General Chat

I can see where your coming from....but not everyone has an account with all their details or true ID's on it....but anyway.....I thought it very childish and too a point scary how one or 2 acted....now as I don't know all the facts and I am sure many don't what is truth or not or who is telling the truth or not....but again when you was in the job how many did you see wrongly accused and the effect it had on their lives and family.....and again how many have suffered by not being to speak up ...again this was not the place..

It would have taken me 30 minutes to get the identities from GR. A resource of one is all that would be needed, along with a telephone. In an official capacity, of course!


And I agree, it is probaly a fruitless exercise, which is why I held my counsel.

But if it wasn't and it later came out that lots of people knew about it and nothing was done......

Hmmmm.

Ian

The thing is Ian..............we will never know....this wasn't the place for it....wheather it was the truth or not.....even if it was a cry for help and you passed it on ..you don't know real names and no disrespect to your former profession but do you really think they would plough the resoucers into a operation on the word of public forum .....they are open to all cranks.. if they thought it was as serious as the tried to intend this would of been reported days ago...

I agree with you 100% Ian!!

Evening Hayley

Yes, I would say you are probably right, and its a matter of supreme indifference to me as I wont be carrying on after next month, but last nights thread was a little more sinister than normal, and this is why...

Some serious allegations were thrown around, and from a professional point of view I was sorely tempted to copy the whole lot and pass it on.

There is no way of knowing the veracity of the allegations, nor the age of the perons involved (although you can guess!)

I found it disturbing to look at the greater implications. A moderator would have binned it, but would it then be hiding someones cry for help......

Ian

Good evening Ian...

I have seen some rows on here just as bad as last nights.
I have been here 2 years and have seen it so many times. You will always get the people who do or don't like one or another I have even seen soe very sick dispicable acts on others sites to do with GR. Still GR carries on .
I Have heard a million times calls for mods and tobe honest I am not in favor of them after all we are all adults.. and as its been said....there are people on here who are friendly with some more than others....so that wouldn't work. ........like GR or Lump this is the way it is...these are our boards we use them ....its what the members make of them..

I think for all the fall outs we have a great community here and the help you get with your reseach is unbeleivable.....

Damm Kitty i was being normal there lolol


Jules hunni your right sad to say and i fear the end may be in sight for chat and gens

xxxxxxxxxxx both

I have to agree with Steve. If there are moderators, and I believe hell will freeze over first, then they have to be Gr staff and not members of this board.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~to Kitty

*superglues Steve's hands together* LOL

I tend to talk to everyone really.................but then these boards are full of interesting people and I don't get out much:( lol

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To be honest it makes not a jot of difference as to the nature of the site

Simply because where you get a diverse collection of adults togeather in one place, over a short perion of time some will be drawn to others who are like minded thus you end up with groups

and once these groups are established lines become drawn between rivals hence there will be tense atmosphere the result a flame war

As to moderators yes a great idea but they must come form the GR staff not members of here

there is loads more i could add but i wont lol

Steve

'Can you imagine the stupidity of being banned from a genealogy board....only in England could this happen.!'

Lindsey, this just about sums it up, lol

Some people would start a fight in an empty room. The psychology of it is quite interesting.

Actually, no, it's not. It's sleep inducing.

Ian

Well somebody needs to hold the golden dump button.
The feeding frenzy that ensues makes very ugly reading.
I find it interesting that those who were so vocal trying to reinstate a member before Christmas are strangely silent ?
Can you imagine the stupidity of being banned from a genealogy board....only in England could this happen.!

Two comments :-

Moderators - hmmm - there are at least a couple of people on here who seem to act as moderators already, certainly not in favour of any member volunteers.

How come all the 'nasty' threads always have loads of replies - if they were left well alone, the perpetrator would not attract the attention they seem to crave...

The answer? I've no idea, but this has been true in the 5+ years I've been a member, so tis my belief it's human nature!

Ian - do you need an assistant - got room for a stowaway? :-)))

If you are banned, does the ban just stop you posting on the boards...............I assume you could still send pm's and the tree/search facilities despite the ban.

Or have I got it wrong?

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Well said Jules

I wasn't online either of the nights these rows were on and don't want to be around for any other rows either.

Gill

..and I am still at a loss as to who the nasty people are/were... I lost the plot after a couple of pages... I used to think everyone was lovely..

naive or what!!

You make me laugh Ian...I do hope you will return when you get back.

I don't know the full stories of any of the childish outbursts this board has seen because I don't get involved, I don't sit n watch n I don't add my two pennies worth in either.....but all I can say is from the snibbets n threads about this behaviour I have seen it appears to me that people enjoy it....dishing it out & getting involved. Alot of members I feel tease those who bite, by adding another thread branching off from an arguement to fuel the fire again n that's when all hell breaks loose.

If people acted their age there wouldn't be a problem.

Also, it appears to me that alot of these 'louder' members probably wouldn't say 'boo to a goose' if these arguments were face to face but as they can hide behind their keyboards they feel more power.

Anyway....that's the opionion of someone who see's things from the ouside in.....not from the inside out.

I'm sure someone will 'pick up' on something I said because thats how children start their fun.

Ian......make sure you say 'Goodbye' before you go... :o)

oooops sorry ian...lol, well try an ave a lovely time, hope its hot where your going..
helen your right who'd pay to see all that, it got to confuzing for me in the end..
xx
hi kitty ~~

I don't think anything will stop people posting nasty comments for their own idea of "fun"

These boards see this every now and again and it always settles again quite quickly.

I think it was a couple of years ago that everything got completely out of hand and GR closed all the boards for a while.

I only used Tips and record Office at the time, so don't know the full story.

The fewer people who respond to the troublemakers, the less impact it has...................but it's so difficult not to get dragged into a row sometimes:(

xx

Arrghhh..its work not holiday lol

If only!

Ian