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Liz Thanks for nudging this for me. (Liz helped me a little while ago with finding out where to get help for my Sisters illness and the problems that go with it) Theres not alot of help available on the NHS :-(( (here I go again!) 'if only'.........I could have shown this thread to my sister Paula. I know it would have helped her to know she wasnt the only one with these awful problems.... It's too late now... If only...... she knew she wasnt the only one with this awfull illness....It's too late now... If only.......People diddnt shy away from her once they knew she had cancer..... It's too late now... If only our 'bits' diddnt wear out...... She suffered all her life much the same as your dear friend Mabel. Is it too late???? When do the 'if onlys' stop? Why dont we all learn a lesson from these messages? Yes! we all get old... Yes! we all die... Yes we all get lonely... Yes family/people sort of 'file' old folk away...why? Yes! we were all young once! Yes! we all get frustrated when we get old! Dont you wonder why? Yes! we forget silly things when we age!(my Mum diddnt know me when she was 90) Yes! we learn alot...so why not pass this learning on? Is everyone born nowadays born DEAF? Life is short Life has a begining and an end (wheres the middle bit?) We live longer these days! Dont file old folk away....listen and learn from them. Make them feel wanted...WANT them! LOVE THEM... Never forget them. They are what made the world your living in today quite a nice place to be. Not all of this world is nasty. Theres people like Liz that gave her time and wrote a few words on her PC when I was feeling at my lowest and couldnt find the help that I needed to help my Sister with her illness and it's aftereffects. Liz also wrote some more kind words when she heard that I Lost my Sister to the same illness that her friend Mabel is suffering from now and made me feel not so alone. Thankyou Liz. Your a gem xx PS....Camberwell booooty. Lovely wise words from you too on here. I bet your a carer? If not, your should be! Ok Im off me soap box now. Said me bit and got it off me chest. Just make sure you all listen!!!!! lol Love to you all and special thoughts and prayers for our friend Mabel xx Gerri xxx PPS..I gotta say it! sod! proticol... We all have to get rid of body waste so.... WHY oh why is it so unmentionable? I also wax the hairs off my legs... I wax my tash.... I shave my underarms... I piddle... I open my bowles... Do you?.......NO!!!? I also pass wind...( but I blame the dog lol) It's time I wasnt here...Nighty night to you all and God bless xxx

Lots of positive thoughts are winging there way to Mabel from me! She sounds a strong lady and I wish her well! BW Kaz

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts for Mabel. Gerri - sorry love I didn't see your posting till now. We have to learn to think of our older folk and our sick people, and not just assume they know we are thinking of them - we need to stay in touch and make contact - isolation and loneliness are the worst things for many people. Hopefully when most of us from these boards are really old and perhaps alone, we will still have p.c.s to stay in touch in that way. The world is getting too busy for most people, they have no time to 'stand and stare' as the poem goes and life rushes by us all till before we know it our children are grown and we are maybe not so well as we were. Our friends get sick and housebound or they die, and the younger generation get more and more hassled and stressed and so the cycle goes, faster and faster till there is no time to chat or relax, no time to visit old friends or family or enjoy time together with other families etc. Maybe in 2006 we can all learn to slow down a little and enjoy the here and now. As John Lennon? said 'Life is what happens while you are busy making plans'. Maybe we can all try to live for the day a bit more and let tomorrow take care of itself.

Hope Mabel continues to improve. Germaine x

PP I have only just come upon this thread may I offer all the suport and best wishes to Mabel and get well soon and after reading the threads what a wonderful crowd of cyber friends on here take care folks Howardxxx

Thinking of her...... and you. :-) Joy

I hope that Mabel is continuing to make good progress. Jill xx

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Liz I m not been funny and I do believe in God ;;; but at times like these it makes you wonder;; Give her big ((((hug)))) from me;; Babs

Hi PurpleLiz, I have read all about Mabel from you posting but I have not commented before because at 89 years of age to suffer cancer 5 times there is so little to say really. Except my heart goes out to Mabel and also to be so long without her husband (someone close) well that is to suffer, isn’t it? With this terrible disease repeatedly affecting her it is truly exhausting and terrible. I do sympathise and hope Mabel finds comfort and care where she is I am sure she will be happy and content there, There cannot be any better place for her over Christmas she will receive care and attention and also I am sure entertainment for those who can enjoy it and at least she will not be alone, cold hungry or scared and that is the main thing. Mabel is in my thoughts and has been since you put this up on general Liz. Please think positive yourself. Pat x

Lots of gentle, positive thoughts and cyber hugs for Mabel. I hope she has as enjoyable and pain-free a Christmas as possible. xox

Liz send a big hug to Mabel from the antipodes, and one for your dear self Lots of prayers and blessings JA

Mabel has been in our wonderful local Cancer hospice since Monday - officially to be made well enough to get back to her flat in a few weeks time. She will at least have company if she wants it (altho she is quite a solitary lady), medical treatment and warmth, food, and good cheer for Christmas, and I hope she will be able to gain a little pleasure from being there, instead of alone in her flat, or still in hospital. She is still having some amount of pain and tests are still being done to see if there is anything more the doctors can do to help her. Thank you for all your kind thoughts and prayers. Liz

Love to you and Mabel Liz, I am sure you are telling the solitary lady of all the thoughts and messages from GR. Lots of prayers and blessings for you both JA

Went to visit Mabel Christmas eve and was pleased to see her looking much brighter and tucking into her dessert. She is still uncomfortable and has lost a bit of weight but will soon put that back on now she is eating properly again. At the moment she is having trouble walking but I am sure she will find the strength and determination to conquer that problem. She said to thank you all for your thoughts and good wishes. Bless you all for your support. Night all, and Merry Christmas. Liz

I've been thinking of you and Mabel often and am glad to hear that you were able to visit her and she is doing well. Love and stuff to you both xox

Mabel has left us for well deserved peace and freedom from pain. See update.

A prayer for Mabel.....

as you say Liz, peace from pain at last. God Bless mabel. Ann Glos

I was wondering about Mabel just yesterday. RIP. xox