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Anyone know who Jean is, and whether she has had the op?
Lizx
who still hasn't lost more than the odd 1 lb in weight thanks to 5 boxes of chocs and choccy biscuits from o.h. for Christmas and three lots of chocs for Valentines lol

Hello Jean,

Glad that you have been able to get this off your chest and tell us all how you are feeling.

Only yesterday on television I watched and listened to this lady who, over the last three years has lost 22stst. She was 38st and food was the be all and end all for her.
Her wake up call came one day when she fell over and was just unable to get herself up again.

Is this your wake-up call?

Hoping most sincerely that everything goes well for you whatever YOU decide to do. It is only you that can do the changing.

Norah

Jean,
Just do your best. Don,t try too hard. Lastly, and this will seem cruel, get your mind off yourself and your storm will blow itself out to an acceptable degree.

Very best wishes.

Happy days

Hi Jean, as has been said, amazingly brave and a very big step to take posting like that - and having taken that first step you are now on your way to whichever option you choose. Obviously everyone you know loves you to bits, problem is you don't seem to love yourself at the moment do you. Your family, friends and us on here would not dream of judging you or anyone else on their outside appearance - it's what's inside that makes a person lovely, and you are so obviously lovely as well as very brave indeed. Now whatever you decide, we will all be with you on it. Perhaps you might like to switch threads and hop on to the depression/anxiety one as there are a lot of other very brave people on there who all supoport each other through all sorts of problems - we'd love to see you on that thread - we've got around a thousand postings on it now and it really is very inspirational indeed. Lots of love and big hugs, Ann XXXX

Jean i wish you all the luck in the world im over weight and have to lose it because im diabetic they have diet book over here called sandra bakker and its realy good my hubbys brother and other members have gone on it and lost weight,but its in dutch and docter has told me i cant go on it as its not for diabetics,so im going to try and do it myself and one of my g,sons aunts is having the same op should have had it this week but has the flu
take care and good luck what ever you decide
Love Dutchxx

Just curious as to what happened to Jean and the possibility of gastric banding, so nudging this to the top.

Best wishes

Carol

Liz, thanks for your good wishes.

Carol x

Firsly Jean, hi and secondly, I want to say what an amazingly brave lady you are.

You have overcome so many things and still have the strength of spirit to put your feelings into words, that is incredibly admirable. From someone who wears their heart on their sleeve { me } I respect your post greatly.

As for any advice I would get several opinions then you can make a truly informed choice,


Love and hugs hun, PM anytime,


Caz xxxx

Jean

I hope every thing turns out well if you go ahead with the op! You have lots of love around you and you need to take that all in you cos you deserve it!

best wishes

Kaz x

Jean

you are one brave lady and what ever you decide to do I'm sure your family will stand by you and love you still. apart from that I don't know what else to say, but weigh up the pros and cons.
lots of love, god bless
Lesley x

Jean - l have just seen your 'Thank you' thread, so came looking for this one. Bless you, you are so very brave to tell us all your story.
There's nothing else l can add, everyone has said it - other than 'all the very best to you, you so deserve it'. Think positive and think beautiful!!! Your a treasure:o)))

jude sarf wales :o) xx

Jean, I admire you for having the courage to post such deeply personal feelings. Good on ya girl.

Secondly, you ask how people can love you as you are. I can tell you. It's because they see ALL of you, as a whole person,that is, they love you for who you are, for what is in your heart, in your mind and in your very being. Try to remember that my love, they love you for the same reasons as you love them.

Good luck with the weight loss, you may not know it but I feel you have the inner strength do it. Its not going to be easy, but you CAN do it.

You sound a lovely person, allow yourself to be yourself.

yes lighterlife really does work. ray

I can't add anything to what has already been said but I just wanted to wish you luck in what you choose to do. You are obviously much loved by your family so you must be likeable to them. try to like yourself to recover your self esteem, list your good points, you have them because you would not be so loved by your family if you didn't. And please keep us informed with your decision, we are all here for you.

Ann
Glos

Hi

A friend of ours has just completed her 100 days on the lighterlife diet, she has done fantastic and looks amazing.

Jean

Good luck honey

We are all here to support you what ever you decide to do

Jan x

Hello all

Ray I did a simliar diet called lipotrim. Then it cost me £25.00 and like you it change my life. I loss 3st 4 in 11 weeks and it was hard you need loads of will power. I kept the weight off for over 3 years till a change of life style I am now about a stone over weight.

Hayley xx

Jean I don't know what to say. But wish you well.
Take Care
Germaine
x

Caz, I didn't know you were waiting for this op so wish you lots of luck in getting the go ahead soon, so you can get on with the rest of your life.

Lizx

Hi Jean

I am currently on the waiting list for gastric banding at Hope Hospital (we must live in the same area!). I have around 4 stone to lose and was delighted when the surgeon agreed.

I am a diabetic and this is the reason he has agreed. He said as I am only young (43!!) they weigh up the likely risks and advantages, and my diabetes will probably clear and I should have a good many years ahead of me without it.

I have got to see a dietician and a psychologist first though to make sure I don't have any underlying problems. I am nervous but quite looking forward to it.

If it is agreed you can have the banding, and I get to have mine first, I will keep you informed every step of the way.

Best wishes

Carol

Jean.

Nobody can decide for you, but remember all surgery carries risks. I myslef am having major surgery in 3wks, and feel very frightened, but have been told that anaesthetic nowadays is administered according to the patients own needs.

Your are obviously a very loving person, otherwise you would not have been lucky to have had another chance at love rom what souns like a lovely man. He and your children love you so very much, and accept you for who you are, not what you are. I to saw Charlie on This Morning, and he is back on each week, not sure of which day, as he goes for surgery to remove his excess skin that has been left after his weight loss. He lost about 30 stone.

You will receive pyschological treatment before your op if you ask your doc.

I wish you the very best in whatever you decide to do. You have taken a great big leap forward by expressing your feelings and fears, and remember that you have friends here who are willing to listen to you, and give you support. Please keep us posted.

Regards

Vic xx