General Chat

come on people leave a will, who gives a danm if your offsprings don´t like, but leave a will or the government will take 40per cent of the whole estate.

Plus I think you should always allow the dead their last wishes.

Michael,
My OH has been nagging ME for years on exactly the same subject
I have to get myself familiar with the bills, bank accts, ins policies ect.
I have avoided it for 28yrs and.....I haven't got a clue.

Crematoriums can arrange non sectarian- should that be secular? - (atheist) send offs.

An employee reads an eulogy, the curtains are closed and we were asked to quietly think of the person and say good bye. No Hymns, no prayers, no deity.

Yes, Michael's wishes should be at the forefront of her mind, but there is a middle ground.

mind if he wants to be burnt with a package I would opèn it !

Sorry but I am with Michael on this, what he wants goes.
I have done it with Mother and I want the same for me, respect the wishes of the dead .

Michael2 my OH is the same as you he wants a party send off.

Unlike your wife I know were every last penny is.

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No, they want to see the going of you, not to be somewhere else while it's happening.

You won't care because you will have your decomposing to be getting on with but it will be important to them.

Oh go on, let them see you go.

Just being in the pub talking about you is just another day in the pub, gossiping and moaning. It all needs a focus.

sharron but that's what I want they should respect my wish . that's why I said they should hold some sort of gathering.

I think you have to remember that the funeral isn't really for you.

It is not just a way to dispose of the carcase but a way for those behind to get their thoughts together and readjust to their new position in life.

There is a bit of closure in seeing the coffin going wherever it goes which helps them to accept that it really is the end.

They do need to see the back of you!

wifes been nagging me for some time to get my affairs in order I/e put all insurances to gether etc . so she can find them also what bills etc come out of what bank. then she asked wether I wanted to be buried or cremated I said cremated but as I am a non beliver I did not want any body at the crem, but for the rellie,s to hold a gathering some where so they can have a drink and tell their story,s about me my ashes they can do what they like with. she aint pleased but that's what I want. she aint a bit pleased.