General Chat

Ex has just text me asking if I have fire insurance (threatening me)... just said after I've spoken to the police I'll ask my landlady... he then said 'What about the rest of your family?' What can I say do to that???

Becs keep text...show police...don't mess with it XXXX Honey take no chances....going to bed...if you need me...pm

I would not reply to any more text messages from him and phone the police for advice, they would more than likely go and have a word with him take care Nicky.x

Lemon beat me to it..... save the text, if you are really worried about it show it to the Police.

Bec...Lemon is right show the text to the police best to be safe.xxxx

Lemon - the guys a t*** but not normally like this. I get on VERY well with his parents and his sister is a best friend to me. The problem is he thinks he's unstoppable... do I really go to the Police? Don't want to jeapordise (sp?) things with his family but he's threatened mine and he needs to learn he can't! I'm stuck.

yes make sure you keep all text messages from him,but don't reply to anymore as that is what he wants Nicky.x

Nicky - but what can they do? He'll either deny it or say he was drunk (he's not, he's angry)... I don't want to fall out with his family as I love them to pieces and they love me but he needs to learn he can't threaten people... I live on my own so to be asked if I have fire insurance (he knows I don't) is really frightening... becx

Bec if he is threatening you....police....if you can't bring yourself to do that....keep text...show a member of his family you get on with....honey....don't mess...you never know which person is a weirdo....don't wanna scare you....but love....don't let this go on....I need to go...pm me if need be...will check tomorrow...listen, bit older than you.....love take no chances XXXXXXXX

He will then know that your not going to put up with threats,and if you get on that well with his family i'm sure they would understand that he can not behave like this and get away with it. Nicky.x

Bec - phone the police right now and ask them to come out. You can't take chances and if his family are nice people, which they must be if they have stayed friendly with you despite their t**t of a relative, then I am sure they will understand your caution. I will be here for a little longer so if you need to talk, then contact me. Please take care.

Lemon - I'm sure his sister and her husband will laugh it off and say he's not serious. Truth be told he PROBABLY isn't, but I'm scared he's mentioned my family, he knows where they live. To threaten me is one thing... but them... that's not on. He KNOWS I'd never hurt his family (I'd never hurt anyone)I LOVE his family. He needs his wrists smacked for threatening a vulnerable woman (me) but his parents and family won't, they'll let him get away with it... so he'll probably do it again! becx

Liz - I can't call them now. I need to calm down, he's already sent me a text saying that he's going to ruin all our mutual friend's lives (including his sister and her husband) and mine... He needs to know once and for all he cannot behave like this. He's 21 going on 12 and it's disgraceful! I'm really tempted to go to the police tomorrow and show them, but don't want to upset his parents, they're truly decent people who are still loyal to me to this day. becx

Bec - also please do take out insurance as soon as you can - it is so necessary as it would cost you a lot to replace everything you have, if there was water damage from a burst pipe or a breakin etc and it would lessen the worry for you a bit if that happened. Also if you have a hallway and front door that is accessible to the public get a smoke detector. Always better to be on the safe side, even if you weren't being threatened.

BEC....really got to go but will be worrying for you....now get the bloody police! We all think people wont do this or that...some do...now love do it! Gotta go my man just home from work....BEC....listen to me....I am not messing do not chance it! Love Lem....please honey I am scared for you....I gotta go XXXXXX

Don't let this put you off but i was threatened quite a few years ago now,and i walked into our local police station after this person mounted the pavement driving straight for me and the response was, well madam did the vehicle actually stike you (no) well then they have not actually broken the law then,feel free to come back if this should happen!!! Nicky.x

Liz - I have a fantastic landlady (been here almost 2 years and they've never raised the rent!) and they come around and check all my detectors etc are working. He'd NEVER (I don't think) do anything but the fact that he feels he has the right to threaten a woman living on her own is despicable in my mind! I think I will go to the police tomorrow and report his threats so they have them on file. Truth be told... what he needs is a good smack from someone bigger and stronger than him (not me I'm afraid)... then he'd learn not to threaten vulnerable people. xx

Bec - call the police now, don't wait till tomorrow. You cannot take chances with this idiot, and if he is cautioned by the Police, he can then be picked up if he does it again, and you can get an injunction against him making contact, or the Police (Court) will stop him bothering you by making his freedom a condition that he leaves you alone. His family sound decent enough to understand that you cannot live under this pressure. I know it is difficult but you and your family are more precious than their feelings. I am sure that they will back you tho. Just phone now and ask them what you should do.

Lemon - go to bed! Nicky - exactly! My fears are the same. He once tried to push me down a ditch (I was sober he was drunk) yet when it was mentioned to his family they thought it was funny. I know he is depressed (as am I) but to threaten me has moved things a stage further. As I've said before, I don't THINK he'd do anything.... but I'm the one living alone not him! He seems to be very self-destructive right now, and he's my ex (of a year) so I don't feel he should be taking it out on me. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to cause him or his family any pain, but he needs a sharp, swift kick up the backside and noone will give him it! xx

Bec whether you think he is capable of doing it or not,put a stop to it now he will get a caution and maybe that will be enough. as for his family,maybe he feels threatened himself because you have stayed so friendly with them,would it be such a bad thing if they took his side? if they thought anything of you they would understand if they don't then you don't really need them in your life either. please give the police a ring and keep all the text messages. take care Nicky.x