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My one regret in life is listening to my Sister and going home instead of staying with my Dad at the hospital the night he died. I will never forgive myself for not being there at the end. I feel so so guilty...

sends (((((((((hugs)))))))))))) to all and you did all you could Bluemoon and you wernt ranting ...........must of been awful for you ((((HUG))))) xxxxx

My Dad n I never really got on but now hes gone, oh how I wished I could have told him that I did love him
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I wish my dad hadn't had a stroke, I feel as if he died that day, even though the man I see now four years later, looks like my dad it isn't like him. But it is

my one only wish would be on the night of my daughters accident ..13 years ago july
i wish i had been there , would have been normaly
but never went out that night .
still got her , but she has changed so much
i thankful though she is still alive ,
was very touch and go
...................rosexx.............

Thank's Max + Northenheart

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& sis we wouldnt wont you any other way......honest xx

hi sis

i dont think id change anything

everythign life has thro at me has made me a stronger person and made me who i am today

stray
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guilt is a horried thing to bare, i no.but with time its slowly easing.hope others find that to soon xxhugs to all xx

hug blue moon xx

Blue Moon you cannot let this eat away at you, you are not responsible, when it's your time to go that's it, nobody should every feel guilty, I know it's really hard, but you did the best you could and acted the way anybody probably would, looking back yeah you would have done things different, but thats the path we take and we take it for a reason, I am sure, your mum's at peace and will always be with you, now it's your time to let go of any guilt love max

my mum always suffered with heart burn,

then the night she rang me to say she had it really bad,and was trying to ring the doctor out,but couldn't understand what she had to do,it was an automated message .
so i got straight in the car and when around,when i got there i rang the on call doctor out,(thinking stupidly he wont be happy ,its only heartburn).
My mums house is set back off the road,so i went to the gate to wait for the Doctor,when he arrived (he was only a young lad) we went back to the house,
my mum was slumped over in the chair,my step father is standing in the door way in shock,saying she was OK a minute ago,
i pull her of the chair,onto the floor,i can remember seeing the look on the poor doctor face,it was sheer panic,he shouts to my step father to call an ambulance,
i start doing heart massage while he dose the breathing.i can remember staring into her eyes a seeing the life drain out of them.
anyway to cut a long story short the ambulance arrives the do shock thing (sorry don't know the technical terms) but you know there nothing they can do.
so 1 thing in my passed i wish i could change.
i wish I'd called for an ambulance as soon as my mum rang me.rather than driving to her house first.
i think my sister still holds me responsible
Sorry for ranting on.

I would have researched my family tree whilst my grandparents were still alive!!!!!!!!! Other than that I don't have regrets, just silly mistakes and stubborness but you only learn as you get older!!!

Hiya Pegs hun,


Id have got married later 1st time, got my career going before I had kids too,


Caz xxx

If i could just one thing it would be,being able to stop my dad Dutchy dieing of cancer when he was 59 .still love and miss him 22 years later x

hug for sue xx

If ever you need to talk Sue, please feel free to pm me.

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Thanx Kitty and NH xxx

mum is in a care home and well looked after but as you say its the family who find it hardest. My dad misses her terribly and wishes she could be at home but she just isnt able to be.

luv sue x

im with you there ♥(''*♥*''Leanne''*♥*'')♥ even though im takin time out at the mo & doing something completely different i to have been in the care line of work for many years.ive worked with all kinds of elderly care & people with Alziemers or demenita.they are often happy in their own worlds but at the same time seem 2 have a good story to tell of their past which normaly makes you smile.
As you said kitty its often the familys that suffer the most. hugs to all xx

Aww Leanne..................it's because of carers like you that I am pleased Mum is in a home where the staff have become another family for her.

They know her better than we do now, especially as her language skills have almost gone.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a wonderful part of your patients lives :))))))

xx