General Chat

Thank you all for your support,hugs,encouragement and words of comfort and wisdom. Linda. xxx

Hi Linda, so sorry for your loss.
My mum died in 1995 and I still miss her but the pain is not so hard to bear now.
I also still sometimes say I must show mum this or mum would like that.
It is so true that time is a great healer but its so hard all the same.
keep you chin up pet.
Ann xx

Thanks Ann, I'm sorry about your Mum. Your words are a great comfort to me. Take care Ann. Linda. x

Hi Linda, no, you will never get over missing your Mum.

Mine died in 1978, she was only 44 so I was a teenager. I think about her every day, I consider what her opinion would have been of everything I do.

But of course I have accepted that she has gone and you will, too. And the pain does go away, I promise you.

A person's memory never fades but we have to live our lives, even if it is without people we love. I just strive to be the person my Mum would have wanted me to be.

xxx to you. It will get easier.

Hello Linda,

Sorry about your loss,

I agree with everyone else ! you never get over losing your mother,You,re more likely to learn to live with your memories of her.
I lost mine 1966 , even now if i talk long enough about her and my father who died 1974 i i feel some of the pain i felt back then!

But i find the more you talk about your memories of them makes you stronger it makes me feel that they are right beside me when i need them
the most.

So enjoy your memories! its more healthier . god bless.

Flo

Hi Helen & Flo, I am so sorry about your loss, thank you for your words of comfort and encouragement it truly is a help. Bless you. Linda.

My Mum died in 1995, my Dad had died in 1990, that feeling that you are now an orphan is a strange one no matter what age you are when it happens, I was 47. It took me a long time to stop thinking I should be ringing to check she was ok or to tell her some gossip or news etc, the feelings do change and the pain eases but it's early days for you yet, Linda.
I hope you will find solace in the happier memories of times spent with your Mum and know that one day you will see her again.

Lizx

Thank you so much Liz. xxx

Linda, people will tell you it gets easier as the time goes by ..and yes it does but there is no set time for any loss. I loved my dad and I still miss him today as if it was yesterday. he died 5yrs ago and to me it's like yesterday. BUT I have to say time does heal. You just have to allow it, that doesn't mean you have to forget but start remembering the good times instead.

There is no time limit on grief only what you set.

take care xx

Thank you Uzzi, I loved my Mum so very much, my Dad died when I was 15 my Mum was everything to me and my siblings. She suffered so much and I know she is in a better place no more pain, I just wish I could tell her one more time how much I love her. Thank you so much for your kind words it really means a lot. I am so sorry about the loss of your Dad. Bless you, Linda. x

Just saw your thread Linda

Watched my Mother die in the ICU of Newcastle General Hospital following a rather short illness.

I was beside myself with grief whic later turned to anger and self pity.
All classic symptoms of grieving.

It hurt for a long time,but with the passage of time you DO get over it but you never forget her.

It's been 16 years Linda and I miss her and my Father lots.

Take it one day at a time

Linda I lost my mum 29/09/2009 and even now I think of her but know she is in a place where she doesn't have dementia and that makes me happy though sad
When you are most calm just say mum I love and miss you and she will hear you as she will from now till you meet again

Thank you David & Val, I will try and follow you advice. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for caring. Linda. xxxx

Just thinking of you, Linda. Hope you are enjoying this sunny, autumn day. x :-)

Do chat away to your Mum as if she is with you Linda, it will help I am sure. I look in the mirror now and see my Mum, I am so like her in looks and body shape etc Her friends say I even sound the same on the phone lol

Miss the calls 'It's only me' but I am sure my Mum knows what I am up to, just wish she would sort out the numbers she picked for the lottery, the ones I daren't stop doing for fear it would be the week they came out! I often say Oh come on Mum, pick them out for me please!

Lizx

Liz,

My father died in 1996 and My mother died in December 2006,. I miss them everyday, but know that they both would expect me to get on with my life and yet never forget them.
Everyday I think of them, sometimes just a glancing moment, some times I talk to them, but not out loud very often.! That would be bad manners according to them. I see them in their grandchildren, I see them in the foster children who still send me cards at Christmas time. I hear them when I do or say something which they would not approve!

The pain does ease and sometimes leaves but the memory remains for ever.
I talk to my grandchildren about their great grandmother, and my grandaughter looks like my mother, is an excellent cook cook just like my mother, the age of 12 in December, and when she was so severly burnt recently her strength in diversity and pain reminded us all of her grandmother.

The pain will decrease and even leave you, but the memories will stay for ever. Remember your mother with pride, love, being cross sometimes and talk to her.

You remain in my prayers every day.


Bridget in Spain



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Thank you Lavender, Liz & Bridgette for thinking of me and giving me advice. I actually had a dream about my Mum last night where I was talking to her and to cut a long story short she told me she really wanted to go! I wonder if it really was just a dream or was it my Mum paying me a visit? Bless you all, Linda. xxx

Oh Linda, How I wished when I was young, that my name could be spelt as you have posted it here!
I bet that it was my Mum telling you,"she always wanted her name like this and to prove I still know what she is up to, please write her name as Bridgette!"

Yes I suspect that your mum was paying you a visit, and I expect she will come back to you many times, heed what she says.
Thinking about you
Best wishes from Bridget in Spain

Linda, woke up this morning, made a cup of coffee and you came into my mind..no idea why, but thought I would send a message just to let you know that I still think of you.
Hope that you are coping with the loss of your mother especially as Christmas approaches.... Another first time for you without you mum around, don't worry, she will be watching you with pride.

You are still in my prayers each day


Bridget

Well I must have talked something up cos my Mum's lottery line which I still do won me a tenner last evening lol A few more noughts would have been better but every little helps.

Linda, sounds as tho your Mum is trying to let you know she is ok where she is now, to reassure you and help your pain. I am sure you will have dreams or 'feelings' often and when you least expect them. Try to do joyful things in your life - I am sure your Mum will guide you to try new things or do things which make you happy.

take care of yourself, and that goes for all those who miss their loved ones.

Lizx