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This is prolly gonna get me shot, but it was a real question asked today A woman i have know for years phoned me this today, to ask me a question. She just got her divorce through and went out on sat night with some mates, she got a bit wobbly with the drink A bloke hit on her and she responded, buttttttttttt when she said no he called her a c*** tease Now was she or did he over react, so girls and guys what do you think Its one of them hard questions to give an answere to i think Steve xx

He overreacted! When a woman says NO it means NO... doesn't matter how much flirting has gone on before! She = c***tease??? NO He = c***??? YES

Dont know circumstances but his language was so base he's probably some scum anyway.

Why do you think its hard for women to go out on their own,

Just because she's gone out and had a good time, flirted etc doesn't mean she has to sleep with him! I'm sure it's happened to many women too! Carol

she just asked me as ive know her for years an di could not in truth answer her S

he over reacted!!!!! and he should also look clsoer to home before calling anyone a c***!!!!! xxx

Let her know we've all stuck up for her! (or should I re-phrase that!) Carol

He hit on her , so what if she responded, she had every right to say no when it had gone as far as she wanted it to. Some men dont understand this fact. And I did say SOME men, not all are as bad as he obviously was.

Flirting is flirting, nothing else. I`ve meet a few women I`ve flirted with online, but all we had was a good laugh and a couple of social drinks. And as Becs said if a Woman says no it means NO!

I can see where you coming from but is there a fine line that becomes blured with alcohol on both side's but i am not condoning his choice of words dont get me wrong

And if she'd said no and he'd raped her.... that would be ok? It doesn't matter how a woman dresses/acts/talks... NO means NO And every woman deserves to be respected for that.

He's some sort of (insert word of choice here) anyway! What DECENT bloke would have tried to make the most of a woman that was a bit 'wobbly' with drink? (No- I'm not naive, I know it happens often) If she got as far as the 'bedroom' - the jury would be out as far as my opinion is concerned, although, like Bec says and in the eyes of the law too, No is No, no matter when it is said. Before that, no, she wasn't. She may have been a bit reckless but her decision didn't merit that abuse. btw: Where were her friends when she was a bit 'wobbly' and vulnerable? Mags xx

Steve, did the guy go away when your friend said no? to me at the moment its 6 of one and half a dozen of the other, until you can tell us the full story we cant really comment. Gillie xx

Tell her not to get upset. What she SHOULD have said l(lol) when he called her a **** tease is 'Well, you certainly arent' OC

It is completely OK to flirt with guys when you are out. Flirting does not mean ya wanna sleep with them! Take away the tease bit and thats is what that guy is! What an idiot, I hope she told him where to go. For goodness sake what is wrong with harmless flirting? Oh I am riled now, I hate blokes like that! Grrrrrrrrrr. Ok thats out of me system now! :o)

bec hun i know that ok and i totaly aggree with you mags i dont know how far it went all i know is that were both a bit wobbley and so were her mates and yes i know NO means NO been told it often in my younger days but in my day NO did mean NO has the word moved on and things that were gospel then changed now with the years i dont know ??

Even if she snogged him, even if she had a bit more of a fondle so what, the point is you are allowed to stop if you feel uncomfortable and don't want to go any further and should be able to do it without the fear of being called that! Grrrrrr Not getting Grrrr with you lot just with the nasty bloke that said it to her!

I am a young single woman and I frequently go out to bars/pubs/clubs and enjoy a 'few' drinks. I flirt with men, I laugh with men, I enjoy their company. But no flirting is a guarantee of anything more. I hate the way it seems one thing for men and another for women. We're trying to establish some equilibrium! xx