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He should of given me an extra pair of hands

Oh I know what you mean !!!


Are you ok ??

whats wrong with your child have you had a bad day today ?

Hes 28 now but the phrase in a minute doesnt mean anything

Hahaha........I dont think that means anything to many of us ........always in a hurry ...

Mine is 23 and doing ok ...but does have "flap" days when we cant work hard enough for him ....

Never a dull moment in this house

Whats it like to have a lie in

Go out when you want to

Think about only me

Oh well thats life

He gave you the child because he KNEW that you were a 'good un'.
I know you are so full of love for your child.... I could see it in your message.
God Bless both you mothers.
Deanna XXX

My dad always said that Deanna

Thank you Shelly

May we ask what he has or is it not yet known ......

My son is autistic...but it is mild

Simon has an extra y chromozone which makes him taller hes 6ft 9in
missing half of the 23rd chromozone ( what ever that means) he has a mental age of around 10 and boarder line autism, never wrote it down before, it doesnt look that good but it isnt that bad, if you know what I mean.

Lynnex

These special needs children are given to very special mummies, you know what they need, want and how to love them., yes its hard but what a good job you do.

How on earth do you manage for clothes, Lynne. I have enough trouble finding them to fit a skinny six-footer of a husband!

Jean

I have to send away for them he has a 38in inside leg

Lynne x

Jean

I hope you dont mind me asking but do you live in Monmouth

Shelly I have a 32-34in leg so send your cut offs to me lol

Bless you special Mum's.
I had 3 children with issues, eldest girl with epilepsy, second girl with ADHD and severe learning disabilities, now thought at 39y/o to be on the autism spectrum, and a son with ADHD. I survived, as long as the seizures were under control, the other issues could be handled, seemed minor. Now I have my 4 grandkids and their Mum and her sister living with me. two of the g'kids have severe autism. I'm taking a wee break today, the others are upstairs, and I am exhausted, , it's impossible to get a break, all the adults are burned out at the end of the day. The long summer out of school is so hard on them, mercifully the 2 have therapy 2 hours,3 days a week, then the others are able to get some special attention. Add Mummy working Mon-Fri and me working evenings part-time, it's chaotic. but I live to help these children, and Lynne I hear you loud and clear. We are having issues with the little man hitting, increased a tremendous amount since school closed for the summer. Hit hit me smack on the cheek yesterday in a shop, got lots of dirty looks as I bit my tongue and talked to him quietly, hit his Mum and his aunt 3 times each this morning, just don't know what to do, as he's getting stronger and the smacks smart. This is new in the past 3 months, have no idea what triggered it. I'm starting to wonder if there's another diagnosis besides the autism.
My brother's daughter has 2 children also with issues, one with aspergers and the other not yet diagnosed but will prob be the same. My nephew and his wife have a newborn son, who has Downs syndrome. Why one family has so many issues is beyond me. Out of my brothers and mine total of 8 grandchildren, 5 have severe issues and one has mild ADD. Two are thus far fine.
All I can say is I send you hugs, and recall what my daughter said when her youngest child was diagnosed, I told her she would not be given more than she could handle, having often had to gather extra strength to get through a day myself, and her response was " I know you say I'll be able to handle it, I just wish God didn't trust me so much".
Hugs across the pond, Tenby is one of my fav places, we used to summer in Amroth before we emigrated to Canada in 1951 (oops just dated myself).
mary

I used to know a woman whose son was big and tall and looked so normal that she said people did not realize he had a problem when they were out. They thought he was an ignorant yobbo when he was really acting like any normal three year old would.

You can't devote your life to explaining.

Lynne, I can understand how tiring it must be for you, with no real break for time to yourself. Physically and mentally, it must be exhausting. I think Mary too is a wonder, coping as you have with your own children and then your grandchildren, I am sure most Mums with children with special needs are amazing.

Sadly there are a few who can't or won't face up to the situation and cop out as much as possible, o.h.'s sister is one. Her son has Asperger's but seems she and the family never really accepted the diagnosis and didn't really look into what they could do to help the lad. He is just 27, and his Mum and I were at antenatal classes together altho at that time I didn't realise I knew her brother. She like me was a single Mum but went back to work full time and palmed the lad off so she could go out clubbing and such. Luckily for the lad she met a decent chap who took them both on and was as a father to the boy, but they split up a few years ago through her constant going out. Now she is married to someone else but the lad has had a flat of his own for a long time now, he can't hold down a job and has to live on benefits, he does have a girlfriend, his second steady one, and is the most polite, pleasant well mannered young man, but I do feel he could have achieved so much more if his mother, grandparents and aunt and uncle had been more supportive.

Good on you, you ladies (and gents) who care for these children in adult bodies and all the stages in between. That's truly motherhood and unconditional love.
Lizxxx

A work college came up to me last night and said to me can I ask you about your son, I said to her ask me anything I m used to it after 28 yrs.
She said she had a grandson who she is worried about whos 3 he is not doing anything a "normal" 3 yr old should be doing, she explained that his mother (her sons girlfriend) took drugs and drink through out her pregnancy and her little boy is now suffering for it.
She thinks that she wont be able to cope so her and her husband is thinking of taking the little boy on, as I explained to her that it would be a life time commitment and there lifes would change for ever.

I done everything during my pregnancy to make sure I had a "perfect" child, it does upset me to think that young girls go out clubbing, drinking, smoking and taking drugs and still think that everything will be ok when they have there baby.

Lynne x

Here you go ladies.....
this was sent to me just after my daugter was born I always have a read of it when I have an off day..........

Some Mothers Chosen By God
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit.

This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.

Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?

Somehow, I visualize God hovering over earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation.

As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

"Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron saint, Matthew.

"Forrest, Marjorie, daughter. Patron saint, Cecelia.

"Rudledge, Carrie, twins. Patron saint… give her Gerard, He's used to profanity."

Finally, He passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."

The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," smiles God. "Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."

"But has she patience?" asks the angel.

"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."

"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world and that's not going to be easy."

"But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."

God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness."

The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child who is less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word.' She will never consider a 'step' ordinary."

"When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations."

"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see… ignorance, cruelty, prejudice… and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

"And what about her patron saint" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.

God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."

Written by Erma Bombeck