General Chat

What annoys me about all the complaing ie about the non replies and about the site is that people have NO consideration or patience.

Goodness knows what they would have done years ago when we had to trail round the Records Offices,maybe to the other side of the country.
And do manual searches for our ancestors.

I used to make my trips to the Records Offices part of my holiday.

With you Daff 100% on what you have said.

Hi Daff, I think your very clear explanation of your own circumstances highlights the lack of patience of many of the newbies and maybe a few of the oldies.

I am sorry you have been unwell and I hope all is good with you right now.

The point is, we all offer our services freely whne we have the time, and other than that we are not available. Just like everyone else. Where's the problem?

I have been hassled by someone who insists we share an ancestor but, after some checks, actually this isn't the case. I was fed up with trying to explain why we weren't related.....

Nudge

A little nudge for David (Ann)

Hope this explains a little bit.

Love

Daff xxx

Thank you Joy... I have to admit to not feeling very gentle at this precise moment, but ((((hugs)))) to you... and xxxx

Love

Daff xxxx

A gentle nudge for a gentle lady :-)

I'll give it a nudge for you now and then :-)
x x

PS I am a tad put out at people that opened my messages but didn't want to know about their ancestor's will, but that is their loss more than mine :-)

Oh Joy, I know.... I didn't know June, or Gaynor... but Clive pm'd me just hours before he died.... and the only direct contact we'd had before was on the GR Kitten birth thread by Puss..... and of course Jean was so supportive when I was ill.... and Steve... well, he was just a one off diamond.

Thank you all for answering this thread.... I think each of us has, for whatever reason, been in a position where we have not been able to respond to the demands of sometimes impatient people, and that is their problem, not ours.... and I think I am correct in saying that this is the very first response on a direct thread, to the multiple threads and complaints we have seen in the past.

My intention is to nudge this up, every time there is a thread complaining about non responders........ I do feel quite strongly about it.

Love

Daff xxxxx

And sadly some people who have gone ahead cannot reply. I just read the surname Buckle on a thread and that reminded me of Clive; also, more recently, Jean, and Steve and, longer ago, June; and this must apply to more, too.

Hello Daff......l agree with you too, you should'nt have to exlain yourself. (or explain!!!)
Take care

jude xx

well said daff, hope to catch up absolutley when ever lovely xxxxxx

Daffy,

Deep breaths sweetheart,

:}}}}}}}

All the complaining board hack me off tbh if its not about how this site should be run or think it should be to none responding messages of contact,...you never get this complaining on other sites of family history of which there are many and am a member of a few..

NUDGE because I am getting REALLY cross!

Daff, I am usually so delighted that someone has seen fit to pm me that I answeras soon as I see it, but never worry if I get no replies. Have offered family photos to two people recently, and they havent opened their mail, though I have had hot matches for them. Their loss, not mine.

I agree with your comments Daff. Some of us work full time and also have hectic home lives but still like to come on here when we can sneak away from the daily hassle. Our responses may not be as quick as some people would like but that doesn't mean we are not still interested and do come back to check as soon as we are able.

None of us really knows what is going on in other peoples lives - what their committments are or how they are feeling. We shouldn't be too quick to judge and make assumptions without all the facts.

Thank you for posting this thread

Best wishes

Frances

Thank you for your good wishes, Cynthia. I really am coming on a treat these days, lol

Yes, I know how hard you work... and I have seen for myself how ungrateful some folk are for your help as well! That is another thing that makes me cross with people who should know better, but for absolute Newbies, I am well aware and remember the nightmare of finding my way around, lol

The threads on Tips were so helpful to me when I first started off, providing me with so much information that I didn't need to ask numpty questions all the time.... and I still haven't figured out the surname board, lol

Love

Daff xxxx

When I first started using these boards properly (which took some doing!), I used to be quite shocked at some of the threads which were posted by helpers who were annoyed at the lack of response to their work.


As we all know, GR guidelines are non existent on how to find and respond to threads so I plucked up courage and decided to add a thread of my own which would, perhaps, help those who were struggling to use the boards. That lasted for a while with a good response from new people.


Then I thought about watching the boards and letting people know by pm if they had received replies and how to find them. I wait until the next day to do this to give folk a chance to respond. I get many grateful pms back from people who had honestly thought that GR would let them know when they had replies because they would have missed out on the information found for them. This makes it all worthwhile.


99.9% of my pms are opened within a day so the poster is still obviously around. Those who open my pm but don't respond either to me or onto their thread......I mostly leave, shrug and move on. I tried to help - it's their move.


I have been doing this for over 12 months now and it takes me quite a while each day to go through the boards. My once active life is now rather curtailed by OH's retirement and ill health so I don't have the evening commitments I once had. I hope I am helping.


So pleased to know that you are doing well Daff - long may the improvement continue. Kind regards. Cx.

Thank you Jello.... and welcome to the boards if you are a new poster.... I haven't seen your name before.

Love

Daff xxx

Daff, You got my support too.

Lol Julie.... bald is not a good look, lolol... Have you tried re-sending, just in case???

Thank you, Rose and Margaret. xxx

Hello Posh xxx

Mwah, Stray xxx

Love

Daff xxxxx