General Chat

we are blessed hun.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Joyous I too have made some very special friends here as you well know ;-)

the friends i have on here are so very precious.for the handfull of enemies,not worth my thoughts. its so easy to avoid,and its much better for all the peeps on here. there will always be upsets as on any forum. but im just going to enjoy the friends ive made on here........and TRY and ignore any negative stuff. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Aaahhh thanks Hayley , Hazelx

I have never thought of you as drab or boring Hazel ...

I dont really post on here very much , just now and again i find it very hard to write what i want to say because it doesnt seem to sound right when i read it back to my self i think oh i cant say that that seems rude or that doesnt sound right someone will take offfence.. I know i come over as a drab person but im not not really i love a laugh and a joke , just cant do it in writting . aaahhhhh well never mind lol Hazelx

Gyynne, Please no advise was intended or given but so often things can be posted without out a sentance to follow through,,,,,,if the person/persons who it concerns were sometime I feel left to post each other a reply without en-mass joining in then I belive it would disperse quicker ,it doesnt mean anyone has to like each other, If its get to a personal level then yes a defender needs to step in an try and call a halt,,,,,,,,,name calling,swearing,or just out rudeness,, But I think in some instances,post are added without reading the whole thing ,,,,only a follow on from the last poster,,, There is good compatabilty between people on here,hope it continues,

Life is really too short! However, I really hate to say it but I think there will be certain people who will never get along on here. Too much has gone on in the past or behind the scenes. I really wish people that don't get along would stay away from one another and not provoke each other. Life would be a lot happier for the rest of us who don't want to see the fighting on the forum. What I don't like is people playing games. Unfortunately people start adding to threads which have hidden meanings that they are totally unaware of. I try to stay aware and bite my tongue but I don't like it when people are being bullied or saying things that are totally uncalled for. However, I hope that I'm always polite to people. Sometimes people forget there are two sides to every story or that there are real people whose feelings can get hurt.

Pink , have grown up with an open mind , 60,s babe.... Gwynne has said it all for me . Won,t watch bullies belittle someone on here , will wade in , but am so thick at times I can,t see underhand innundoes if they hit me full in the face! lol Kim xx ps perhaps it might be better to pm me if there,s a problem, but please use only small words . XX Kim xx

Hi Kay, I have made genuine friends on GR. I have been very lucky to have had their help and support at difficult times. These aren't people who are just names on a board. No friend of mine from here has ever let me down. No 'casual' friend from here has ever been mildly horrible to me and I have met quite a few people from here. In four years on GC/GR I have never sent or received a nasty pm. In the last 2 years I have tried and tried to be a peacemaker as I'm sure many people know. But I have seen posted the most appalling personal abuse about other people, I have seen personal attacks which cannot be excused. These have been far more than the 'spats' that spring up from time to time. A lot of it is quickly deleted but I have seen it. I was brought up to defend people against bullies and not to pass by on the other side if I see someone attacked. That is my way, I see no reason to change this late in life. There are a lot of decent, kind and honest people on GR and I am lucky enough to number some of them as genuine friends. I never have and never will betray their confidences made to me and I know that they feel the same. I don't see a problem with me avoiding those I have seen be unpleasant when there are plenty of genuine people here I can talk to. I once found myself having a conversation on the boards with someone I later saw was someone else using a different ID. I didn't like that. A close GR friend is having a very difficult time right now and I'm trying to be as supportive as I can. I don't think I'm just a name on a board to her. Yes, there are those who play games or who lie, there are those who enjoy stirring up trouble and there are those who enjoy joining in. I prefer not to associate with them. But if I see someone attacked unfairly please don't advise me to just let it happen because it isn't me who is being attacked. That's exactly how bullies get away with what they do. I didn't mean to ramble on so long but that's how I feel Gwynne

I think on a site such as this ,but mainly a topic board,,,,,there has to be some degree of distance,,,all the world can be an aquaintance but only a few are real life friends,,

Yes, there is just one person. But out of so many, that is not a large percentage:-) BC

I have thought long and hard about this...... I talk to anyone and everyone. If people tend to stop talking to me and adding to my threads thats their loss.. I have had spats with people on here at one time or another and I am glad to say ..that we have both put our points across and end of . At the moment I cant think of anyone I dont get along with ,some I don't bother with but thats a differant thing to me..

Kay and Ann - voices of reason as always!! xx

Kay, I think you have hit the nail on the head there. Instead of acting as individuals, these sort of boards encourage people to think that people they have just chatted to on here and maybe met a couple of times, are bosom buddies. Therefore if one is upset they all join the bandwagon, and what could have been smoothed over or ignored get blown up out of all proportion. Ann Glos

Joy &Gywnne,, Exactly,,,,you in turn become mistrustful..if personal information that you have revealed to someone else is betrayed then yes be mistrusful of that person,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,.......treat the board for what it is,an outlet,,,screen names ,,,, most screen people,,,and not somewhere you need an invite,,,,,,,,,,,,, Only when you get emotionally involved can hurt be caused, If I dont agree with something in a debate I try and add so not to cause an uproar,but if I do tough I will deal with it,,and would not welcome half the world to fight my corner,,,and this is where some of the problems lie in my opinion,,just far too many get involved with other peoples sfuff,,,,,, I would not intentially cause to upset anyone,,,,,,,,

Life is too short. There have been threads on here I don't look at if they look like they are going to cause trouble. I realised a few months ago who a couple of trouble makers were and just don't add to their threads even if they look harmless. This is just my personal opinion and I believe in each to their own.

Oh Yes :-))) Twizzle

As Maggie from Winchester says Diana, life is too short. I have always been one to forgive if I think the person(s) is or are really repentant. On the boards I always bear in mind that it is not real life, and it is a public forum. Not everyone is going to hold the same opinions as me, and I can't agree with everybody, but I can listen to what people say and accept their opinions. going back to September which I know is in everyone's minds, there were things I didn't agree with, but sad though they were, they were not directed at me. Equally I have seen what amounts to a form of bullying from other people, this also has not been directed at me and, while I might avoid the contentious threads if I have nothing positive to add, I don't necessarily avoid those people. People who I might have been upset with then I don't avoid now, because we have moved on. From the sidelines I am afraid it is swings and roundabouts, 6 of one half a dozen of the other. However, whether I would get on with all on here if we were to meet is different, in real life not everyone you meet can become good friends, there will always be different personalities. I have to say though, I have been to 4 meets and met others singly and I have never met anyone from the boards who I have not liked. ann Glos

Kay, I was very trusting on here. It is only what has happened here in the past that has made me mistrustful. Gwynne