General Chat

You can report this to the police but tell them that you just want to report it and take no further action at this time, that way if anything does happen they have it on file. You can change your sim and not tell him your new number, keep the old sim in case anything does occur and the texts are needed. xxhugxx

Hi Bec, Took a quick look through the messages but have to say that you shouldn't be feeling guilty about upsetting his family. HE is the one who should be feeling guilty and ashamed, not you. His parents should be feeling the same for his virtually criminal behaviour.

Bec,You must cut this off at the Quick,Its obvious this guys a nutter,and needs to be spoken to.If you don,t want to go to the police,have you got a couple of large male friends who can inform him of the error of his ways'Rather Forcefully',If you don,t do this you may be sorry later.Get him sorted or he will contiue to try and ruin your life. Hal.

Thank you everyone for your advice and kind thoughts. I've spoken to his sister and she got abusive messages too... Drunk or not he's under the illusion that I'm trying to win him back and that his sister is trying to matchmake us again... Silly Boy! I've recorded all the text messages and have decided to tell him to never text me again... If he does then I will take the messages to the Police. Thank you again, you all make lots of sense. love becx

Hiya Bec I was assaulted in my own home the other year by my ex's gf. She also threatened me. I went to the police, I didnt press charges, but I made a statement - this way if anything happened to me at a later stage that was suspect they would know what had happened. I also contacted one of my ex's brothers that I was friends with and asked him to make them aware that I had contacted the police. I'm not on here much at the mo as my spare room which houses my pc is in the process of being decorated, but you have my mobile. Call me if you need a chat. Karen x

Hi Bec, Having been through a similar situation with my ex-husband, i would inform the police,I would also get a court order, he is obviously one sandwich short, his threats are more than likely just that threats, but let him know you mean business, If he thinks your frightened he will do it all the more, let him know your in control of the situation by doing something. its frightening I know, but dont let him get away with it, block him from your mobile and house phone. I hope you get it sorted, hes a lunatic. Roxanne xx

Bec , everyone has given you such good advice, take heed and bar his calls, keep the texts and defo report to the police, like it has been said before the Police will keep this complaint on file. Jess and eveyone is right in saying that he wants to spoil your birthday etc. Your well rid of this bad egg !! avoid him like the Plague .... Hope things settle down for you soon Love Anita xx

Bec, Nothing to add, as everyone has given you good advice, just take care and i am thinking of you .xx

Steph, I have read every thread but yours makes the most sense to me.... Bec change your number and then it all stops!! As someone else said.... you are allowing him to control you and it has to stop. if he texts again, just ignore him and he will crawl back under the stone he came out of.

i had a similar problem with one of my bros old friends. He wanted me and when he couldnt have me i was getting calls and texts saying awful things, like how he was going to cut my face up after doing various other disgusting things to me. He also threatened to fire bomb my brothers car, so i went to the police. I showed them the texts and let them listen to the answerphone messages. I had a choice whether or not to take him to court, but as my brother was aboput to begin his police training he didnt need the aggro, so they gave me a number to call to change my mob number for free. best to go to police

Bec, Just seen this. Don't take ANY chances. Call the police. Paul xxx

You have been given such good advice Bec, there is nothing to add. But Gwynne is right, do not allow him to text you again. Take care...Big hug...XX BC

The first week of november a person I know had their house torched. 6, 30litre gerry cans were found in the house, It was done whilst the occupant was out of the house, no lives were threatened. The insurance company will not payout becuase it was a criminal event. Some people do not know where to stop and you may not find out until too late. Please make sure that you start a process with the police, show the evidence, get it logged at least. Jules

Hi Bec Police would give him a gipsy's warning first, if requested, but would keep a file of the report so if he did continue to harass you ... Forward the texts to his sister as well. She may be able to give him a kick up the backside and is in a better position to tell her parents what has been going on Beth :)

Hi Bec, What a nasty piece of work this guy sounds! You are well rid of him, of course, but his nose seems very much out of joint because you still have a good relationship with his sister and his parents, so he's being spiteful to you - and, knowing that you'll be on a high on your birthday, he wants to knock you down. Some people are like that - they know when to strike for maximum effect - despicable! As others have said, you ought to block him from contacting you in any way at all, and I think you should make his sister and his parents fully aware of his behaviour towards you. If he lives with his parents, they obviously communicate with him, so they may be willing to give him the sound advice he needs. If he was mine, I'd give him the ear-bashing he deserves and threaten to throw him out! If you really feel frightened and you think he's not just making empty threats, you have to inform the Police, but if I were you, I'd talk to his sister and/or parents about it first. Whatever you decide to do, take the utmost care to lock your doors and windows, and ask your neighbours to tell you if they see anyone acting suspiciously near your home. If they're unable to tell you immediately, they should report what they see to the Police. Try not to worry, and give us a :>)! >*|*< XXX

Bec I would show the texts to the police and then speak to his family, telling them why you have done it, and that you want the harassment stopped. But personally, its between you and him, and not his family. If they care about you they should understand why you want it stopped quickly and painlessly. By telling the police, its not going to hurt him, or them. All they will do is warn him not to harass you, then you have a basis to start from if he continues to harass you. Elaine x

Maybe not a serious threat- possibly more green eyed monster ''Its her birthday,.... she doesn't want me, .....i'll spoil her birthday....'' Dont mean to be a bore, but, take care when you go out to celebrate at the weekend especially if he knows where you are likely to party.You said yourself you are going out with 8 blokes.... Rule 1, from an oldie...DONT react. Dont give him the satisfaction. Jess x

Bec, Why do you still let him text you? Block him and tell him what you have done and why. Explain the same to his parents. You are still allowing him to have some control over your life and he is enjoying that. If he can't text you he can't get a reaction from you. Auntie Gwynne

Bec, Morning babe, you know you have to do the 'right' thing and get this sorted. Not for his parents peace of mind, but YOURS! It doesn't matter how close you are to his family, at risk of losing their friendship, he has to be stopped before he does something stupid. Magi

right i'm off to bed then you take care and make sure you do speak to his family in the morning. night Nicky.xx