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I've certainly found some skeletons in my tree.

My grandfather changed his name and his age when he joined the army. His grandmother was murdered by her 18 year old lover and my maternal grandmother's father was the lodger. We all knew that long ago but we're not sure she did!
heatherg

I agree with Maggie,,,what an odd person she must be,
Its more intersting if there is a bit of contraversy.
My own grandmother was married to a bigamist ,,rendering her daughter born to him..illegitmate. She carried a chip on her shoulder about this all her life and the family were as mad as hell when we discovered it all during our research.

I dont blame you at all chris for not passing on the info..

Maggie - I haven't entered her!!!! Can't be bothered - every mail she told me she was from a hard working loving family - I wondered if she was trying to convince herself.

Susan - try Coroner's Inquests - believe there is one held when 'bone's are found as well as bodies.

DeT - reminds me of a g.aunt who had been an nurse announcing to all and sundry the night before I married that you 'could get caught the first time' as her son was proof. Sure enough doing research her son was born 9 months after wedding BUT she never had another child - must not have liked it!

Got the death cert of the Mother and her Nephew is the informant ..........so it is looking like I am going to have to trawl the local newspapers to find out about building work being halted. Wish me luck.

MY GGRAN BORN 1851
HAD 2 CHILDREN FATHERS NK BEFORE SHE MARRIED
HAD GRANDDAD LEFT HER HUSBAND HAD ANOTHER CHILD
LIVED WITH THE LODGER CALLING HERSELF HIS WIFE FROM
1875 TILL SHE MARRIED HIM IN 1909,,AND NONE OF THE FAMILY
KNEW

THIS IS WHAT ITS ALL ABOUT ISNT IT
AFTER ALL
WE ARE NOT RESPONSTABLE FOR OUR FORFATHERS SINS
ARE WE
WE JUST MAKE OUR OWN C&&K UPS AND IM AN EXPERT AT THAT

Chris,
I'd be tempted to do the abortion route, if she can't face the truth.

ie-obliterate her from your tree!

my dads great uncle was hung for murder at durham,that famous hangman done the deed. x it was quite interesting reading up about it,he was mentioned in a book.x

My mother in law is (coughs) a Honeymoon baby. Although she knew the month and day they married, she thought it was a year earlier. She was never allowed to look at the wedding photos, probably as the 'bump' would be showing. And to think that they kept up the pretence and celebrated landmark anniversaries a year early!

Mother in law went bright red when told, but father in law and her younger sister thought it hilarious!!!!

I haven't tried that avenue yet, what I have done though is sent for the Mothers dearth cert to see if he registered it, (he didn't register his Fathers) if he did then it means it isn't him bricked up, but who is it?? and I find that there is almost always an element of truth in rumors. Watch this space.

Susan that is both creepy and intriguing! Is there a report in local papers?

There is a family story that one of my ancestors was bricked up in a shed or the garden, it was in the early to mid 1900s and it is alleged that his Adopted Mother didn't want anyone to know that he had died, later when the house was up for sale, a couple viewed it but their dog wouldn't go in or near the shed and some building work had to be stopped when bones were discovered. How true it is I don't know yet.

She has mailed me again Maggie - that is twice since I gave up on her but no apology! Am afraid I had enough - I was giving her info anyone could find if they looked and was not looking for the first marriage - it appeared years later.

Just ignoring her - she has lost an awful lot of researching which I would have shared.

See,Chris, this person who contacted you is weird!!!
We can't change the past, or present in some cases (daughter marrying with 2 children in tow LOL), but human nature is what it is,and always has been!!
Who cares if the parents are married or not,as long as they love each other and their children.
Would this woman have preferred it if her relly had had an abortion -which would have meant she didn't exist?

I've not found any illegitimacy in my family tree, as far as I know anyway. The only thing I know is about my ggggrandfather, who must have been well educated as he was a latin teacher, then a school headmaster in a small village. He must have had a problem with alcohol and betting shops, and this is on the school records, and has since been published in a book about the village. Named and shamed, eh? Sad really, as by the age of 40 he had left the school and became a railway gatekeeper

I'm still trying to puzzle out which of my relatives knew that my ggrandfather left his wife for a young widow, took her surname and fathered two girls, the descendants of whom I recently contacted.
At the moment it looks as if it was just one daughter, who registered his death in his correct name, and his brother, who was a witness at his wedding to the mistress a month after his first wife died, twenty six years or so after he left her.

My husband worked out for himself what had gone on after his grandparents didn't realise he could hear their humdinger of a row. I've just asked him and he said his mom knew that she was created before marriage but Rob was sworn to secrecy that his uncle (younger sibling) must never know.

Elderly colleague of mine once told me I shouldn't be looking at my family tree as I might find something not nice. Poor thing was really put out when I sort of rubbed my hands together and went "Oooh goody".

I'm loving this thread.

Jill

My Great grandmother had a child (my grandmother) by a man who was only two years into his marriage.

On her daughter's birth cert she named herself and daughter with his surname quoting her previous maiden name. Although no marriage had taken place.

He then died the same year my grandmother was born. Two years after that my great grandmother married, quoted as spinster. The strange (or clever) thing was that the new husband had the same surname as the dead man although he was no relation. So all of my relatives didnt realise the husband wasnt the father.

It also sent me the wrong way for a while on my tree.

Pat

LOL Chris of Wessex,
your relation should have my family
because i cant find anything that they've done wrong
soooo boring . lol no criminals /robbers /prisoners, nothing at all
I love reading on the boards about others family and what they've been up to .
Hazelx,

One of our family married a man called Beauchamp and thought that was something very special.

I expect the wife I found he had at the same time thought it was too.

My Mum was the most Victorian of the lot and she wasn't born until 1909. She would be shocked to know what I now know. Oh but she wouldn't believe me of course.