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***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 21 Jul 2008 22:18

lol kay, you made me laugh

howie knows exactly how strong minded his grandaughter is,
im sure if he reads this he will make a suggestion to her, and shell say yeh gang(thats her name for him) ill try that, an itll be more or less what ive said,
times ive had to ring howie to chat to her when her dad been in work, little madam

sally
he wouldnt bliddy dare say your mam said, id give him one of my looks, (like hes bothered)

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 21 Jul 2008 22:35

Bless you are being a doting Granny that's all!!

Maybe sometimes tho she just wants to "spill" stuff without being told how to handle it?

(((hugs)))

xx

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 21 Jul 2008 22:41

:-)
thanks pink
i appreciate that

i gotta be careful in work i only talk about her wehn asked cos i worry im gona be a grannybore, lol

JustJean

JustJean Report 22 Jul 2008 07:05

My grandson is 27, and I still interfere, lol I can get away with it as an eccentric old woman...funny though he always ask my opinion now, its the training over many years,dont think I wil get away with it he has a new girl friend bit feisty......you sound a lovely gran.

Jean x

Taff

Taff Report 22 Jul 2008 07:58



Aw, Julie*Ann, I remeber 20odd years ago, I had a HUGE bust up with my then Mil, she said some really hurtfull thing to me, like the babys clothes are a "grubby white" ,and your doing this.&
that wrong.Well I told her I was babies mam, not her!
It ended up with both of us in tears, but she continued to have what I considered sly digs at my mothering skills! I chose to ingnore them,and used to go for long walks (to calm myself down).
Now I'me a gran, I find myself doing the same thing as my M.i.l, but not as bluntly as she was to me,I would suggest try to let it slide(if you can) I know it hurts like hell, as you only have your granddaughters best intersest at heart, but as far as the tummy upset goes, I would deffinately insist shes taken to a Dr,.
Grannies reunited!!! Thats what we are here for!!
xxxxxxxxxxx
Ps, I just struck me, could your daughter have a bit of post natal depression?

SallyF

SallyF Report 22 Jul 2008 08:03

My kids and their Grandma are extremely close, always have been. BUT at the moment they are both really irritated by her. They always come home with glowing school reports which they insist on taking to show Grandma. They always come back upset as she will go on and on and on at them about the tiniest bit's in them where the teacher has suggested they should work on something as though the whole report consists of bad things. In fact this year my daughter actually refused to take her's to Grandma.

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 22 Jul 2008 18:36

thanks guys
just wanted to let you know how twinkle toes is today
last night daughter told me shed come out in rash
today the doctor said with they tummy upset and the rash it looks like rheubella,
shes plastered in it all over like a burn her face and head are free of it, but its all over her little arms legs back and chest, she sat on our garden step having lunch with her grandad, and as i touched her skin and said to daughter its terrible, yet it goes when you gently touch it, she tutted,
i went bonkers
id just got in from work and showed concern as she was telling me, and as i commented she tutted,
i told her im sick of it every little thing i say is wrong,
i came in kitchen pottering then twinkle toes came in arms up for cwtch,
which was so sweet of her, shes gorgeous,
things were ok between us, but its like i just gotta shut up and listen to everything,!! all conversations
doc says just keep eye on it till friday, see how it goes and go back for tests

Kay????

Kay???? Report 22 Jul 2008 18:47

JulieAnn,

Either you have to say,,,Look she is your child,,but she is also my grandchild,,,,,,would you rather I take not a blind bit of concern over her or would you rather I put my nose in now and again,,the choice is yours,,,

I dont have many concerns like this,,but I'm thick skinned and dont take any notice,and still carry on interferring,,,,,,,,,but know when I need to step back a bit,,,,,,:}}}

Hope little tot soon feeling better.,

DIZZI

DIZZI Report 22 Jul 2008 18:52

MY LITTLE UN GRANAUGHTER IS FOUR

SHE IS VERY VERY INTELIGENT
ALSO AMAZING VOLCABULARY
IQ 6-8YRS

THEY FORGET SHES IN THE ROOM
I KNOW WHAT THEY SAY,SHE REPEATED IN FRONT OF THEM ONCE
I RAN AWAY,SO UPSET ME

I NEVER QUESTION HER BECAUSE IT WOULD HURT SO MUCH

SallyF

SallyF Report 22 Jul 2008 18:53

Julie Ann I think she was wrong in doing that when you were showing concern. Not good.
Rubella is nasty, so if you'd shown no concern she could have justifiably tutted, but not for doing so.

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 22 Jul 2008 18:54

thanks kay
i know i take a lot to heart but lately ive got madder with it , i cant ignore it any longer
little one is very close to us she always chirpy jabbery and loves kisses , daughter said wen i stormed in house , 'you always say maybe its this maybe its that
i tld her yeh and thats just a suggestion , not a critisism im sick of you having a go at me its uncalled for
maybe shell realise now i not tellin her wot to do shes more than capable

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 22 Jul 2008 18:56

oh dizzi thats a shame i hope they reaslised,
they forget littleones are so bright sometimes
they like little old ladies

DIZZI

DIZZI Report 22 Jul 2008 18:58

IF SIL HOME I DONT GET PAST FRONT DOOR

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 22 Jul 2008 19:01

oh no thats bad,

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 22 Jul 2008 19:07

Sorry Gwen, your people make me steaming mad! S.i.l is happy for you to do childcare so your daughter can work, but doesn't let you in? What a pig!
What are your grandchildren to think if they see you treated like this, and hear so much? Not teaching them respect for you and all you do for them, or respect for anyone. Wish someone would stand up to them and tell them they are being evil taking advantage of you and being so unkind.

Julie, I am sure I will be an interfering old bat by the time I get round to being a grandma, which I hope won't be too long altho son still young, free and single at the mo, but it is only cos we care and I think you should take advantage of a time when your little granddaughter is asleep and you and your daughter can speak together, and say how unhappy you feel with her attitude towards you when you are only trying to help.
Maybe if she feels you are saying a bit too much, she could say a sort of funny codeword, to defuse things and show you she is feeling uncomfortable or something.
Good luck,
Lizxx

Grabagran

Grabagran Report 22 Jul 2008 19:09

I don't think they realise how much they hurt you when they act like that.

Never mind Julie Ann. You know what you do for the wee one is in her best interest. It's hard to take a back seat, but just bite your tongue, and walk away.

Hope the wee one is better soon.

Sally Moonchild

Sally Moonchild Report 22 Jul 2008 19:26

It seems Julie Ann that you are damned if you do, and damned if you don't.......but I am glad you said something......it might make her think.....

Taff

Taff Report 22 Jul 2008 19:35

Julie ann, tell your daughter its your portrait on the welsh flag!!
I hope you little g/daughter is well soon, poor baby, sorry you'll have me blubbering all over your thread next.
And what you are doing is being protective of the little one, the same way I'me sure you were with your daughter.

DIZZI

DIZZI Report 22 Jul 2008 20:10

DOYOU KNOW WHAT I HAVE

IM 59,I HAVE A LARGE PHOTO OF ME AT 3 MONTHS OLD IN A BEAUTIFULL DRESS

I STILL GOT THAT DRESS