you want to, i'll always reply. I hope everything will be ok. Joan xx

Oh Jess, I'm in exactly the same situation - perhaps a month or two further down the line - you possibly have some surprises to come I think! Good luck. Bev x

I think the most frustrating thing is her apparent lack of awareness - She is plainly incontinent of urine....Her answer is that the carpet is wet because the roof leaks.... (rain didnt used to smell like that!) She is so nasty to dad (and he does sooo well

oh Jess. You have done the right thing,its surprising how diplomatic docs can be in going in & asking the right questions. It will be all for the best as they can assess her & hopefully come up with the best help for her. Only wish the doc had been more open when my dad had his problems with prostrate cancer, NOBODY, even my Mum was told & she had really big guilt trip later when she did finally know & she felt she had been hard on him because she hadnt known whatwas wrong with him. We do what we have to because we love them. Shirley

You did exactly the right thing. Alzheimers cannot be cured but if you know that's what it is you are prepared for it and can deal with it. There are also other things that cause symptoms similar to Alzheimers which can be treated. It may be that your GP and nurse want to check these out just to be sure. Either way, once you know what you are dealing with you can deal with it better. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you. Angela

Jess An awful decision for you to make, but you know it was the right one, i hope that you get the support you will need for you Mum. All the best of wishes for the outcome. Yvette

Hi Jess It's a very sad time - I speak from experience. You have done the best and right thing, for both your parents sake though. If ever you want to talk about it, you know where I am. Chrissie x

Sorry to hear this Jess Jacquie XXX

The thing that is bugging me about the nurse is what she wants to tell me .I wonder what it is that she has come to realise that dont already know- cant be more surely? Diabetic with stacks of insulin seemingly 'left over', The incontinence Irrationality wierd sleep pattern-goes to bed at 7pm, up 3 times in the night Constant hiccoughs-so takes 4 or 4 indegestion remedies in the night total lack of respect for diet (being diabetic) doesnt eat meals, just what she fancies, when she fancies (and usually biscuits yet has lost weight. maybe it was good i didnt know the nurse was going,hopefully she will have seen , warts and all! Shall know later,hopefully nurse wont ring when i am at work, off soon back by 10ish then will ring her anyway and find out. i really appreciate your support my friends,MUm nursed my Gran thru it, so have seen it all before but really find it hard. jess xx

Jess sorry to hear about your Mum. But yes you did the right thing. My Mum didn't have Alzheimers not sure exactly what it was . I should imagine nowadays they would say Schistophinia (sp?). some of the symptoms were very similar and we had a useless doctor kept say oh it is depression. At the time they used to treat her with EST but it evetually kiiled off part of her brain. At least it sounds like you have decent medical help so that is good. Don't worry if your Mum goes mad at you for sending for them. Remember it isn't your Mum that is shouting (if you know what I mean). Hope you go on OK. Take Care. Germainx

I looked after my motherinlaw who had the same illness, it is so hard to deal with, she could be really unkind at times which in normal circumstances she wouldn't have been. Un fortunately she fell down the stairs and hurt herself badly, and ended up in hospital for several weeks,it was there that they assessed her and diagnosed her with the illness. She was not able to live at home on her own again. We were lucky that she went into a lovely home right near us, i was able to call in and see her at all times day or evening, she was very well cared for, and she always looked lovely, she had her hair done every week as they had a salon at the home. It took a huge weight off our shoulders knowing someone was with her all the time. Shirley Ann.