General Chat

I think depression is probably one of the most misunderstood illnesses there is.

before I had it, I assumed, quite wrongly, that all you needed to do was make an effort to pull yourself together and get on with it.

Mine came on slowly and I didn't realise ...........until my husband took me to the doctor and I started the treatment............how bad I was.

xx

I dont know what to say Kitty - but your Husband must love you a lot xx

I hope you have found your way. You have always struck me as a happy go lucky person ready for a giggle at the earliest opppertunity.

But now Ive said that I feel as if that may have sounded condasending and I didnt mean it like that.

Depression

Loneliness is …..
The empty feeling that comes from within

Loneliness is ……
The longing to share your thoughts and feelings with someone who’ll listen

Loneliness is ……
Reaching out for open arms to find none there

Loneliness is …..
Standing in a crowed room but feeling alone

Loneliness is …...
Picking up the phone but having no one to call

Loneliness is …...
Knowing there is no one thinking of you

Depression is …..
Feeling alone

Depression is …..
Knowing this will never change

Depression is …..
Knowing your best isn’t good enough

Depression is …..
Knowing nothing you do matters

Depression is …..
Realizing your best days have gone

Depression is …..
Looking forward to the end

Depression is …..
Knowing no one really cares that you are looking forward to the end

Maddie Moo................I am loads better now, but I know that it could come back.

I am an optimist by nature and really love a laugh and to have fun.

I will never forget what it felt like at its worst and that makes me stronger.

You could never be condescending..........I love chatting with you.

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I feel for your SIL, I've had depression 3 times, it always seems to be after some trauma, once after a traumatic separation from (now ex) husband, which was a sudden decision of his. The other twice was a gradual fall into depression after my Mam's heart attacks. I coped fine in the crisis but later developed depression. I would class mine as mostly reactive but I suppose there must be some clinical for the tendancy to be there. I don't really have the sort of deep depression your SIL seems to have, I tend to suffer more physically - lack of eneregy, lack of appitite (therefore weight loss), feeling sick, stomach complaints, Anxiety. How many of you are nodding here?
I'm currently nearly a stone overweight which I refer to as my emergency weight! As I can shed weight very fast when unwell. I am a very positive person most of the time, probably very like Kitty, so when the depression first hit it took me by surprise.
Sorry to meander.
I wish I could advise what would be best for you SIL. Perhaps it's because she has had it so long and always had support she can't find her way out of this. I'm not advocating telling her to pull herself together as we all know that's bollocks, as if anyone wants to feel that way, but perhaps if gradually less was done for her so she had to find the motivation?
Please don't jump on me though if you all think I'm talking out of my bum!
Best wishes to you and your family, it's so hard, I know.
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Helen why would anyone jump on you?

You certainly know a heck of a lot more about this than I do (I dont know anything about this subject) your opinion is just as valid as anyone elses here that knows what they are talking about as you have been there.

I am glad you too are on a good roll at the moment :)

Kitty

I lost count of the times I was told to pull myself together

I wish I could of

It is something I now know never to say, but unless you have been there you dont know

Glad your well

Tomorrow is always another day, and I ahve learn't to take each day as it comes

Good luck

Jan x

I actually agree with you on the motivation issue.

My husband would make me get dressed and take the girls to school...........I hated it and didn't want to, but it worked and soon I was doing it without him nagging.

Without his love and support.................I might still be hiding under the duvet! :)))

Hello all,


I hope this thread opens the door to people suffering and allows them to speak. Family members and many friends of mine have suffered, infact more have than havent,

We need each other to cope with depression, to make each other smile and laugh and cope with adversity,


Love to all,


Caz xxx

When I was in a very dark place, I also had 2 children to bring up on my own, one was just 10 months old. I had to find the motivation to get on with things as I had no choice, I'm not sure how I did it - very much hour to hour - spot on there by the way Kitty - and I hope I never have to do it again, but I think at the time it was the saving of me.
Ta for your comment Maddie, I'm always a bit anxious to put any opinion which someone might get upset by, I couldn't care less about annoying the bullies though, just the people who might be genuinely hurt by a comment of mine.

Hello Caz.....................thank you for that. a really good thread I think.

Helen have a {{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}} for being lovely :)))))))

xx

Thanks Kitty, love,


And thanks for your PM, as you may have seen, been without lecky for 8 hours so didnt reply,made me think when we didnt have it!!


Caz xxxx

((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))
Back to you Kitty. We should start a mutual appreciation society!

On No Please - theres enough of them about already! oops Maddie takes sip of wine... calm..... :)

your poem was lovley Angie.

Lisa x

Yep, thanks Angie, Im going to copy it if ok,


Caz xxx

Am off to bed now - its been an interesting read, this thread - not knowing or understanding about depression myself.

I do wish everyone a good night and even more importantly a good start to the new day tomorrow x

thanks lisa

help yourself caz


angie

Nite Maddie.

your welcome Angie

Lisa xx