General Chat

Ive had enough this year. 2 bereavements, 3 if you dont mind me including dear little Lucy dog. The neighbour from hell buying next door. Autistic son refusing to take his meds now and making our life a misery. And on top of that someone on the boards here seems to lay in wait to jump on anything I say. Please Santa, make 2006 a better year. Sorry, no need for any comment, just wanted to moan to someone, tired of keeping brave face in the real world.

It sounds like a hell of a year for you, fingers crossed 2006 is happy and healthy for you. Mines been pretty yuk as well, so you have my full sympathy. love Donna x

I agree, Heather, it has been a pretty ghastly year for me too. But in the middle of it all there was the birth of my beloved grandchild, and for that I am grateful. I hope next year is kinder to you and yours...XX BC

Heather - think of it this way - or try... this year was so awful for you can next year really be as bad - i hope not. love Ralphie like you loved Lucy, remeber your dad in the good days, the happy times and all the love you shared and the 90 great years that he lived, all he did and all he achieved in his life time What about some respite care for your son? Yes I know, he's your son and its your job to take care of him but..... In the fullness of time he'll have to survive in this world without you (just as you do withoiut your dad) and think of it as a step towards him coping with that , ready for the future ...and ignore the prat that senses your vunerabilty and uses it agianst you Love jess x

Hello Heather. Hello Heather, I would like to send special hugs and love to you... Love Maisie

Heather my wife and I have often wondered how we would cope when 'we come up against it!' Well this year we have come up against family problems that seems unfair in such a short space of time - starting in June with my wife going into intensive care with heart failure - ten days after our Golden Wedding Celebrations in Cornwall. It soon followed with bomb shells from the family, which I will not go into - sufficient to say that the problems are still troubling us on a daily basis, and it's not fair on my wife. Now then how have we coped - quite well really - my daughter has a terrific sence of humour and keeps us smiling. My two sons are sensible in there approach to problems that they have to face and my dear wife is as tough as old boots. Roll on 2006 and lets both have better year Heather. My best wishes to you. Chin up, keep smiling.

Heather, I'm so sorry you're feeling down. It's not surprising, given the awful year you've had. It's not much comfort, but you're not alone. Last year ended badly for me, then things began looking up, only for well-laid plans to be thwarted and to find people's support melting away when most needed and promises unkept. Earlier this year, I was in pain and unable to walk properly for many months, and I'm also once again battling against long-standing medical conditions that are worsening and a relatively recent one that 's flared up, due to medication being stopped too soon. In the past few months, I've lost one dear old friend to cancer and, to old age, a close relative of my father's who I was banking on meeting for the first time. I've also had a severe emotional shock regarding my son which has dredged up a very unpleasant situation from years back, and it's very hard to live with. As for people 'lying in wait' to get at you on this Board, from my experience there are all too many of those - and some of them hide in the most unexpected corners, waiting to add their kicks when they know you're down. Sadly, a new year's not going to alter their tactics, but if you believe 'What goes around comes around', then they'll get a taste of their own medicine and, fingers crossed, learn from it. I hope sincerely that your problems ease soon and life becomes easier. Maybe a Happy Christmas will be the turning point for you. You certainly deserve one. Best wishes, >*|*< X ...

Heather you are not alone in wanting to write off 2005 and make a fresh start next year. Mum had a heart attack and lost her cat (companion of 20 years), I split with my husband, then on the day he moved out we had a leak that flooded our house, 3 separate illnesses/accidents in in-laws family etc etc etc!! Will be so glad to see 2006 arrive! Maz (who is trying to be positive but not doing very well at the moment!) XX

Hi Heather I can't really add to what Jess has said except, whoever the sad person is, please try and feel sorry for them. They must be very unhappy people and looking at it like that may help you to feel better about it. Wishing you a much better 2006. Also wishing the same for Donna, BC, Maisie, Phillip, Mary, Maz and anyone else who has had an awful year. Chrissie xx

Thanks for all your kind replies. I am feeling very guilty about putting this on now, but as no doubt you all have to, putting on a brave face all day when you feel so absolutely **** is very tiring and I just wanted a moan. Forgive me all of you who are struggling even more than me to cope. Most people on here are absolutely terrific, this is my little refuge away from the world.

Hi Heather, Sorry your feeling down.Hope things improve for you next year. Heather x

Heather - I'm sure 2006 will be a much better year for you! Have had a rough 2005 too but I've survived and I hope that as a result I will have a happier and fufilling new year. Hang on in there, love becx

Heather don't feel bad - you can only go on being strong for so long, then you just have to give in for a while until you can do it again. I know exactly how you feel as I am there myself right now. Thank goodness we can all support each other on here. Maz. XX ps let me know if someone has a go at you and I will go round and beat them up!

Hugs to you Heather. I can't believe someone off the boards would be so insensitive to want to upset you. louise xx

Great big hug for you Heather - and another for anyone else who's going through the mill at the moment. Dianne xx

Heather I hope your wish comes true and next year is a better one and a big (((hug))) to help Howardxx

Heather, sos orry that life has got you down this year. You have had a rough time of it, I can only hope that 2006 will be better for you. I can't really add to what jess has said, she speaks a lot of sense. Is it really not possible to get some respite care for your son? Don't feel bad about putting your feelings on here, look how you have opened up a thread for others to also speak about their bad year. I hope each and every one of you has a happier 2006 and those who have problems I hope they find solutions to them. On the person who has a go at you on here, I know it is easier said than done but the best way really is to ignore them, don't respond, don't fight back, just pretend they are not there. ((((((hugs)))))) Ann Glos

Thanks guys, I went out to our little town for some retail therapy - not big time, some nice home cured ham and a cooked chicken from our brilliant butcher (he still has the old cottage and you have to get in through a latch door!) and some bits from the charity shop for son to wear to work, chrissie cards, a lovely squeaky big furry toy for Ralphs christmas present (that will take some hiding). So I am feeling more cheerful now (after blubbing again over all your kind messages). I hope we all have a better year next year and I am so very very grateful to all you being there for me.

Ive had a crappy year too. 2 Bereavements, suffered from depression etc etc etc! One was my Grandad dying a few days after New Year, and the other was my friend who commit suicide in June. so a very crappy year!

Hi Heather! I've had a bum year too (can I say that? lol) Bring on 2006 I say, although i've a feeling I will be having a sad event next year too. Hope you are bearing up. Take care, Joan xxxxxxxx