General Chat

Hi Carole glad to see you have perked up to-night, glad to see your dad has too. They may do keyhole surgery for them maybe?.
Liz i hope that your visit to the Dr. went well. Talk soon.
David i did my will about 3 years ago when my 40 year old sister was killed in an accident, dragged my o.h. even though he did not want to go. All signed, sealed and locked up in a fire and floodproof box in Solicitors office.Grave expences and graveyard also fixed just songs and headstone and lettering to be arranged now, then i can relax. lol.
Eileen, Claire and anyone that needs hugs or positive thoughts sending them to you all.
Does anyone know how Dutch and YCaz are? has anyone heard from them and Rachel.Talk soon,
Lily.

Hi Lily, and all, there is a thread called 'Dutch and Caz 'or vice versa lol that I put up a while back and that's usually updated by whoever has been in contact with one or the other.

My doctor was running late as usual, having been out on an emergency call, but I don't mind. The only thing was all the magazines had been removed from the surgery also the childrens toy box, apparently a directive from somewhere so that swine flu germs aren't passed on through the items mentioned. There was a chap came in while I was waiting who is involved through his job with arranging the distribution of swine flu jabs etc and it was interesting talking to him. He got it months ago when they weren't sure what strain of flu he had to start with so knows all about it.

Doctor wants me to have more blood tests, as it's six months since the last ones, which I can hardly believe. She is asking for various tests to be done on the blood, I think the hospital will have more blood than I carry, the amount of tests I have had over the years. I will get them done at the same hospital where I have my apptmt on Thursday at the oral health clinic, altho feel a bit of a fraud as the lump has virtually disappeared now from inside my mouth.

I was reading the paper this evening and saw that a support worker who had a long history of mental health problems, took his own life recently. He was only 52 but suffered with anxiety and ocd. He lived only a few miles from here, apparently he wrote some notes for his family, placed his personal belongings neatly into boxes on the kitchen floor and did the deed. How sad that there was not enough help for him to prevent this happening. In the same paper was a report about a local MInd Mental Health centre closing down soon, it was where various mental health sufferers could access different therapy groups etc and they supported one another. Now it is to be closed with most people only being offered care in mainstream services or on an individual basis. It is often the case that people with m.h. issues can't easily relate to ordinary folk and are more comfortable with other sufferers who support each other, and now that lifeline is being taken away from them. Another case of if it ain't broke, why fix it? When will these idiotic people in control of services realise that the changes they propose aren't always for the best.


O.h.'s nephew's Dad's funeral at midday on Weds so I will have to be up early, o.h. doesn't want to go to the 'wake' afterwards, he won't say why but I think that would give him the opportunity to speak to his nephew and offer support at future times if needed, and I would like to offer my support to my friend and her husband who have lost their b.i.l. and brother, they already lost their son, a friend of my lad's when he died alone after an epileptic fit in the night, when staying at his Nan's. Trouble is with only one car on the road now, it will be awkward as a sister is catering for everyone and I am not sure how far away she is, and o.h. has to get to work later on. He wants me to go to the wake after I have taken him home to prepare for work, but that would be about an hour and it seems rude to me, to turn up that late.
Oh well, suppose it will work out somehow...

Lizx

So happy you are feeling better Carole.

Liz, THIS IS MY SUPPORT NETWORK. did not mean to shout, We used to have mental health call to my area once a week, that has now be cut out. We have lost so many services over the last 2 years it is difficult to get any help mental or health wise. Yet the area is growing.

Feeling much better today and more under control. If you were woken through the night with and earth quake, it was only me blasting the solicitor again. Had so much fun, and I did not lose my cool either, so proud of that.

Gail

Afternoon everyone,

Have been reading the latest posts, well, skimming through really, because I have to go out soon.Have an app.with a dermatologist about hair loss.What has HE got to do with it, I wonder?

Carole, I am pleased, like everyone else, that your dad is improving at last.It is terrible to have to just watch a loved one suffering and being helpless to do anything about it.

On a lighter note, I managed to lose my glasses on saturday.They are Varialux ones, quiet expensive.Being rather small with gold rim at top, no frame at bottom, they are difficult to see.Have searched the whole house, they have gone up in smoke.Was trying on some old specs.to take on holiday as spares, put the specs down....??????Had to go to the optician yesterday and have eyes tested for new glasses.Trouble is, they may not be ready on time for the holiday.
The part I am dreading is telling my daughter, she will say something like, "mama, you ARE going senile"....have forgotten some things lately, but a close friend and I both think it is due to abnormal stress.She has the same problem, maybe we BOTH are going senile!

Wishing everyone a peacful, happy day, in spite of health worries and pain.

Eileen x

Greetings - going to say farewell for a week, heading to North Carolina to meet the autism service dogs. They won't be coming home with us yet, but we'll see how the children interact, While we're at it, hope to have a couple days on the beach. So much packing to do now, kids are all high as kites, we've all had to get passports new or renewed, with the new regs going into the US
Have a good week all,
hugs
Mary

Mary, have a lovely break and i hope the dogs and children get on well together.

Eileen, I bet, as soon as you get the new specs home you will find the old ones!! Hope you get on well at the dermatologist and that he has some ideas about the hair loss. Have a good holiday, when do you go and where??

Mary I hope everything goes well with the future family members.

As you know I raise chickens. A few years ago I was asked for a quieter and friendlier than normal rooster. To have them especially this quite they have to be practically hand raised and socialised in the house. I managed to raise a beautiful rooster and at six month my friend came to pick him up. I had to ask what is was for.

It turned out it was for an autistic teenager, who had not spoken a word all his life, He started to crow when the neighbours got some chickens, so mum and dad were over the moon and decided on getting him a rooster. The rooster goes everywhere with them even holidays and shopping. This lovely young man now talks and communicates with most people.

The parents had tried all sorts of pets and no other worked and were ignored. So have promised while I am alive I will supply him a rooster.

Love and hugs

Gail

Have to say I am feeling pretty good tonight. I had my hair coloured today so now as well as lots of dark brown and a few bits of rather lovely silver which is my normal colour, I now have very bright red stripes and streaks of colour and also blonde streaks. Love it and makes me feel great.

Alison

Alison I had bright red, purple and white ones a couple of years ago, it was amazing and also made me feel good. The purple only stayed in a couple of months but the red grabbed in my hair and I still have a few strands left now. So want to have it done again soon.

It really gives you a lift to so something for ourselves. I bet your hair looks great as well.

Gail

Gail, what a lovely story, I didn't know you could raise a quiet rooster.

Alison it sounds great, isn't it strange how a new hair style can make all the difference to the way you feel.

Ann
Glos

Thank you for your hugs Lily.Kind of you to think of me.

Ann, the dermo.was positive about my hair loss, she doesn't think I will go bald, but will continue to lose hair probably until the meds are properly sorted....she wasn't sure what is causing the hair loss though.

Still haven't found my specs....hope the new ones will be ready before we go, am using some owl-like ones for the pc , which make your eyes sort of 'jump out into the room', and equally big ones for reading.

We are going to Meath, near Dublin for two weeks.Grandson Douglas is joining us for the first week, then flying back and hopefully met by ????? in Germany, (can't remember the name of the place) then go off for another week with friends.

Youngest daughter phoned this morning to say they are leaving for Chicago later this afternoon.Driving to Brussels, sleep over, then fly to C. tomorrow.Long journey with two little ones, who are not exactly 'quiet' children, gorgeous though they are.

I am always happiest when everyone is safely home again....

Fiona's son Zachaar and husband Oleg are due back from a 3-week stay in Moscow on sunday...it was too expensive for her to also go, and she was quiet pleased to have a little break for a while.Oleg's mother lives in
Moskow, so can pop along to the little 'datcha'(can't spell this) which is in the middle of nowhere, whenever she wants.I am not at all happy knowing that they catch and eat fish from the (polluted) lake, or eat all the fruit and veg. from the garden, seeing as it wasn't so long ago that Chernobyl 'happened.
Am probably seeing problems where there are none.

Ok, must shower and see if my daughter still wants to go to see and watch a Cuban band that is playing in the center this evening.I don't mind either way.

Take care.

Eileen x

Oh Carole, your poor dad.... I have suffered with Gall stones, and believe me, it is an excruciating pain.

Liz, what is wrong love, you have not
e-mailed me for a while... are you okay?
O.M.G... That is a dreadful story Liz, so so sad. Poor man. Imagine the pain of thinking no one is there for you! Bless him. X

I feel privileged to have this thread... thanks again Carole... to turn to when I feel like weeping over what to others may seem like 'nothing'.
I have had periods in my life when I felt very very alone... not for years and years, but it is a feeling we never forget isn't it?

Eileen, we have not spoken for such a long time have we?
How are you and your lovely family?x

I am off to bed with my book now. *RAGGAMUFFIN ANGEL* by Rita Bradshaw.... lovely working class story of the late 1800's and early 1900's...
SIL brought it for me last time she came.

My son phoned from Egypt this evening, he set up a SKYE account for me before he went.... he used a camera so we could see him. We were so excited, giggling like teenagers, his dad and me. He introduced us to a lad, Mohammad, working in the Cyber cafe, it was so lovely.
He bought me a camera 'thingy' too, but I don't want Mohammad to see me.... fat old biddy that I am. tee hee

Well folks, look after yourselves, Mary have a nice time away, and the rest of you see to your loved ones, and yourselves. I will speak again tomorrow no doubt.
Love to all,
Deanna XXXX

Now I'm off

Hi everyone i hope that you are all well.Liz i hope that to-day went off O.K. for you and O.H..
Carole i hope that your dad is contiuning to improve and that you are more relaxed now.
I was in town to-day getting certs for a girl and got a phone call from a sister to say that another sister was in hospital here in Dublin suspected mini stroke she is 42 years old, another sister had one at the same age 6 years ago.since 1999 (xmas week) this is the second sister to have one and two sisters. brother and a niece and nephew (children of one of the sisters) to have aneurysms 21 years and 27 years.The first sister then aged 32 with two little ones 5years and 3years had a brain stem aneurysm, she is very well now but will never be 100per cent well, brain wise is though.Must go as this is jumping again. Bless. Lily.Talk later.

Hi Everyone

Just popped on here for awhile my daigther has swine flu and i have been staying with her as was here when she started going down with it.

Looking after her and my grand daugther. She is alot better today. Hope i can go home by the weekend. I need a rest.

Please to hear that you and your dad are bit better Carole.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}TO YOU ALL.

Dont know when i will be back on. But hope its soon.

Hazelx

Nudge up. Special hi to Deanna, Hazel (swine flu? is it catching?), Eileen and thistledown. Haven't seen you post for a while, Gran of Oz. Believe holiday went well.
Mary in Canada/US hope things go well with the dogs. I haven't heard of dogs for your boy's condition, although of course we see seeing-eye dogs. Have a nice break south of the border.
Still have not found the thread Dutch & Caz (or Caz and Dutch) yet but will keep looking.
Cheers to any I have forgotten.

Hi Colin, just off to bed as I have to get up earlier than usual today.
will try and nudge the thread you are looking for,

take care all, back to normal times (for me lol) soon I hope

Lizxxxx

Hi Colin, how is yah??

I have a sore throat... no, no, not swine flu, I took two pain killers last night... about 4 this morning actually... and they must have dissolved in my throat and burnt it!
I will learn one day. I have done it before.
So... advice to all you people more intelligent than I.... never take a tablet and then lie down!!

Well, I am off, just dropped in to see you all. I will be back though, look after yourselves everyone.
Love Deanna XXXX

Just to let you all know I have a virus and had to call in sick to work yesterday. I have ear/ head ache, sore throte, feel aching all over. Slept lots yesterday. Just phoned Mum to let her know I won't be going to see Dad and if she is offered a lift from anyone to take it. As usual I listened to how poorly / dizzy she has felt the last few days on her new BP meds. As I said I'm off back to bed, she did say do I know whats wrong with you. By this time I'd had enough so just said a virus.

Dad is being given something which seems to be working re stones. I guess they will pass in his water (which was very brown but now getting better) he is more settled and showing interest in news papers and even took a book off the trolly.

I have read up to date but am too tired to reply. Love to you all and your families xxx

Get well soon, Carole.

I spent all afternoon at the hospital. I got my blood tests done first after some confusion from the receptionist about which area was doing them, four phials of blood taken, surely they can find something in that lot to explain why I feel so tired!
Then I went to the apptmt re the lump in my mouth, told them I nearly cancelled as it has almost gone so wouldn't have the xray as I have had lots over the years and it probably wasn't necessary with the lump going down. The clinic was running late, appt at 2.30pm and I got in about 3.45pm, then he said there was something there so I should have an xray or go to my dentist and ask them to look on some older tooth xrays. Opted to have it done then, and then went back in to see this awful xray pic of my teeth, they looked dreadful, all higgledy piggledy, and the consultant showed me that there was a little pocket of shadow near the base of one back molar so he says he thinks it's an infection but I don't need antibiotics, but to see my dentist. I have to make an apptmt for about three weeks time so there is time for his letter to get to them first! Sounds very odd to me, he said it doesn't look like anything awful but might have been a cyst or abcess and not quite gone, but it wasn't the kind of pain you get with an abcess so I will have to wait and see what the dentist says, not sure I want the tooth out so there is a gap there but will have to see what they say.

Did some errands round and about which was a nuisance as road works on one way to where I wanted to be and a water main has burst elsewhere so had to take a very circuitous route to get where I wanted to be. All in all I was out from 1.30pm to 8pm, so am shattered now.
I had to call on an exworkmate of o.h.'s with a message for him, poor man has been diagnosed with lung cancer from when he worked with asbestos, he is single and lives in the home he once shared with his parents, they are gone now. I don't know if he has brothers and sisters but I felt very sorry for him, he is trying to be independent but looks very frail. He is determined not to accept carers into his home at the mo but will probably have to have them in when he has the chemo as he will be even weaker, poor man. He said he can't believe that this time last year he was running around like a blue-a***d fly, to quote him! Now he needs two walking sticks to get around and can't bend down or do much at all.

Made me feel grateful for what I can still do.

Lizx

Liz, I feel that an abscess would be very painful, I have had them, if that is what it is, leaving you for 3 weeks seems irresponsible to me.

How are you today Carole?
I hope you are feeling good.

I have just said goodbye to my SIL& BIL, and we are now waiting for Lisa and the baby to come. He is such a joy.

I am loving the SKYPE and the camera.... I set mine up last night so I hope it works for me.
It did not work last night though.
Tony did look a little tired last night. It is about 11 o'clock in Egypt by the time he calls so he probably is tired.
Still, a year ago he would not have been as well as he is now. Thank the lord he is doing so well.
Karen has not come to the phone yet.... she was in bed.

How are Dutch and Caz then?
Why are they not here?

Must get ready for our next visitors, so I'm off now.

See you all tomorrow, and... must say that I am much better since I started taking my pills again..... god bless PROZAC.

Love to all,
Deanna XXX