General Chat

I've only read the first few replies and this struck me. you and he alone at an exibition next week? get there, and say to him as pleaseantly as you can ''am i doing this under your instruction of am i using my own head?...'' wait for his reply and then get on do which ever! jess

Sounds a right muppet. Best follow the advice given already

Jess & Dan - MWAH! xxx

Bec, Thats is dispicable. He shouldn't be allowed to get away with it. Its a form of bullying. You must speak to your manager. I am a branch manager of a recruitment agency, so I do know. Please don't suffer any longer. Take care and chin up. Ange

Bec, Angela is right, it's bullying. The fact that you're almost in tears shows how wrong it is. You need to speak to your boss. Make it clear that while you don't want to rock the boat or get anyone in trouble, the way you're being treated is wrong and has to change. Hope you get it sorted soon Paul xxx

Sounds like he's a right old g*t! Everyone seems to have given good advice so far. Have a ((((((hug))))), and give your face a splash with cool water and try to ignore him (not easy, but have a go.) Also try to get someone higher up informed, they can try and keep a quiet eye on him from afar. :-)) *Thay do say you always hurt the people that you like/ love the most! Although in someways I hope not this time*

Hi Bec, What this man acctually done by touching you on the head was that he invaded your personnal space. Next time he comes too close, i would remind him of that, ( use your arms to make a circle around yourself and tell him in no uncertain terms that he is not welcome to enter your personnal space and if he does it again you will report the invasion of your privacy ). As for not being helpfull and putting you down in front of people in your office, find out if he is mean't to be training, overseeing your work. If he is then have a quite word with your boss, to get the matter sorted out. Michelle.

Oh Becs I wish I had known you were doing that!! What agency? You have the ability you just need to temper your perfectionist streak and just swallow what he is saying..... wither that or pull him to oneside and explain that you are finding it all a bit pratronising!! Good luck! xx

Bec,Sorry to hear about your problem,however, as you have been told to use your head,Perhaps you should get a large pair of 'Nutcrackers'and place them in a prominent position on your desk,then explain to him what they are for i/e Cracking Nuts (HEADS).meybe he will get the message. Best Wishes,Hal.:0<))))

Bec, If he stretches out his hand to pat you on the head again - BITE IT !!! CB >|< X

If he likes trying to belittle you infront of other people try playing him at his own game - in the nicest possible way of course! If he pats you on the head, tell him you aren't a dog and ask him to keep his hands to himself. When he makes snide remarks, ask him if he was born rude or just practices very hard. Tell him you feel sorry for him. It can't be much fun when your only pleasure in life is putting other people down. Good luck in the job. Sounds like you are doing really well so don't let bully-boy get to you. Janice

Hi Bec You've had a lot of good advice already. Just like to say you are an intelligent girl and they wouldn't have given you the job if they didn't know you were capable. Don't let him get to you. ((((((HUGS)))))) Juliexx PS I like CB's idea lol

can't say anything that hasn't already been said Bec's but as a boss this senior is really boardering and ever so slightly overstepping harassement guildlines. Keep your chin up and keep a secret log of the incidents (just in case). If you can take the person aside and talk to them tactfully might be a first step. tell them you appreciate their input but not the way it is being done. Good luck and keep us posted. Debs

Bec if you have hardly had any training then ask your boss to give you some. I was in same position years ago and eventually the strain got so great I quit and I regret that more than anything, Stand up for yourself don't let him get you down and if this bully continues see the boss again Norah

Bec - tell him in front of others that you took a call for him from the pen15 enlargement clinic!! Seriously though - to say 'thats just his way' is absolutely no defence against bullying. Definitely speak calmly about it to him but be firm and tell him you do not like his manner or invasion of your space. Also defo keep a written log. Good luck. Lucy x

Bec ...poor you...you are obviously so good and efficient this guy feels seriously threatened.....thats his problem...not yours.....so just ignore him..... Rise above it ....cos he aint worth the worry babe Julie x

Don't worry about this t....Bec.he is digging his own grave,i would say your boss is no fool and is letting the prat show himself up for what he is,bide your time.Fred.

Thanks everyone :0) I think he just feels threatened. I've secured two more interviews today and two more vacancies and he's got NADA! I won't let him get me down! xx

Bec, have you not considered that this mans actions are part of training? To see your reactions which as I know myself could occur when you interview a particularly obstructive client. Rmember you have to hold your feelings sometimes under particularly trying cicumstances. Have you not thought that this may be a way of finding out if you will make the grade. I have seen this before and the senior manager may well be aware of this mans attitude. It may not be particularly nice and may seem to go against the principles of the normal work place but i have known the practice and been part of the training ,not as an intervier but as a particularly aggressive interviewee. Could be all part of your training . Rupert

Just seen this. Keep your chin up, Bec. :-)