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Do you forgive easily?
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***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** | Report | 8 May 2006 22:32 |
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im soooooooooo forgiving, too forgiving mainly cos i feel guilt if i dont, and then i feel sad for the person, god wish sometimes i didnt, in school teacher used to say julie should try harder, well i do now, too hard sometmes |
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PinkDiana | Report | 8 May 2006 22:33 |
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Carol - I agree we should try to forgive silly errors, but how often do you forgive the same person for their mistakes that hurt you before you are giving them permission to treat you appallingly? |
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DAVE B | Report | 8 May 2006 22:37 |
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Yes I dont hold grudges never Dxxx |
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PinkDiana | Report | 8 May 2006 22:54 |
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Helen - i think that's my point!! I treat people how I want to be treated..... but with people I don't trust anymore, I make them aware I don't trust them and I don't abuse them, but I don't lay down dead and let them continue to abuse me either! xx |
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PinkDiana | Report | 9 May 2006 09:09 |
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Helen - absolutely right there. There are only a few things are really unforgivable but they would have to be really serious! Most things as you say are forgivable even if you don't speak to the person again. There is someone who is (or used to be) a member of GR who tried very hard to damage my reputation both personally and professionally, I pity the woman, I forgive her for her stupidity in even trying to do what she did, but I will NEVER ever trust her or a word she says ever again. So maybe I am refering to trusting rather than forgiveness! xx |
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Paul | Report | 9 May 2006 09:20 |
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Well it really depends what it is that they've done, and whether or not it was deliberate and/or malicious, and of course how many times the action has been repeated, if someone constantly lets you down - thats difficult to forgive. Some things are unforgiveable, but in many cases yes, I try to forgive, its better than living with bitterness. |
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~Messy | Report | 9 May 2006 10:48 |
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I think forgiveness is something you grant (or not) if and when it's asked for. In other words if someone admitted that they'd wronged me and asked me to forgive them I would try and do so. However I don't think the same principle applies when the person hasn't acknowledged that they've done anything wrong. |
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Germaine | Report | 9 May 2006 10:54 |
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I ususally forgive may not forget BUT if you hurt my kids not on. Some one hurt my daughter ( family ) and that has been the end of them as far as i am concerned . Took about 5 years to speak but no further than passing pleasantries. Germaine x |
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