General Chat

Was at my solicitors recently signing my will in front of witnesses.That's some thing I thought I'd never do.

Missing my Mum today, her birthday, would have been 104. Rest well, dear Mum, you so deserve it. . . . . remembering with love,
Mary

Hi Mary, thinking of you xx

My Dad is only allowed water. He has been getting some pain in his abdomin. He can't talk so can't tell us whats going on. No Dr's about to tell us either. He has a good colour and is trying to talk.

Sending lots of thoughts to your Dad Carole, hope they can find the cause of his pain.
Thinking of you today Mary. xx

Ann x

My sister went to see Dad today and asked why he was nil by mouth? She was told the Dr wanted the surgeon to see him, as they think he has a colon infection. Now Dad is on warfrin, so surly they would have to stop that if he needs any internal inspection? Poor Dad. All sorts going through my head, hard to sleep at the moment. What if he needs a colonoscopy? He could die, bleed to death. Looking forward to all this being over.

Hi Carole, maybe it is time you phoned the hospital and asked to speak to the surgeon, and to remind the Ward Sister your Dad is on Warfarin. It must be such a worry for you all and especially for your poor Dad if he can't put into words when is wrong.

Will be thinking about him, and you.

Lizxx


love and hugs to everyone who needs a hug, I have such a busy week and still lots of pms and emails to catch up with.

I am so stressed. I have been awake since 4:45 this morning. I feel sick and the panic is also sending me mad. You know the feeling when your head is going to explode with fear. Been up to the loo about five times this morning. I was just beginning to feel I was getting that under control. I wonder if I should go see my Dr get back on the anti depressants to help me through this. The thought of having to spend more time with Mum is a huge black cloud over me. Thanks for listening xx

Hi Carole, i have just seen your post, i hope that you are feeling a little more relaxed now. I can understand a little of how you are feeling maybe it would do no harm if you could get the G.P. to give you some anti-depressants for awhile even until they do the tests on your dad, like Liz says tell them about the Warfarin as i think that he would need to be off it for a few days at least before they can do anything, i hope that he gets better soon and can have something to eat soon again. Take care and i will be thinking of you both.
Everyone else i send you all positive thoughts and maybe back on later.
Lily.

Carole - I'm sending you gentle thoughts and hugs, is the Dr even aware you went off your pills? you don't have to suffer through massive panic attacks, you deserve some help at the moment. Please look after you, we care. The Dr should already be aware of what meds your Dad is on, and be adjustiung them accordingly, but there's no harm in stressing it to those in charge. FYI where I work, if there is any change in medication or it's dosage, or new med is added or stopped, next-of-kin MUST be notified if the patient is unable to decide for themself.. You are your Dad's advocate, they must inform you, in order to make informed decisions.
Good luck, please be good to yourself.
Hugs
Mary

Just popped in to see how Caroles dad is doing, sending positive thoughts for him .
Thinking of you Mary, it is always a bad time for me as well.
pm'd you Carole.

Caz xx

Dear Carole, please see your doctor. I think this would be a good move for starters. I do know how you feel, you of all people know that. If you need to go back on the pills for a while, then you need to go back on them. No shame. I have to take them every day or I would not get through. I hope your dad is improving. MIL also takes Wharfrin, cannot even have a tooth pulled till she is off them for a week, has to take other stuff and for a week after has injections every day, so doctor has to be asked these questions.

I have been so angry today I have had the shakes, and yes it is to do with Brother again. I have to calm myself down or wont sleep tonight.

Love and hugs

Gail

Carole,they know he is on Warfarin but it won't do them any harm to remind them.

You have to remember that this is everyday stuff for the hospital,it is what they are trained to do.You haven't had to deal with it before so it is strange and frightening and you can't know all the options available to them.

As for spending more time with your mother,just don't.You have had the punishment,you can commit the crime with impunity

You just get on with looking after yourself.Dad's treatment really isn't your problem,they know what they are doing.Caroles health is..

Carole, l really do know how you feel, do you remember a few weeks ago when my mum was in hospital and OH had his heart attack you really were a big help to me when l was going all through these things you mentioned, l really hope things get sorted with your dad and am thinking of you and sending you a gentle {{{{{hug}}}}}
Good morning all, just updating you...........OH is really doing well and he is on day 3 without a cigarette, he is really determined to stop smoking and l'm so proud of him.
Went to see my mum yesterday, bless her heart she doesn't usually get up till late but when we got to my brothers at 9.45am she was already up and had had some toast but was still in her nightie and dressing gown but l told her so what and she said she does get dressed everyday and does her hair as she so glad to be home, she was walking a lot better and was managing without the zimmer frame but just taking it slowly, she told me she had peeled the potatoes and prepared the veg as she likes to do a little each day (well done mum) she did say her toe nails were giving her jip so had a look at them they did need cuttting and she said she couldn't bend to cut them so l told her that wasn't a problem and l would do them, gosh what tough nails in the end bowl of water with fabric softner in,lol, and then easy to cut. All in all had a good day with her except sitting on the M4 for ages on the way home but was worth it.
Hope you all have a good week and will speak to you all soon, xx
PS. l do go on don't l. lol.

Mummo so glad thing are getting better for you. Do not forget to also look after yourself as well.

Carole, as usual Sharron's advice is spot on.

Gail

Carole, i second gail, Sharron has given you excellent advice., please look after yourself, the hospital and staff will look after your dad.

Mummo, so pleased that your Mum is getting better, a determined lady by the sound of it, so well done your Mum.

Gail, I hope you managed to get your anger under control, if not your brother!!! And that you get a good nights sleep.

Ann
Glos xxx

Seems like many of us struggling at the mo, I do hope we can all find light at the end of the tunnel in whatever way suits us best.
I am feeling panicky, have a busy week and just so fed up, bored, tired, stressed etc etc O.h. doesn't help, he had to have a couple of pints of Guiness while he waited for me yesterday, such a small village he couldn't help but go near the pub as he walked round. I know I sort of dumped him while I went off on my quest for the Landgirls etc but it was only 50 minutes. He did hold back from having a further half of g. when I reminded him he was driving, I wasn't feeling up to it, but would have had to if I thought he was not ok to drive but I couldn't relax on the way back and I suppose with two pints and not a lot of food inside him during the day, he was probably over the limit and I should have driven myself. Later on he slumped in the chair asleep but woke up to eat his dinner, then was acting stupid till he went to bed. Stresses me out for the rest of the evening then!

Carole, I do hope your Dad is better soon and they don't have to operate. He doesn't need that to cope with, bless him.

Off to Docs in a while so better get off here and get ready

love to all
Lizxxx

Oh and David, well done for sorting out your will, everyone should do it, saves so much worry for your family in future. Do leave a clear indication where it is tho, o.h.'s young nephew is still searching through his Dad's stuff for a will if he made one, and the funeral is Wednesday so if there were special instructions, it will be too late by the time anything is found.

Hi folks, been off for a couple of days.... and I missed you all.

Thanks to those of you who are not 'cruel' and 'dising' my jokes.

been quite ill really, but don't ask me what was wrong... I could not say.
Much better today, abut now I have to play 'catch up'.
E-mails, washing, hoovering and dusting,which I did this morning.. and tomorrow the washing.
The e-mails take longer as they continue to come as I am answering them!!
Ah well, I am not complaining, I LOVE my e-mails.

I have skimmed through the messages, but too many to read thoroughly.
I hope you are all well, and those of you with troubles, I hope you get well soon.
Carole, sorry about your dad love.... thinking of him, bless him.
Mummo, your mum okay?
Well, I better go before I have an accident..... no, not falling off the chair!! ;-0(
See you all tomorrow.
Lovbe to all,
Deanna XXX

Seen too much unpleasantness following deaths in the past not to leave a will.

My will is in my solicitors vaults.


My brother Ralph is half way through his chemotherapy. He is tired, nauseous and depressed.

I feel better tonight after visiting Dad. He was more alert and trying to talk a lot. Trying to ask questions, which I tried to work out what he was saying. Night mare! Mum is visiting tomorrow a neighbour is taking her. She went with my sister today and they were told Dad has gall stones, by a Dr. ( So forget the urinary tract infection and the colon infection!) Hope they can make up their minds soon. Dad asked for a news paper tonight for the first time.

I'll see how I feel at the end of the week when I have days off work and time to go to the Drs if I need to. But I feel more relaxed tonight.

Thanks to you all for your lovely messages. It really is nice to feel the support from you all.

Mummo I'm so plesed your mum and oh are getting better. And glad you feel I helped you when you needed it.

Gail I know you understand how I feel. It's still fresh your own dad loosing his life. And your feelings of worry over him, and your brothers lack of communication with you ect.xx

I can't mention you all but please know I feel so lucky to have you all there to listen and answer with advice that is given with understanding. xxxx

Pleased to hear that you are feeling better tonight Carole and that your Dad was more alert too. Will they do anything about his gallstones, I believe that is quite painful so that must be what he was complaining about. I do hope they manage to get him sorted out soon.

Take car
Love
Ann