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Jude yes I have he's probably reporting me as I type pmsl

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I thought it was the Mothers Day one......oh, go for it girl!!!!! lol Nanna-Moo ;-))

What a cheek !!! How dare she check up on you like that !!! I would be seething too. Hope you manage to sort it out Jax she definately needs to be told whether gently or firmly. That is just not on !!! xx

I think Sharleen has the best idea, get her up and down to answer the phone, and see how she likes it! Ring her when you go to the loo, and say just thought I would phone to tell you I will be in the loo for the next umph minutes in case you rang and wondered where I was, etc. Maybe she will get the message then!! Do this every half an hour or so, make up things like going to be out in the garden or upstairs in the loft, or out in the garage, whatever! Good luck, think I would have blown by now. Liz

She's just phoned again, her first words again were I was just checking your in, so I lost it big time and told her to stop checking up on me, I am 36 years old and if I want to go out somewhere I can and that it has nothing to do with her where I go or who I speak to, so she put the phone down on me. Jax xx

Good for you....and here endeth the first lesson!! Let's hope she has finally got the message...... Nanna-Moo ;-))) (whatever happens next, don't apologise, be pleasant, but make sure she has accepted she has no right to check up on you!)

Tell ya what Nanna, it's made me feel loads better lol

Do you think she's insecure??? I agree with nanna - don't apologise just act nice etc but be firm. Much happiness Debi

My problem is the fil. Some 10 years ago he told my other half to 'get that trollop out of my house' not been in since. He blames me for breaking up his sons first marriage, I did not. We have been together 24 years and 2 months today and I think that stands for something. As for mil...she is a dear, but belongs to the old school of thinking, saying, voting the way her husband dictates. Kathlyn

Honestly, you shouldn't have to feel like this, it's so silly!! Glad you are feeling better, stick to your guns and just be polite, disarm her with charm, but make sure if you are not happy with something you say so there and then. Don't let things fester. It's so much easier just to say'..well, actually, I/we don't really want to or think I/we can......do that...', if you know what I mean! Hope that means you get a quieter life.... Nanna-Moo ;-)

Well that's brought things to a head, better than stewing so hopefully all will change now, without too much illfeeling. I suppose she could be concerned, maybe she worries about road accidents and such, but if that is the case, she should get some help and explain her reasons. Is your o.h. about later or can ring her and sort this out, he has to be seen to be supporting you on this. Good luck, Helmet on in case of fall-out! lol Liz

I phone my son every night at about eight to say goodnight!!! would that annoy you girls? I only started that last October after we nearly lost him. I have to admit that it has become my *comfort blanket*. Deanna X

lol Liz-be passing them out later!!! Nanna-Moo ;-))

Deanna that would be fine hun, it's the constant checking up on me that gets to me.

Thanks Jax....cos I thinks I is a real wonderful MIL! Whether DIL would agree or not.... best not ask eh?? ;-0) Deanna X

No Deanna, I think that is something different and I would probably do the same for a while. Nanna-Moo ;-) (I can understand the 'comfort blanket' thing entirely!)

Jax, you should keep your answerphone on all the time and change the message to something like ' I'm sorry I can't answer the phone right now, my mother-in-law ( name) calls so often that it stops me doing any work so I am catching up now!' Joking apart, it sounds as if she sits at home worrying about her son's relationship with you because she has nothing else to think about so she hassles you to try and get everything to be the way she wants it. Controlling, I agree. What about involving her in a big way in one small area of your life, eg food shopping or walking the dog or something, just with her, so that she feels included somewhere? It might cut down her desire to know what's going on all the time.

Well done Jax - go girl:o))))) jude sarf wales :o)

I'm sorry jax but being the nosey moo that i am ...... did she call back last night at all at any time after she put the phone down on your rant? or is all good on the western front? Much happiness debi