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I,ve stopped doing Christmas ,over the years, tree decoratoins, turkey, killing myself shopping....... last year I announced no more presents and this year not even a card....and I don,t feel one bit guilty.!!!
It was never a nice time as a child and with each person I lost it became harder to bear, so I spend the day my way.I don't expect anyone else to do the same as me. But...it is so much easier to get through, on my own , my way.by choice. I have been known to have a boiled egg for dinner and enjoyed it immensely. So don,t feel you have to oblige anybody. Have a quiet day and then don't feel forced to be happy., and thats Bah Humbug so be it!

im always a good girl i am

dont drink
dont smoke

Thanks everyone ...just had son on phone asking why he needs to come home at weekend!!!

Yes do you know Julie Ann it is all depressing news ...but we should be greatful that we have life ............
Julie Ann I hope you are being good then!!!...lol

it seems al the news is depressing
you dont hear the good stuff, just stuff thats dont do this you mustnt do that
and programe makers should look at their scripts,
its really depressing

my oh keeps texting me from work to check im ok
bless him

Yes jenny I am,

Im glad you put this thread up. I didnt want to say cos i thought id look a misery guts. Im happy for the little ones but the pressure of findiing all the extra money is worrying me so much.

Both my Granparents died at Christmas, one on the 21st, on on the 26th....


But a family situation involving my husbands estranged son and my mother in law is worrying the hell out of me, I feel I am being pushed into a situation I emphatically do not want to be in, infact ive almost put a thread up asking for advice but dont know how to word it.

My love to you and all who are dreading Christmas.

Caz xxx

Julie, hard to feel joyful when there is sorrow around and sad memories, but I hope you will have a pleasant time with your visitors.
Christmas Belle, it is a bit like that for me, in that the family has dwindled and I am not close to my brothers who do their own thing anyway. My o.h. is not one for much company altho I used to get dragged to his father's house for a family Christmas which was always really boring, and all o.h. would do was get drunk so I'd have to drive home. Now I insist on eating loads, slobbing out front of the tv and stuffing my face with choc, and passing the day as simply as poss. I may have my son come round for lunch and an hour so we can open our pressies together, but he isn't keen on spending time with o.h. so won't stay long. O.h's son has gone to live in America, and the other one is 60 miles away and has invited his mother and her partner for the festivities so a quiet time for me, so long as it is peaceful I don't care, the day will soon pass.
Lizx

i started putting some decs up, musical santas and that yesterday, hubby had gone to wrok son was out, grandaughter loves the santas an stuff
i went to get something behind chair and spotted our dogs toy from last year, i sat there crying me eyes out
i not get excited really,
and i should cos we got grandaughter and the kids,
they are grown up now though,
our daughter and her little family will be here over christmas, and dad comes here christmas day, my brother and his partner will be here in the evening with their kids, which i love seeing everyone,

but i feel so down,
we lost mum 14 years ago christmas eve

im so sorry kemp
i will be thinking off you xx

angie x

Janice, wish I could win the lottery - would arrange an open house for anyone who wanted to escape for however long.
Just try and think past the day, maybe arrange something nice to do later in the week if you can.
Enjoy your little granddaughter's first birthday, how I wish I had little ones to make an effort for.

Lizx

I too am dreading christmas this year for personal reasons its just another day to me
Rach

i am its not the same without my dad we put on an act for the kids but its hard very hard

angie x

Yes Kemp...will be thinking of you!
Jen xx

Kemp, I am so sorry you have this to cope with, but I am sure once your young people are over the shock they will rally round and help you through, and make this a Christmas to remember always.
Will be thinking about you.
Lizx

Yes I feel the same .....I,m doing it for the children .......well my youngest really she is 12
and I did it for the other 3 so ...........

But we,ve had such a sh*t year!!! my son 18 is home from uni on Saturday ...and my 21 year old is also coming ............so we dont have to tell them Xmas day that their much loved dad aged62...has cancer ................

PD can only get away for a weekend occasionally.

I do however have a lovely granddaughter born on Christmas Eve - soon to be One.

It Christmas Day which is the nightmare for me. Jx

I feel so bad for those of you that have lost loved ones at this time of year...must be awful!
My situation is different,. sorry don't feel I can say on the boards.
xxx

Christmas is not my favourite time - I go through with it all for others, the best part is the keeping in touch with old friends and new, by sending and receiving cards and messages.
Too many memories around this time, and too many people no longer in my life...

Janice, there is a lot of pressure to make the effort and go with the flow. I would love to be able to go away somewhere warm and secluded and just chill, and forget about the expectations of others, but it isn't possible at the mo. Maybe if I am lucky and have grandchildren in the future, there will be happier Christmases in store for me.
I hope everyone who is dreading it, will find a way to cope.
Lizx

for our family and friends who we feel don't deserve to share our sadness I guess

Why do we feel have to put on this charade? Jx

from the age of ten we didnt have christmas as my dad died boxing day,, but dont feel sorry for me , as a adult i know the world is a better place without him.
im very sorry for those of you where it is a sad time for you it must be awfull, hope your pain eases xxxxx