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Mum has been in hospital since 8 June - with cellulitus, the 2nd bout in less than 6 months.

I went in to visit here today, to find out that she had tried to get to the toilet, when stumbled by her bed and fell to the floor, The nurses saw her start to fall - could not get to her.

xray was taken, early this evening, and we found out just gone
8;30pm that she hasbroken her femur, (I was on the way home)
She will now be refered to the surgical team, to decide course of action.

She had been getting better, with the cellulitus - was complaining of being bored - she is registered blind as well due to macular degeneration, so is very bored as she cant read etc.

I feel guilty too - about not being there - but being diabetic myself, needed to get home, to eat, as had not eaten since breakfast -
Brother also visited - but had to go too and he feels guilty too.

She does understand we cant be there all visiting hours - we are still going to work, and when she is out will take holidays

Sorry for the rant, but feeling upset at moment.

Liz

Hi Elizabeth, I dont think we have spoken before, so I'll say hello, sorry to hear about your mum, but you and your brother must not feel guilty has you both sound lovely "children" who do a lot for their mum and she knows that you cant be with her all the time. The poor nurse must feel aweful not being able to get to your mum in time.

I hope your mum makes a good recovery and please look after yourself.

lynn

Hi Elizabeth,not spoken before , You will be very upset about your mum, but it wasnt anyones fault, you cant be there all of the time as much as you would like to be. How is your mum now.
sylvia

thanks ladies
shes comftable at mo
Will know more when the consultant soes his rounds in morning.

might mean surgery, but will have to wait and see.
Visiting time starts at 2p, but might try my luck a bit earlier.
Must get to bed now and try and get rest.
been phoning family etc

Sorry stil rambling a bit

Liz

Hi Liz

so sorry your poor Mum had a fall, not the best way to relieve boredom but hope all will be well soon and she can get home, even if in plaster. Will she be able to manage at home or does she live in a care home already?

Take care, I know you will want to be with her often but don't put your own health at risk.

Lizx

Hi Liz
Thanks
Had a word with the ward sister this morning,
They were hoping to operate today, but due to the infection in the same leg, they will not operate, incase infection spreads,
as soon as infection markers in blood are down, she will have the operation, sounds like it will be hip replacement, but will know more later.

She will be in for at least 2 weeks after operation, Could mean she could be i for a good 3 weeks plus from today.

She normally copes pretty well at home, although there are stairs - but she hopefully will be able to sleep down stairs, esp as bathroom facilities are also downstairs.

Liz

Sorry to hear about your mum Hope she recovers soon and back home.

Keep us updated

Here are some big (((((((((((((((((HIGS))))))))))))))))))for you and your mum

Hazelx

Elizabeth so sorry to hear about your Mum. Thoughts and Prayers with you.
Clare

Hello Elizabeth,
sending positive thoughts to you and your mum.
Fingers crossed for a successful op and speedy recovery.
Take care,
best wishes,

Cath

Keep us posted on your Mum's progress Liz, and take care of yourself too

Lizx

Still no news of the operation,
she was comftable yesterday, when I visited, and also in evening when brother visited.

Will be going in to see her in a few hours.
They are doing daily blood tests, to see how infection markers are doing, and when the infection is cleared she will have op.

Thanks for replies

Liz

Hi Liz, I can understand your mothers frustration.
I was in hospital for seven weeks a year passed October, with a stroke.
while I was there I also fell.
We had a spate of sickness when our families were not allowed in to see us... that was hard.
My son bought me a little phone and set it up, so that all I had to do was press a button to call home.
It did a lot for my dwindling nerves, and it was one of those VERY Cheap phones.
Perhaps your mum could have one of them?
BUT, she is not blaming you or anyone in the family, I can assure you.
She knows that you need to look after yourself as well as care for her. So Liz, be good to you too, it is a hard job caring for someone in the hospital.
Good luck.
Deanna X

aww poor you....
it's so understandable that you need a good rant,you just let it all out,we will be your listeners.you must be feeling so pulled apart and your dear mum.It truly sounds very trying & tireing for you all......may you find the strength you all need to be strong and get through it.....god bless xx

Liz A, sending loads of positive thoughts to your mum, x

Hope things are better for your Mum soon, glad she is not too uncomfy but better when the op is over.

Hope the infection goes soon.

Take care of yourself,

Lizx

Hope things are better for your Mum soon, glad she is not too uncomfy but better when the op is over.

Hope the infection goes soon.

Take care of yourself,

Lizx

Thanks for taking the time to read and reply. It is much appreciated. Told Mum about your good wishes sand she sends her thanks.

Visited Mum yesterday, her sense of humour - is better,

Spoke to a doctor, they are happy that the infection is getting better, and the ortopeadic (?sp) team, will be seeing her, hopefully by the time i visit this afternoon. Just hope that the op is soon.

Deanne, I hope that you are keeping well, It must have been hard not to have had visitors,

We had thought of getting a phone, (the hospital do have bed side screen - with phone/radio/tv which you have to get a card for and pay) - but unfortuneatly Mum has macular degeneration, and has only limited sight - periferal only, - she used to love reading, crosswords etc but now cannot see to do. We hae taken her radio in, she has a walkman too, for tapes, but at mo is having trouble using, she has a daisy wheel, from the rnib, for audio books etc which stopped working just before she went into hospital. Brother has got her another gadget which takes talking items and is going to take that in, and hope she can get to use.

Brother and I are both visiting once a day,most days at different times, to break her day up, Husband also visits as he can. As he works 12 hour shifts,
Mum has said to visit as and when - but still feel guilty if we dont, but next week, might have to cut down abit, as am doing night shifts, and last week when i was on nights - found it hard,

Sorry for the ravings again


Thanks

Liz

Liz

Hello Liz....just seen this, do hope the op is soon and your mum continues to improve. So worrying for you, but you're not to blame!!
Take care
jude x

sending hugs to your mam
and hope shes getting plenty of help there, and comfortable,
take her in some cookies, thatll cheer her up
i know when ive been in hospital a pack of cookies makes you feel a bit more cheery when days so long ,
and boring,
can she knit at all,
maybe take her in some wool to pass the time

send her my best wishes, and hugs

Glad you found your Mum chirpy Liz and hope she can work the gadgets so she can entertain herself a bit, to pass the time.
Let's hope the op can go ahead soon and she will then be on the mend.

Take care of yourself, especially next week when you are doing nights

Lizx